Hey guys, just got back from a 3 day musical festival. Besides being crazy and fun, there were lots of chicks to try out some game on. Unfortunately, I guess I have a bad problem of ignoring girls once things get going a bit...

Example: During the day, I'm standing back from the stage, as it's mad hot (outside stage) and I'm not all that into the band playing. As I smoke a cig, my exact type of girl walks over (very cute but badass/punkish) and asks if I have a light. I give her one, joke about it being a piece of shit but that if she's got any luck maybe it'll work for her.

Once she's done, she continues standing next to me, so I start fluffing/joking around a bit with her about the festival in general/her/that kinda stuff, until I see that look in her eyes (the "I like you!" look ) So, seeing as how things are going pretty well, I do the only logical thing I can think of: I stop talking to her as if the conversation is over and I'm not interested, and start to dance until she walks away. Smoooooth.

Similar interactions happened a lot over 3 days...I finally realized that I do a good job of attracting my type of chick without doing much...and also do a good job of ignoring the girl/feeling like I don't know where to take it. While I was pretty messed up most of the time, the main issue seems to be that I feel like I don't know what to do to escalate things in this type of situation.

In this case I could have just danced with her for a bit, been fun and playful, etc., but I'm curious to know how I should move forward from this point in other interactions. Sorry for the long post but it's becoming an annoying issue and I'd like some feedback. Thanks y'all!

I'm surprised that so many people have viewed this but none have replied? Any feedback is appreciated, right?

It seems that your sticking point is not wanting to put yourself out there in fear of rejection. Just think about it logically - would you rather wonder what could've happened with numerous HB's and regret it, OR get rejected/accepted, move on, save yourself the stress and learn from your actions?
For starters, you should run with what you're good at and what you're most confident with. If you're a funny guy, be funny. If you're a passionate guy, be passionate. But do it in a way which incorporates some sort of bond between the two of you.
For example, for 'funny' I like to use "could you not have made more of an effort when you came out? I'm almost embarrassed to be seen with you ". Another one with a clear indicator of attraction is "you look like you're having an awful time. Your face, quite frankly, looks appauling! Could you use a hug?".
Both of those use negs, and both should be said with an obvious hint of humour, otherwise you're going to be receiving a 'free drink in the face' or an 'overly-friendly pat on the face'.

Overall, I'd just say to find out what works for you and just be more confident and adventurous with that. Hope that helps!




phoenix;!

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