| This FR is basically a big fail, but I wanted to post anyway, as I said I'd be posting all my attmepts in the field in a previous post.
I was hoping to get a friend to go out with me on sat night, but that fell through. So, I decided to try my hand at solo sarging.
I had a good bit of anxiety about this, and I actually procrastinated a bit before I went out. But, I made myself do it.
Place number one was a bar that does karaoke on sat nights. Not a big tourist trap, more of a locals place. Turns out a little TOO local.
I walk in, and right away walk up to the bar like I own the place. My instinct was to walk in slowly, and look around, but IMO that only makes you look nervous and lost, so I walked through the door and walked with purpose to the bar. I ordered my drink, and scanned the room.
D'OH! Mostly older people, like 40's and 50's. Only a few cute girls, and they were very cozy with guys already.
So my beer comes, I look to my right, a woman in her late 50's with her husband, I look to my left, a HB 3.5 in her mid to late 30's.
Oh shit, I firure what the hell.
So I turn to her and say "Hi! so what are you singing tonight?"
Her: Oh no! I'm not singing.
Me: hey, you can't come into a karaoke bar and not sing!
Her: well we didn't know this was a karaoke bar when we came in
At this point I realize she's with a freind, a girl to her left, a HB6 around the same age (damn, why wasn't I sitting next to HER? She was actually kinda hot in a MILF way)
So I engage the friend also:
How about you, are YOU going to sing?
She went on to say no, and then the three of us talked about singing, and the bar, and where they were from. They also offered to be my cheering section when I went up to sing.
This didn't really go anywhere, as I didn't really want it to. I was more interested in opening, and just being able to have a conversation with strangers. I really wasn't trying to pick them up, it was more about just getting out of my comfort zone.
So we talked for a while longer, then I finished my drink after singing my second song, then I left. "I'm going to go meet up with some friends down the street, but it was great talking to you".
I went to another place down the street that usually has a younger crowd. I got there, and it did, but was kind of a sausage fest. LOTS of guys.
I went up to the bar anyway, and ordered a drink. I saw a HB7 talking with a guy, with an empty stool next to her.
Me: Hey, are you sitting here?
HB7: Nope, it's all yours
Me: thanks!
I sit down, and turn to her
me: so how are you two doing tonight?
Her: great! How about you!
Me: oh I'm great, it's a sat night in newport, how could I NOT be doing great!
Her: good point!
Me: so are you from here?
Her: No, we're actually from providence, but I used to live here
This went on for a little while like this, we talked about newport and why she left, and providence. I tried to engage the BF too, to try to get the conversation going, but he really didn't seem too friendly. Finally,l another friend of thiers came over, and they turned thier attention to her.
I was feeling a bit rejected at that point, but what I should of done I think was say something like :Hey, why don't you introduce me to your friend?
At that point though, I just looked around the bar, and really didn't see any open sets. Only one I saw was two girls sitting on a love seat, but it was in the area with all lounge chairs and love seats, and there weren't any other available, so I thought I'd look awkward if I had just went over and stood above them.
Any advice for that situation? It was a HB7 and 8, I really would have liked to try and open them.
Once I realized there werent any good sets, I finished my beer and left. At that point it was close to midnight, so I just went home. I oculdn't think of any other places that were within walking distance that didn't charge cover, so I went home.
That was a big mistake I made, waiting to long to go out. I was trying to not spend much money, so I wanted to just hit places with no cover. Unfortunately this is tourist season here, so all of the places worth going are charging cover. If I had gotten out before ten, I could have gotten to them early and got in for free.
One thing I have to say is that while I didn't have great luck, going out alone weasn't as bad as I thought it would be. My big hurdle with this is that I'm not very outgoing, so I like to go out with a group to remeain in my comfort zone - ie if I bring my friends, I don't need to make any new ones.
Going out alone though, I HAVE to be outgoing to make new friends, because I don't want to be THAT GUY that just hangs out at the bar or the edge of the dance floor alone looking creepy.
As bad as this FR is, it's actuallyencouraging to me becasue I took the step and just DID IT.
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