Right, so I'm pretty new to pickup. Been reading about it for a while and trying to apply little things here and there at parties and social gatherings (confident body language, slower speaking, kinoing my female friends, turning the conversation sexual etc). Not really been out 'sarging' properly yet....until now.
About me....I'm 22 and a pretty skinny, shortish, ( 5'8 ) average looking guy, at University in the UK.
Last night was my friend's birthday....We started off drinking at his house. About 8 guys, and 2 girls, and then headed to the club around 11. I'd drunk a fair bit, so was not as clear headed as I could have been. This probably worked to my advantage, as generally when i start 'thinking' about pick up stuff, it doesn't come off smooth. So I was in a very good mood, and feeling confident.
Now I don't think it's that hard to 'pick up' in a club environment like I was in. I've not had much experience in it, as I was in a LTR since before I started going to clubs, so never tried before though. I'll try and relate what I consciously did from a 'pick-up' point of view.
When I got in the club, the was a queue for the cloakroom. Just start talking to people in it...Mostly a group of chinese girls..'where are you from? China?......Oh wow, yeah i want to visit, where's good....etc.' Basically just being happy, and confident.
Then saw a couple of girls I knew...One who's pretty hot...Went up, said hi, met their friend, a hot asian-american (I guess I have a soft spot for asian girls?). Started talking to her about the USA, what's the difference between there and here, blah blah blah. As I was doing this, I was consciously trying to kino a LOT. Touching her arms as I talked to her. Leaving my hand there a long time. Noticed she had goosebumps on her arms....Maybe from the cold? I dunno. I don't really think that was to do with the arm touching.
Just handed her my phone, and said 'so what's your number'. (I'd forgotten her name by now :s) but followed it up with 'and how do you spell your name', so I got away with that.
Spent a while dancing upstairs with my friends, just generally having a good time. Decided to get some other girls involved, so just approached another set, SMILING and said 'hey it's my friend's birthday, come and dance with us'.
Danced with my friends, danced with some nice girls, grabbed (not in a 'grabby' way!) the girls in our group and danced with them. (Is that called social proof?)
The hot asian who's number i had arrives on the dancefloor, so I said hi and start to dance with her. I try and ramp up the sexuality in the dancing. I don't think i'm very good at this. I pulled her close, but then took breaks dancing slightly apart from her from time to time. She pulls me back in. I think this is more effective than just CONSTANTLY having my hands on her and holding her close.
I kind of went for the kiss a couple of times, but bottled it. We stopped dancing after a bit and she went off with her friends.
I managed to end up dancing with another girl later on. British Indian I think
not as hot as the first girl. I'm pretty sure I was talking to her first, but my memory is hazy. No real PU in play here, just grab + dance. The dancing was much hotter than with the first girl, just put my hands all over her body, her guiding them at some points . I guess I was a lot drunker at this point. Anyway, we kiss, she ejects, I say 'give me your number' (I don't know her name) she says 'uh later, i need to find my friends'. I bumped into her later, handed her my phone and got the number (and name!) just as before.
Ended up just hanging with my friends for the rest of the night, just saying high to strangers, high fiving unknown guys etc.
Rang both of the girls today. No answer on either phone. The American sent me a text later though...
'Hey sry i missed your call. I was taking a nap
how was your night?'
So I've definitely got an inroad there.....I'll call her back a bit later/tomorrow. Or possibly text.
Ended up approaching a girl in the fast food shop on the way home, since she has the same hat as my friend. She wasn't really attractive, but I was just practising. She pretty much just blanked me and refused to talk to me. So I struck up a conversation with her male friend. I wasn't phased by it at all.
Overall, my confidence has gone up a LOT. I'm finding it much easier to just approach people/HBs/guys in general. I can only imagine it'll get easier from herein.
I guess the main thing I did was enjoy myself and be confident and friendly. Didn't use any cheesey lines or anything. And got 2 numbers and 1 kiss.
So overall, a pretty boring field report, I know. A very long winded way of saying 'I talked to some girls, and pushed it further with them'. The University club environment is a bit like shooting fish in a barrel.
A side note....I find foreign looking girls easier to approach...and on the whole more attractive (exotic?). You can always use the 'hey, where are you guys from?' line!
Peace.
Edit: Just got off the phone to the first girl, and have a 'coffee date' on Friday....
CHAT