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The set was a 9 with two 6s so I went over and went straight for the 9, gently took her hips, and started grinding with her.
Is this alright? I don't really see how this can be done any differently on a very noisy dance floor. Feedback here please.
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Ok pua3211, this worked for you most likely because you had shown alot of Social proofing with the large group of girls you entered, hung, and danced with. I would imagine that if the 9 and two 6's had been there to see, they did...and the 9 saw the DHV you were putting off.
Most of the time though, approaching a girl straight on On the dancefloor is a big NONO. You always want to appear Cool, Confident, and Carefree (3 C's)...give out a "I'm just here to have some Fun and I Dont' Give A Fuuuuu" attitude. When innitiating a dance with a girl, you always want to make eye contact and keep your body angled so that she doesn't think your stalking her like Prey. From that point you go in smoothly(Not too slow or too fast that = Turn off for club girls), and yes the hand on the hips is OK.
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A couple songs later (about 4 min dancing) I noticed a pretty confident guy grinding with her friend; the guy was locked in, dancing with his back against the wall which I have never done before so I took note of this. After another song (6 min dancing) or so I could tell she was having fun but I needed to mix it up a bit so I took her over to the wall also (maybe 10 feet away) and locked in on the wall with my 9 also. The four of us danced like that for several more songs and (about 13 min dancing) her friend and the guy walked off together, reminding me to mix something up again, so I spun her around and grinded with her facing me with my back still on the wall. I thought everything was going great. We did that for a song or two and (15 min dancing) I spun her back around. Shortly after she just walked away.
What happened? Did spinning her back around lose her interest because we had already "been there, done that"? Possibly seen as de-escalation? Feedback here please.
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I actually laughed when I read this, but not to make fun or laugh at you..but because I was reminded of a similar experience I had.
Dude, you had this one in the bag. Especially if she let you walk 10ft away from her freinds only to see you lean up against a wall and expect her to grind on you. She obviously found you attractive, and I hope you held her hand when you lead her to the wall. Anyways, the spinning her around to face you was EXCELLENT and fun for you and her....change things up and keep her guessing. Your only fault, which was your biggest, was not going in for a Kiss Close :/....which was a 100% possibility.
Next time, when you guys are face to face. Bring her closer to your eyes, touch her cheek against yours, or even press your forehead against hers. If she doesn't back away and keep looking at you, you'll notice her eyelids droop like if she was getting drowsy....thats a good thing: it means her brain is telling her she's about to experience a high amount of pleasure. And if you want to arouse her a little more, play with her and neg her a little with a "turn the other cheek thing if SHE tries to kiss you"- but be very carefull when using that....she could think you dissed her so be selective on who you use it on and if it feels ok to do.
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Her putting your hands on her thighs and up her skirt were KILLER IOI's that a horny Computer Geek would have pre-maturely ejaculated on himself for...and sad thing is...he would have gotten laid.....so what does that say about you? BE A RISK TAKER when it comes to these situations...and given the fact that you were intoxicated on Alchohol makes me suggest you were a little nervous when dancing with the 9.....Alchohol loosens people up...and someone in that situation would have gone in for something.
But keep your head up champ, you've got good natural game...so next time...Do It Big
-LongBottom- OUT