Hello, peeps. Just got home from a lil' road trip. Big event, good SPAM in the club. I'm an 8, so to say, with good body language and "that little something". So it's not a huge surprise that girls come near me on the dance floor and do their "peacocking" dance when they catch a glimpse of me looking at them.

Problem is, I'm out of a one-and-a-half years long closed relationship (or as I used to call it, relationshit), and I'm rusty as a undiscovered fossil. See, 6 different girls posted themselves in front of me, exposing necks, touching their hair, one was even tossing it like there was no tomorrow. Funny part is, two of them were together, they each "tried their shot" at me. So did the next two. And I didn't do shit. I never knew what to do in these situations, so as to be congruent with it.
I swear to god I will appear in the official pictures of the event as "that gay man."

Really.

So, I came home with huge regret. I need some advice, as to not get that happen to me again.

Thus, if some girl just roots herself in front of you, her back to you,
1. don't you look like you're gaming her? trying hard maybe? when in reality, you're just dancing?
2. what is a good move in that situation? I'm in her back, I can't even touch her without appearing as a stalker.

Okay....what age are you/what type of club is this? Is the problem that this is not a club where grinding is socially acceptable? At most clubs I feel like this situation is an invitation to grind with her. At which point you should probably grind with her. If you need help with the kino specifics: first put your hands her hips like youre slow dancing and grind, if she is into it which it sounds like she would be based on the situation, grind and eventually cross your hands across her; this is a move most girls like. Dont be worried about being a stalker or a creep, grinding is completely socially acceptable as long as you do not push beyond what the girl wants to do.

I'm 23, what is grinding? I'm not familiar with the term.

Interesting, here are a few references which may help you. Where are you from? I'm kind of amazed you have never heard of grinding! maybe its an american thing...Here's some references i just googled about it.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Grinding_(dance)
http://www.fastseduction.com/cgi-bin/ib ... 3&topic=16
Basically grinding is a more sexual form of slow dancing from behind. I'd be amazed if nobody in the clubs you're in is grinding maybe you just call it something else like dirty dancing or something. At least in America, when a girl turns her back to you and dances seductively we call that whining, which we take to be an invitation to grind; that was what I assumed was happening based on your post. Maybe we're just having a word issue and they just call it something different where you're from.
Hope this helps
-Fiery

Oh, that's grinding.

It's not very popular here.

People here judge anything out of the ordinary, and that "rude" dance definitely is out of the ordinary. Weird country, i tell you.

But I get you, I could've just went with a less provocative dance. Makes sense to me.

high 5 her (shes gunna be compliant if shes giving you proximity) , spin her around, dance with her, be playful,

they love to be spinned

then get a bit slow and sexual, (eye contact , sexual tesnion) , makeout with her or go to the bar and get a drink and isolate and qualify her

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Be playful... turn around and a hip bump her... then a playful(but confident) smile and a wink when she looks back at you.