Last night I was at an Offspring/311 concert and I asked a girl to dance. She didn't want me to have her number but she put her name in my phone. It sounded hokey but sure enough it lead to her on facebook, I suppose you'd call this a Facebook closer, amirite?
Anyhow, the convo went like this.

[23:13] Me: Oh geese, harry potter? –referring to her facebook status
[23:13] Her: umm harry potter is awesome!!
[23:13] Me: lol
[23:14] Me: different strokes for different folks
[23:15] Her: so you tracked me down
[23:15] Her: didn't think you would haha
[23:15] Me: oh yeah?
[23:15] Me: why's that?
[23:16] Her: idk just..not many people actually keep up on that
[23:17] Me: well, I saw your name in my phone when I was trying to find "joshua" and I figured what the hell
[23:17] Her: haha with my last name usually people think it's a fake name
[23:18] Me: it is kind of a long shot lol
[23:18] Her: haha yeah it's strange
[23:20] Me: so how's your day been?
[23:20] Her: fine, had to babysit all day and then i watched harry potter...haha
[23:20] Her: you?
[23:21] Me: Not too bad, I slept till noon and worked at 3. It went pretty quick, but I was hyper. I think I was still buzzing from the concert, I almost died in the mosh pit lol
[23:21] Her: haha i'm glad i wasn't in that
[23:21] Me: oh man
[23:21] Me: it was so surreal
[23:22] Me: people would fall and every time 5 guys or so would block everyone else and help him up
[23:22] Me: I fell and almost hit my head on the guard rail
[23:23] Her: yikes..i'm too tiny to be stuck in that
[23:24] Me: Yeah, it was rough. People don't generally give a shit who you are if you're moshing. Not that I know, last night was my first go at it. I loved it.
[23:25] Me: so is babysitting your only job?
[23:25] Her: no i work at a bakery in ******
[23:26] Me: oh that's sweet, how do you like that?
[23:26] Her: it's pretty good, i'm only here until the end of august, then i'll be moving to ******. so it's not bad.
[23:28] Me: Very cool. I'm guessing you're getting some major bank in scholarships right?
[23:29] Her: actually no
[23:29] Her: haha
[23:29] Me: wow that's surprising. How are you paying for it?
[23:30] Her: my parents are very generous
[23:31] Me: Yeah, same with me. I just got the state promise money and the rest is on them.
[23:31] Her: so why did you ask me to dance? haha still confused by that.
[23:31] Me: I wanted to dance
[23:32] Me: and you looked like a fun person to do so with
[23:32] Me: was kind of a shot in the dark but taking chances is pretty fun
[23:33] Me: did you enjoy yourself?
[23:34] Her: yes
[23:34] Her: haha i've never had a guy ask me to dance though
[23:35] Me: wow
[23:35] Me: that's surprising
[23:35] Her: why?
[23:36] Me: you're pretty cute, I don't see any reason not to dance with you, unless you bite. But you didn't look like you did at the time.
[23:36] Her: haha
[23:36] Her: well i've had guys come up to me but just never asked me to dance
[23:37] Me: well, alot of guys are too embarrassed to dance, unless they know what they're doing
[23:37] Me: so that might explain it
[23:37] Me: I never used to dance up until recently
[23:37] Her: oh yeah i have no idea how to dance
[23:37] Her: i probly look soo dumb but i don't really care
[23:37] Her: i just do whatever
[23:37] Her: haha
[23:38] Me: I don't think anyone really cares at a big concert like that
[23:41] Me: So lemme ask you one now. Why the name and no number last night?
[23:43] Her: i go to a lott of concerts and i get at least two guys at every one asking for my number
[23:43] Her: i used to give it out
[23:43] Her: until i realized these guys were being super annoying and texting me everyday
[23:43] Her: and it got out of hand
[23:43] Her: haha
[23:43] Her: not to say you're like that
[23:43] Her: i just don't anymore
[23:44] Me: eww
[23:44] Me: clingy >.>
[23:45] Me: Well I understand completely now lol
[23:45] Her: yeah so sorry if that was weird
[23:45] Her: this other 24 year old last night asked me for my number
[23:45] Her: i told him no too..i feel bad but idk i just don't
[23:46] Me: Its not a bad way to go about things really
[23:49] Me: I need to get going soon, but before I go, would you be down to get a cup of coffee at some point in the future?
[23:50] Her: umm maybe
[23:50] Her: it's a possibility
[23:53] Me: very vague of you
[23:53] Me: lol
[23:53] Me: but that's quite alright, leaves it up in the air. Maybe I'll see you on tomorrow?
[23:54] Her: okay
[23:54] Me: alright, good night!
[23:54] Her: Good night


I know its not much to go by, but how am I doing?

Oh geese, you're not doing half bad. You should have negged the shit out of her for being too insecure to dance in a concert, for screwing up that one perfect time a guy finally asked her to dance. It was her first time and she'll never get that back. Good job ending on coffee, that's a low commitment date that every girl should be comfortable with. For a suggestion, give her a time and a day when to meet you. If she's interested, but can't make it, she'll give you an alternate time. She's kind of hemming and hawing, so you probably need one more chat to build comfort. You'll need to be more interesting, more stylish. Ask her a couple silly questions and a couple serious, romantic questions. Is she single? How long ago was her last relationship? That will put her in the correct mindframe, or angle towards sex a little if that's all you want. Open it up with a joke, "I'm a gigolo with a heart of gold".

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Thanks minsok, for the great advice.