Hi all. Tonight I feel good. I went out after overcoming the fear of going out on my own at about midnight into the club area of my city.
I didn't dress up at all, just went into a club and ordered a drink. Meet the marketing manager and talked a bit to the guy. Then I spotted a table with a set of two girls drinking four beers. I looked at them for like 40 seconds and they seemed quite fun. I opened like this:

"Hi girls...so tell me something, what do you girls prefer to dance, hip hop or salsa?" They were happy to reply that hip hop was best. I explained that I must decide whether I make a hip hop or salsa song to promote a new product of the company I work with. Then I started asking them stuff about where are they from and shit and they were quite happy. I was cocky and funny all the way, pretty good actually. I sat down and we were giving high fives and sayig cheers and all the crap. The hottest one I negged like five times, (her earings were childish, I suggested her nickname could be bugs bunny because of her teeth, and stuff about how high class they looked-sarcastically). They were quite into it and the ugliest one (a 7) was touching my arm and hand. Then somehow I lost it and they were teaming up to put me down after my cocky comments and the conversation started to get a bit boring. They kept asking who was I with and where are your friends. And I kept saying that they were somewhere in the club. When I was asking them to dance one of them said "you look like you don't dance very well", and I asked how so and she just said "I just can tell". damm, this put me down because it is actually true, I am not a good dancer. Then I crancked a few stories and used good budy language and stuff but they were responding not as well as expected. "So girls, you really like to do things together uh? Do you do all kinds of things together, that could be fun.." shit like that I threw in but they didn't respond too well. I suggested going to my house and having some wine (they said they loved wine) and I work for a winery. Long story short, they didn't agree to come with me since they are from another city and felt insecure. I ejected and stayed funny. The whole thing took like 30 minutes.

After that I headed to the bar for another drink and opened a guy and a girl who seemed friendly and were talking about business and the club. As I was there a HB8 that was checking me out as I was talking to the other two girls (she saw us having fun and me touching them and shit) kinda grinded on me and asked for a drink. She was so damm close to me that I asked "hey, what perfume do you wear?", she said "why?", "because I like it, and wanna give it to my little sister", all with a cocky and funny attitude and smile. She smiled and took her drink. Then I said "you haven't told me yet" and she just smiled and left. She could have ordered a drink at another place in the bar because I was in the most crowded area. Whatever, didn't work out.

Then I said by to the guy and the girl and saw a cute girl walking alone, so I said "hey, what a shame, who left you alone like this?" and she just pointed at some guy in front of us so I smiled and kept walking.

Then just for kicks I opened two groups of like 5 people to ask whether they could sell me a smoke, but none of them had smokes, or so they said.

Then I ejected the groups and finished my drinks and came back home.

So, did I did everything wrong or what? At least I learned that if a girl sees you talking to other girls she will be more likely to talk to you. Also, I learned that talking to girls who are alone is easy if you show the right attitude and confidence.

Overall I think it was a pretty good night talking to people, being funny, cocky, using negs and projecting a confident attitude.

I don't know what I did wrong with the first two girls, or with the girl ordering the drink. She might have thought of me as a slick player, my smile and gesture was a bit too cocky and overly confident.

Any comments or suggestions would be greatly appreciated.

dorian.

when the girls said that you didn't look like a good dancer, that was a straight up shit test, you have to shoot that shit down, they might even be looking for you to prove to them that you are a good dancer. If you're not confident enough in your dance abilities, 1) when they say that, tell them they should teach you, or 2) avoid the subject completely. I also suggest trying to get girls to dance just for practice, rent some dancing movies or download videos and try and teach yourself (my friend did that in high school and he's the center of attention at parties now), or, if you have a close female friend, ask her to teach you, you never know, if you want, you could probably play some game there and by having her teach you something, she'll have to touch you, sometimes in sexual ways, and that will help you grow closer to her.

Also, don't forget to use a time constraint, if the club is big enough, tell them you have to meet up with friends and then just disappear for awhile. Or when the girl ordering the drink came up, tell her "We're more fun than your friends, have a seat." Show some value and you'll be in, don't fall for the shit test.

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thanks man, I appreciate your input. The thing is that I am still learning to keep a straight face when being shit tested or something. As well, because in the back of my mind I know I am not a great dancer, the shit test works in that it intimidates me. I have to show more confidence...