Hi all,

I am seeking help from anyone who wishes to give me advice on what area of my game i should focus on learning. I am new to the game and have found it very interesting but one of the major problems I have is that there is so much information and different styles that I really don't know where to focus my efforts. I have read alot of material but still have no idea what im doing.

This is my first post, i thought I would just share my adventures of tonight for people to give their criticism.

It was my mates birthday and about 15 of us, guys and girls went out to a club that had about 60 people in it.

I have serious approach anxiety and made a goal at the start of the night to approach as many people as possible, guys too, to try and get over it. I think I was in a good frame of mind for once. I approached pretty much everyone on the street just asking directions to the club we were looking for and asked a guy who was with 5 girls what his secret was to be surrounded by women which got a laugh. This actually gave me alot of confidence to approach more people because nothing bad happened lol.

I got eyes from a girl sitting down near me in the club so i approached her straight away and said you cant look at me like that and not say hi, she said i was attractive so that went well. I wasn't keen but good opportunity to approach. Made friends with other people in her group too.

I then convinced a girl in our group that i just met tonight to come meet people with me. She had a bf but was really hot, probably about an 8, so i thought she could help me. I don't know why but we talked to three guys in the club first but it was actually fun. They were all really keen on her and i told them we were strippers which made her laugh. I told the guys to put their hands in the air and pretend to be a pole and that she would pole dance them, i don't know why i said that but they all did it. It seemed like they were obeying my orders because they wanted the girl i was with. They were like in a trance lol it was weird. We left.

The club was pretty empty so we went out on the street looking for people. Probably the worst way ever to pick up but i told her we'd pretend to be bf gf so we held hands. there was a group of 7 girls so we walked up to them and i hugged the girl i was with and asked the others "isn't my girlfriend hot" they all said yes enthusiasticaly. I then said that they were hotter and told the girl i was with to leave jokingly. They laughed, but kinda thought I was weird and didn't really understand what was going on. Talked to us though for a few minutes before we left.

As we left hand in hand (which we though was funny cos it would have looked really confusing to the girls i was just hitting on) i noticed a different girl looking at me which i pointed out to the girl i was with. I gave the girl i was with a big hug from behind like a boyfriend would and looked at the other girl while i did it and she kept looking back at me but we just laughed an walked away.

My goal was mainly just to talk to people and approach people because i have such a huge problem with that. So even though i got no closes at all i was pretty happy with the night.

At no stage was I trying to hit on the hot girl with the bf. I did have a few drinks that night, and thought in hindsight the bf would not have liked it if he saw me touching her like that even though it was innocent. Something interesting i noticed as i looked back on the night is that i managed to get my hands pretty much all over the hot girl with a bf and she was very compfortable with it, and so was I. I know it all sounds weird haha but it didn't feel weird at the time and i could tell she was compfortable. I put it down to the whole role playing thing, the fact that i was looking for other girls and telling her that constantly, and the fact that we were having alot of fun talking to people on the street that I was able to do that, even though i wasn't intending to have my hands all over her. It kinda escalated slowly. It's like i subconciously knew how much i could touch her withought making her feel uncompfortable because i wasn't doing it conciously. Just thought that was interesting.

Just thought i'd share my night because I didn't know where else to start.

Did you try gaming/befriending/getting the details of any of these? If so how did you go about it etc. If not, it would be a good idea to start doing so.

Great, role playing, leader of men, all good stuff. But as you said you wasnt gaming this girl, you should be doing these things, but with girls you *are* gaming.
theres a lot of ways this can work. But can look very dodgy/wierd make you look like some kind of womaniser etc etc, the way I would use this situation, is having it to disarm them, but I wouldnt tell them they are hotter. I'd then build some comfort with them, before finding a way to let them know that the girl wasnt really my girlfriend, if the situation was right for that, and theres loads of different ways to handle this.
Sounds like you had a good night, mate. And was probably very beneficial for you. But, and this is important, your confidence may have came from the fact that you wernt actually gaming this girl, who you effectively was gaming. So you may lose that confidence when gaming with intention of taking it the whole way. Anyway, this whole mindset and the the way you felt/the way ou dealt with this girl who you 'wasnt gaming'... this is how you should perhaps be with girls you are gaming. For now I see no problems. Until you try use this to actually game a girl through from start to finish. But basically just be how you were with this girl.

~Liquid Blend

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No not really, i should have tried but i was just talking to them and having fun. I don't really have very good game just now, a lot of work needed there. I have gotten pretty good at talking people and making people like me but struggle with seduction.
Yeah i clearly had no idea what i was doing but it was still a lot of fun. Build compfort ok i'll write that down!


Yeah you're spot on, no way i would have acted like that with her if i was trying to win her, although i wish i could be that confident with girls i'm trying to game.
I will keep trying until i can. Thanks for your reply Liquid Blend. Very often i don't even see the most obvious things. You have been very helpful.