| hi, i'm a 29 year old AFC who suffers from severe nice guyitus, started learning the game 3 or 4 months ago, and in that time iv done load's of self help stuff to improve my confidence , i decided to put the books down and get out there and put some theory in to practice, iv done a little bit of gaming in my home town but i new i needed to get out to the city were there's more action (and women)
I hit liverpool with a pua i met on here (sensei) and his wing, we were also joined by a very cool asian/canadian guy(who name was jackson if i remember rightly) who had been in the game for a while.
in the first bar, we decided to run some warm up sets, I noticed how alpha sensei was when making random conversation with people and how girls were drawn to him because of that ( he's living proof you don't need to be tall to be alpha, his wing and student paul, was a tall, cool looking guy,not the kind of person you would expect to have problems attracting women, but he told me how he had low energy in set, I could tell this guy could be great if he could put in a bit more fun and energy in to the enviroment.
I noticed jackson had opened up a 3 set, the guy had serious swagger and could charm groups of women with ease
when it came to my turn to open, sensei pointed out a 3 set, at the back of the bar and asked me to go over, i was totally up for it but for some reason,out of the blue, i just couldn't do it, i sort of froze, and after a few seconds he asked me why i hadn't gone over and i was like 'mate, i cant fucking do it, i need a bit more time' it was a strange sensation, it wasn't like a feeling of anxiety or fear, it was almost like my brain just wouldn't allow me to go over.
sensei was o.k with it, but I felt disappointed in myself and was overcome by a mixture of frustration and fear that i might not actually be able to do this, but i new it was just my limited beliefs kicking in, i bitch slapped my self and put on my game face and tried to get my self in to a good state of mind. sensei game me a bit of advice on inner game which helped a lot.
the next bar was pretty busy, jackson was diving straight in to sets, sensei was working the room, making conversation with the people around him and me and paul were checking out sets, but it was so busy , there were hardly any two/three sets,
as we made are way out the bar, i noticed 3 girls who seemed quite out going.
i thought fuck it, its now or never, i opened with my jedward opener
me-hey girls, did you see the x-factor tonight?
girls- no, (they kind of turned away me)
me- i don't no why everyone is hating jeward, there just two kids having fun, having a good time, making the most of this opportunity( I was smiling kind of sarcastically at this point)
the girl close to me turned back and was like- 'yeah i no what you mean. and instantly became more friendly
i kept the conversation going for as long as pos before bowing out, the music was so loud that i could never have taken the interaction any futher, but i didn't really care about that, i was just glad i had finally opened.
the next place we went to was not really my scene, it had a really townie feel to it, i tried a few openers, but my energy was so low that nothing really came off. I noticed sensei was getting close with a brunette (hb8), so i decided to use my time wisely and watch how he communicates, i could see he was push/pulling and it was working to great effect
the last bar of the night was way more my thing, great music, great vibe, but rammed as hell, paul and sensei had opened a couple of blondes, i was stood by them, feeling like a stalker, checking for any kind of opportunity to open, after about 20 minutes,I went out to the smoking area were i met up with jackson, he was making random conversation with everyone so i joined in, he had such a great energy,everything was just fun to him and and i sort of fed of that..
i split from jackson to see what the other guys were doing, when i found sensei, he said were gonna call it a night and go do a de-brief round his place,
even thought i felt i had made some progression i was a bit pissed of that i had not got any further than opening and some small talk, we went round the bar looking for jackson and ended up in the smoking area again when i noticed a cute blonde stood next to me.
can i get your opinion something?
her- yeah sure
me- what do you think of the whole man bag thing, i noticed more and more lads have them and i'm considering buying one my self
but do you think, like, you no, like there, kinda gay?
(she cracks up laughing)
she then goes off on one about the subject, i start negging and teasing, put some kino in, touching her and her friend on the elbow, and keeping my body language as alpha as possible. trying hard not to laugh at my own jokes (thats is gonna take some practice)
i asked her what she did and she told me she was a student nurse
i said something like ' your to naughty to be a nurse, look at you, flirting with radom blokes'
she looks at me in shock and cracks up laughing.
i play punched her on the arm, 'im just kidding'
i noticed her friend kept trying to interrupt, so i just kept focused on the interaction and she eventually went away
for some reason i came out with the weirdest question
'how do you like relax, like on a sunday, what your idea of relaxing bliss'
she look at me quite dreamily and went on about watching chick/flicks in her pjs eating chocolate
i decided that id get her number,
hey i'm gonna be in liverpool next weekend, it would be cool to hook up, give me your number and we will meet up, and just like that, with no hesitation, she gave me her number
i decided it was time for the hug test
me-how good are you at hugging
her- oh, i'm great
-me- we will see about
- i went for the hug, and she put it on quite tight and kissed me on the cheek (a bit longer than peck)
I swear i could have k-closed but I started shaking pretty bad, i only had a t-shirt on and it was freezing that night, coupled with the disbelief that i had actually got the girls number, i said 'see you soon', as i walked away,
i noticed jackson, paul and sensei were waiting for me, jackson had a big smile on his face, like to say 'you fucking rock'.
driving back in the car , i sloped of in to my own dream world, constantly running over the interaction, thinking about the things that went right, things that went wrong and how i could have have done it better.
when we got back to sensei's, we had a de-brief on what went on through the night, both paul and sensei pointed out that my body language was pretty bad, that i should keep my back straight and keep my drink away from my stomach, we played footy on the x-box before making my way back home to preston.
jackson, if you read this and im sure you will, i hope i got your name right, i'm terrible with names but i'm working on it, your a fricken legend dude keep up the good work, have a nice flight back to canada.
sensei and paul, your seriously cool guys and i look forward to getting out sarging with you again.
sensei has the making of a great instructor, you should hook up with this guy if your in the area, i learnt so much from him on the night
i'm defo going to that improv class in manchester this week, so il let you guys no how it goes.
until next time
cool bob
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