This is my first field report actually testing out some of the rapport building concepts of nlp. I gotta say it really helped. There were ups and downs. The night ended on a shitty note which had nothing to do with nlp of course. I'd advise guys to take a look at some of the stuff. Here it goes:

Went to a semiformal party with some young girls about 16+. Unfortunately their parents were there. I don't usually go for young girls but I'm very recently 20 so I figure it's ok if they're say 17. I won't do anything I'll just make friends etc. Felt this would be a great place to do a little nlp experiments and see what happens. I was asked to usher this party with a couple friends so I knew that I would immediately meet almost every guest. First guest to arrive was a HB8 with her dad. Told the other usher to take it cuz I was an ass. That's the only explanation I can think of and mistake number one .

Met a couple other guests. In the interim I began doing some nlp experiments. Began mirroring people close by me. Let's say through perhaps 5 different body positions. Then I'd try to lead them to another. It worked once in the 5 people I tried it with. There's definitely something there. As people came in I'd also adopt their body language and try to observe breathing etc. Basically I tried pacing people before I spoke to them and when I spoke to them I would attempt to lead them so they'd agree with me easily. This was partly because we had lost the seating arrangement and we needed guests to either stand around or be ready to be moved around.
I gotta say here that nlp is really tough when you have all these ideas floating in your head. It's like you're constantly thinking "damn I forgot to match voice tone or damn I forgot to match body language or damn I forgot to look at eye movements". Guess it will come with practice.

Now to the more seductive use I put nlp to. Talking to a HB6 who was helping me out with the ushering. Kept matching body language but I realised that matching body language and having a conversation is tough when you have to think of all these different things. Anyway paced her a bit and lead her from folded arms and crossed legs to open body posture. Finally a nice success. Didn't have interest in kiss closing her though. She's too religious for me

Next did a little pacing and leading with another HB6. There was a karaoke part to the night. Asked her what she was going to sing. Began pacing body language again. Leading didn't work to well. Got her a little more open though. Then I leaned in, she leaned in, I leaned out to give a shout to someone else and she kept the lean in. Awesome ! Said I'd meet her later on again and left. Didn't get to see her though. I probably wouldn't have closed her because I only close 7s and up.

Talking to another girl HB7, pacing her but everytime I mirror she changes her body language. I figure something's wrong so I break rapport by turning my back to her and talking to someone else. When I turn back and talk to her again she's more open. Again I had to try to make the cross arms open. Didn't lead though so that was a waste.
All in all it was a lousy night but I learned some about mirroring and callibrating. I need much more practice on this aspect though.

Now to the part of the story that fucked with me. To the guys who wanted to learn from this you may not learn a lot from the next little story, as it has nothing to do with seduction.

So some of my friends were at the party as well. I didn't hang out with them much because I had a job to do. Now these guys have been my friends for years. They knew me when I was living a shitty AFC life. I've made leaps of change since then. I'm more confident, more sure of myself and more happy than I ever was. I thought they all saw that and recognised it and respected me for it. Halfway through the night I'm done with my duties and I go to talk to them. They say they have to leave. I say stick around a little longer let's get this party started (it was pretty lame). They say no they're on a tight schedule. I ask them what's so important and they avoid me. I go talk to a couple people. Another friend asks me why I'm not going with my friends. I say why? and he says cuz they're going to hang out somewhere else. This is strange so I ask them again how come they're leaving and they admit that they're going to hang out with a friend of mine who called to arrange for them to hang out. Why were they avoiding my questions so badly and telling others. I'm guessing they blatantly didn't want me there. The guys I knew for over 7 years. People I thought were my friends. So tonight I say fuck them and I'm going to use a change of state principle in nlp right now then I'll finish this up. I want to see if it will work because I'm really fucking pissed that I wasted my life behind these so called friends of mine for the last 7 fucking years...

Just knocked out some pushups and looked outside for a little while. Got myself into a better state. I don't feel that thick burning anger and frustration anymore. I'm going to move on with my life and with the people that really matter. Oh and I'm going to look for new friends. For those who read this entire report kudos to you! I hope you picked up on some aspect that you may learn from or this has sparked an interest in learning nlp for you or for pickup or for life.

If you guys have advice I'd welcome it. I gotta take some new steps and frankly I'm a little intimidated.

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Fox