I was supposed to be meeting up with some friends who were coming out later (after midnight), but I went to the city earlier and popped into one of my usual places where I know a lot of regulars and people who work there. I brought my stickers along as usual for name-tag purposes... for those who don't know what I'm talking about, refer to the below thread. Been doing this for about five weeks now, and have no reason to stop, due to usually getting good results in terms of opening.
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So almost straight away I run into a fairly good friend of mine (girl), who's with some other girls. I could tell one of them was really into me (who I had actually met before on another night), although I wasn't into her quite as much. Nevertheless I k-closed when we were sitting down and talking later on, since she kept leaning in and triangular-gazing, which was a bit of a confidence booster for the night, but didn't bother getting her number or anything. They soon left, but I planned to meet up with my female friend a bit later on.
So I continued working the venue by entering various sets and giving out name-tags to guys and HBs alike, very mindful of stuff like social proof and body language, but I noticed I was befriending everyone without generating much attraction, failing to properly hook and having to deal with AMOGs who hung around and interrupted from every direction. It's like I started feeling alpha with high-energy, but didn't know how to continue that and slipped into beta mode.
There was one chick who vacantly stared behind me when I talked to her, but I jokingly clicked my fingers and said "hey, over here" which seemed to get her attention. Then for some reason she tells me she thinks the bartender is hot, how she already got his number and says "sex for (HBs name) tonight!". Which threw me off a bit mentally, but I held my positive frame and quickly moved on from her.
A little later on, using my phone a little further down the same street, out of sheer luck run into a couple of girls I met at the previous place, playing it cool and sitting down beside them almost immediately, effectively locking me into the set, while being positive (smiling and treating them like old friends) and talking in a situational manner to comfort-build and show personality instead of hovering above them, which could have blown me out straight away. I already had my target picked, who was slim, cute and seemed like a cool, down-to-Earth person; luckily her friend was already engaged by another guy I didn't know.
During our chat she mentions that she broke up with her boyfriend the week before, which I assume is an IOI. Soon they decide (although I probably should have been first to leave), and I attempt to number close by saying "we should catch up another time", and she tells me it's too soon for her to start seeing anyone else. Could I have gotten around this somehow? Maybe I seemed too eager and direct?
I then caught up with my female friend from earlier, along with another friend, and together we head to a different venue. On the balcony area I meet a chick and give her a name-tag, and she introduces me to her friend, who seems keen when we start chatting, especially when I DHV by teaching her some dance moves, so I decide to see how far I can take this interaction. My friends leave, but their group of friends then bounce to another venue and I join them (since they asked me to come). my mistake was not getting anyone's number. At the other place we hit the d-floor, I k-close my target without too much trouble, but suddenly the girls decide to leave me and the other guys... and never return. The guys didn't have their numbers either, leading me to believe they also met on the same night.
On the way out, just chilling outside after working at a nearby place earlier that night, I run into another female friend of mine and by using the name-tags, again I was considered a cool guy and easily welcomed into the group to meet some of her acquaintances that were hovering around. At this stage I was getting pretty tired so I'd already turned off the game part of my brain.
I guess one of my biggest problems here, looking back at the initial sarging at the pub, was figuring out how to hook, isolate and build attraction when you're surrounded by sets you've already opened, without feeling like you're bouncing between them and trying to hard to screen for the most receptive HBs. Especially when I can already quickly social proof and raise my value, not just through peacocking but always appearing as an approachable, value-giving social connector with a better understanding of social dynamics as an experienced PUA.
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