So today was my first day in the field. I decided I would try and use some of the few techniques I’ve picked up reading on the forums so far, but more importantly that I would approach some women and stop being a wuss. My two approaches for the day went as such—

1. My waitress at lunch: I was putting out good confidence, making eye contact, and trying to be a little cocky. I avoided the usual AFC topics, established value, and kept her smiling/laughing. My buddy I was having lunch with agreed that I was in and I should # close. We had both missed the wedding ring, so that one was a crash and burn. I’m not willing to go after somebody’s wife anyway so I’m glad it did.

2. The bartender: I used the above techniques and this time added negs, effective body language, and even the pick a number 1-10 routine from the mystery method. I got good results from the negs and the 1-10 routine, which was encouraging. I had a few IOIs and again my buddy agreed that I was in and it was time to # close. She gave me the “I have a boyfriend excuse”, so, crash and burn again. She may have been telling the truth, I’ll never know.

My question is this. It occurred to me after the fact that women go to bars to be approached by men, but employees go there to make money. Am I making things more difficult on myself by going after wait staff and bartenders who may just not want to be approached, as opposed to patrons who likely do? I know the reason I approached employees is because they have to come start the conversation with me and that eliminates any approach anxiety and allows me to be confident more easily. I suppose that’s weak and a bit of an AFC move. Any comments are appreciated.

shit dude. if those were ur first 2 approaches ever and u had the balls to go for a number close, big ups! she has a bf? "well u can bring him along, if that makes u happy. why? does he make u happy?" (credit unknonwn sorry).

but bf destroyer is some pretty advanced shit. nice for going that far in ur first field experience

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