Hi,

OK, so I am going to the mall and find that the following happens. I have a really good day. I do several approaches and feel social and things click.
The next day after, I find that I go again and find that everything sucks and am goign nowhere fast.

Does anyone else find that after a good day or weekend the next time just falls flat and is there anything you do about it?

I did that all the time before, but I learned myself techniques for always getting the feelings I wanted. Now, it's rarely that I feel something else then joy, and that really makes feeling down weird. It's like I can't even understand it. However, this was a question if I felt down and up and the answer for me would be yes, but rarely down.

Feel free to ask if you want some pointers on how to "tame" your feelings:)

- Exerio

Exerio,
thanks for your answer.

I don't know bro, it is like I think that I don't have the right to succeed and succeed. It is like my mind set feels that i must crash and burn or not even have the courage to do one approach after real success.

The other day I opened a few sets and was getting on like a house on fire with one girl in particular and had only met her a few seconds before and yesterday went back the day after and didn't even have the energy or mind set to do one single approach. It was pretty disappoiting because I expect to get better and better, not to do well and then to lose my game again.

Either way, I know that after yesterday I will be able to go again and do well but it is nothing like constant.

Really I should find that after so much practise that now I am consistently able to approach, open and close but this isn't my case.

So, how do you maintain a consistently good energy?
(I guess either way, some days you are gonna suck and other days things will go better.)

What I do is something called anchoring. It is a neuro-linguistic technique that tumbles with your neuro-cortex. Neuro-cortex is the place in your brain that connects memories with emotions. What you do is this:

Every time you feel negativity you daydream. You relive a memory that already have occurred, but that had a positive outcome. This does so that the current situation you are in feels positive, and creates a positive memory from that kind of situation. If you do this during a longer time-span eventually your memory-circuit will change until only positivity.

That is the best way I know of doing it. It take some time, but in the end you will constantly be optimistic, energetic and yourself. Some of the keys for a successful pick-up.

Best of luck!
- Exerio

Hey bro,
just went to the mall quickly as I had a few things to do.
Yesterday had spent an hour wandering around the mall unable to approach.
Today I was going to be damned if I was just going to hang around.
There was a babe so I run my opener. She wanders off and doesn't leave so I re engage. I ask her for a book recommendation.
She does her best.
Anyway to cut a long story short we are talking for like 20 minutes having giggles about this and that and not wanting to go on too long say, hey, well gotta fly but we gotta have a coffee sometime, punch in your number here.

I sense a moment of awkwardness and she says reluctantly "I would prefer not to"
so I am like saying, well, anyway I am sure to see you around here, it is a small world and all and leave saying thanks for recommending me a book.

I couldn't believe it. I was like WTF!!!!! I had been talking to her about this, that and the other for ages and had got to social hook so well, but just don't understand how she could blow me off. Maybe she got wet feet.
I don't know but I left feeling like shit, when I had been in set for easily 20 mins. I got to social hook within seconds.
I just don't know what the Fxxxx i did wrong.
Maybe something in my game made me seem just too "perfect" like everything had been carefully planned beforehand. I don't know...

Feeling confused and bad.