Today I did my first sarge with my wingman Philly68. We were at the beach with a camp we were with, and one of our friends (a practiced PUA) was helping us get approaches down and showing us how to sarge. We finally got the balls to try an approach, so we decided that our opener would be asking who looked better with which sunglasses (i have blue and black checkered RayBans and he has black and white).

We approached an HB9 and an HB7. I started with asking about the glasses after we had pulled them aside for their opinions. We stumbled with the opener, creating an awkward situation with the HBs. We tried to make small talk, but they were trying to detach after every answer. Finally, after trying some tactics to interest them, we just decided to end it and figure out what we did wrong.

I had started to interest the HB7, so Philly thought I was sarging her, which was our first mistake, along with the awkwardness of the opener. Finally, we weren't prepared for what came next, only the approach.

So any critiques and help is much appreciated because we're just beginners.

With what little you seem to have planned out, it sounds good. You just need to do it more. It all depends on the attitude. If you come in smiling and happy then people usually take to you better because you seem to offer them something better than their own miserable lives.

Everyone's got problems, people don't want to hear yours.

Openers arent really that important though. The words that is, the attitude is what counts. I go sarging and talk to a bunch of girls and just say random funny things that fit into whatever situation. One time I had a bunch of fudge in a bag and I told them I was packing fudge. It really doesn't matter, what matters is that you enter a set and enliven the mood.

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Thanks a lot Xiaxxio! I'll make sure to keep that in mind next time I go out.

First times are always dire. You have to admit to yourself that there is a pain period and just crack on with it and work through it until things start to go smoother.

I see these as possible learning points:

Be clearer with your wingman in advance about what the goal of the interaction should be: e.g. body language, open, neg, DHV (1,2,3?), eject

Have some way of indicating to him which one is your target: eg. "What's your favourite T?" then say the color of the top the girl is wearing.

Stay as long as you can even if you're uncomfortable. You will learn more things quicker.

First few months of sarging should be about focusing on the only things you have 100% control over. This will keep you motivated and force you to work on what eventually evolves into 'inner game'. Consider these as appropriate starting points that you have direct influence:
- The number of opens you make in an evening/day
- Your voice: The tone, the volume, and the speed
- Your Body Language: Smile, good posture, don't lean in, be expressive
- The opener you use, the neg (where applicable), and the DHVs

Set goals for each one and don't go home until you complete them. Even if it's a social suicide night, you will feel spectacular knowing that you've set the goals and hit them.

Overall: You did good to take the first step, but you need to organise yourself and put a little focus into it. Congratulations. You've officially done more to make yourself happy and complete than 90% of men on the planet everywhere, and THAT is something to be proud of!