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Evening gents! I am recently returned to PUA after a year of college and some philosophical/personal issues. Bear with me on this one if you will, I would appreciate some advise and mayhaps you could learn from my mistakes as well=)
So me and my frequent wingman was out sarging this tuesday for the first time in AGES and we decided hit a local venue known for it's breezy SPAM and fine selection of HB:s. After drinking and socializing with a couple o'mateys we approached a set of HB:s who were chilling barside and, although shaky at first, managed to open them without too much difficulty.
I quickly locked onto a HB 8-9 (Freckles henceforth) and got my usual banter goin' (Which basically is C&F with just a mild hint of C and a healthy dose of F). Knowing that my Achilles heel is kino escalation I decided to deploy an early Claw ("Oh, you're just adorable, I'm keeping you *CLAW*", Mad props to Stormy's old thread on Inner Game for extensive Claw usage). After 15 mins or so I felt all was going well but I regrettably failed to isolate her due to a slight misunderstading with my wing and we decided to eject.
Couple of hours later, after opening a few other sets with little or no success we were prepared to leave the venue but at the last minute we spotted Freckles with a couple of friends hovering near the exit. We quickly walked up to them a struck up a new conversation and this time my wing totally had my back and before long I was alone with Freckles.
THIS IS WHERE IT GETS WEIRD THOUGH: After a few minutes of building attraction I was pushing madly for a kiss close but since I'm loathe to use canned routines I was making stuff up as I went. BUT she kept refusing me, even gave me the cheek, while still giving off massive IOI:s i.e. constantly touching her hair, placing her hands on my hips and yadda yadda.
This greatly confused me: Did I not build enough comfort? (She also asked me for my age since I sport somewhat young looks, as it turned out she was 25 while I just turned 21 myself. This seemingly did not bother her so I didn't pay it much attention.) Should I have a backup canned routine for these instances perhaps? Like a kissing gambit?
Anyway closing time was nigh and I walked her home since it turned out we live in adjoining neighbourhoods. I stopped outside her door and since I was getting rather tired of the Hot n' Cold I was preparing to head home.
But then, out of the blue: she went "Where are you going?" And promptly marched into her apartment. Perplexed, I decided not to ask any questions and simply followed. Once inside she headed almost straight for the bedroom and stripped down to her bra and thong(!) whilst entertaining some minor chatting. Starting to think things had taken a turn for the better I quickly followed suit (not wearing a bra though, mind you) and we got into bed. But just as I thought things were heating up she suddenly went "I want to have sex with you, but I'm not going to have sex with you" And I went DO'H! inwardly.
Was this massive LMR which I, in my confusion, had failed to anticipate? Since I had seemingly surrendered the control over the interaction to her when I entered her apartment I had no thoughts about LMR.
She hinted that she would like to see me again and I ended up spending the night (just sleeping though, mind you) anyway, and also collected her number before leaving the following morning.
This entire encounter has me rather baffled and I'm still unsure if I should push for a day2, there was major HOTNESS but I would hate to lose momentum which I've spent time carefully cultivating.
Lesson learned: Don't drink your game away.
Jackson
PS. is the +/++ convention as introduced in stickied post by Chief obsolete? I couldn't fail to notice that no recent posts whatsoever had any of those percious plus signs attached.)
CHAT