| Well, first of all, I'm your textbook AFC, so I'm quite bad at reading signals. I only get by because I look quite good (6'4", decent shape, nice face), not exactly Brad Pitt but easily making top 10% in any bar.
Anyway, last Saturday I was out with a group of friends in a club. I danced for half an hour or so because I love me some rave music, my friends didn't. Then I noticed three chicks a couple of yards away from us, decent looking. Two were dancing, one was seated. Seeing my chance, I look at the seated one and wait for her to look at me. Once she does, I smile and she smiles back.
I walk over, say "Hey, what's up?" (yeah, I know, I suck), she shakes my hand and tells me her name, so I introduce myself too. Some general questions follow, what you do for a living etc (both of us are unemployed and looking for work). She asks me where's my girlfriend, which I find a bit strange, but I say I don't have one. General chit-chat follows. I lean towards her and put my hand on her shoulder while I talk, she leans towards me to hear me better. Since she doesn't seem to mind, I keep my fingers lightly touching her thigh for most of the time (she was sitting next to a table, and I was resting my hand on it). I run out of questions at one point, but the silence only lasts for a couple of seconds because she asks me something, and I could see on her face that she was trying to think of something to say. Next silence that comes up, I break by asking for her number, and I get it. I'm guessing that I'm not supposed to get the number till the end, but I just couldn't think of anything else to say.
I learn that she usually goes out in the local pothead cafe, so I ask her if she smokes pot. She says she doesn't, and I'm a bit disappointed because I'm a pothead and was thinking of asking her to go outside for a smoke with me. She asks why I'm asking, I say I'm just wondering and grin. Anyway, the things proceed as before, but I don't extract because now it's raining cats and dogs outside and I parked a mile away. A good song comes up, she gets up to dance, so I get back to dancing too. I'm facing her as I dance, but she's turning her side to me (WTF?!). The song ends, we go back to talking. No brilliant pieces of conversation from either of us, but the vibe is decent.
We go on like this for maybe two hours, and her friends are starting to look a bit agitated (none of my friends moved in on them). They talk about something, then she says to me she has to go pick up a relative at another bar and then head home, it's ~1AM at that time. She doesn't exactly rush to leave, so we talk for a couple more minutes before she does. I ask her if she's got plans tomorrow, she says that she has a relative coming from Austria, and has to be at home to greet her and stuff. I tell her I'll ring her Monday for a cup of coffee.
I don't call or text until Monday evening. When I do call, at around 6:30PM, she answers, but doesn't appear to hear me (I hear her just fine). I call two more times, no answer. I send her a text, saying it's me, there seems to be a problem with reception, and if she's up for a couple of drinks at 8. Ten or so minutes later she replies via text that she's out of town with her relative, she didn't hear me at all, and she's driving so she couldn't answer the two subsequent calls. She says she'll see if she can go out with me during this week, and will contact me. I reply that it works for me and we'll talk soon.
OK, now my real problem is interpreting WTF is up with that text from her? To me it looks like a clear-cut case of getting blown off. I don't recall much background noise when I called her, so I think she may have been lying about being in a car. That, and she hung up pretty quick when I called her, she said hello, I said "hey, it's me", she said hello two more times and then hung up. People usually wait a bit longer than that, I think.
Anyway, I was getting some pretty good signals at the club, except for the dancing bit, and now I'm getting a completely opposite vibe from her text. If she wanted to go out with me, she would've *made* room in her schedule for it next day, not just postponed it indefinitely.
So, do I call, do I wait for her to call, or do I just write her off? Today's Tuesday, so I'm obviously not calling now, but should I call at all or just leave the ball in her court? Plenty of fish left if she doesn't call, but it'd be a shame not to get with her if there's a chance.
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