| A little preface to this FR. I met this girl during her orientation when she came on our campus to visit as a potential school for her to go to and I happen to be there to introduce her to our school. We'll call her HB8. I made sure to leave a good impression for her and her mom. By the time they left, they thoroughly loved my vibe. I left feeling confident and thought nothing of it. At this point in my college career, I am pretty open to all kinds of people and asserting a dominant frame so I didn't consider a stretch of my game. I also didn't consider her a real intellectual equal or a mentally or emotionally strong enough individual to really be involved romantically with me. For the record, shes 4 years my junior, I am 22. So, school rolls around, its 4 months later and she sees me talking to a crowd, picks me up, asks for my number and sends a ton of IOI's my way. She sent me pictures of new piercings on her belly button and hip bones, within about a week of her number closing me. Now, there is a big difference between a cold pick-up and a warm one, and this one was definitely a warm one. But I consider my first meeting with her and her mom to be the cold A of the ABC phase. So fast-forward till now, I've now moved to be B phase. So the break down goes:
A: for Attraction
I let them know DHV stories about my involvement with my school, joke about her race, shes half black, half Puerto Rican, half black. She looks very exotic, shes 5"9 and has a booty and big brown eyes. Needless to say, I was attracted to her physically. Again, being that we had a 4 year age difference, I didn't think anything could possibly happen, so I fully let all my "game" thoughts drop and went into a very natural flirty mode. I believe thats what made the difference in attracting her. I never felt pressured to make it work b/c of my bias.
B: BT and buying temp
When she opened me for the second time, one of our interactions instantly went sexual.
Me: You don't want to play 20 questions with me on that subject, we won't go there, or this conversation will be very sexual and I don't want to contaminate your still young innocent minds (said all with a smirk, talking to her and her two roommates)
HB8: O whatever, I am sure I've done just as much if not more than you.
Me: *scoffs* yea right, how do your roommates feel about that freakiness? I bet they didn't know that about you until now.
HB8: (looks slightly embarassed) O they already know I am crazy, but we'll save that for later.
She then proceeded to give me a mischivious grin and a naughty look, I knew it was on for awhile, but I really hesitated to F-close this girl. One, I didn't know how mature she was and didn't want a crazy 18 year old freshmen just doddle after me every day, and two, I still feel a bit dirty fucking a girl thats way younger then me, I don't know why, but I still feel awkward about it. So I left her to push it further.
We met up a few times to grab lunch and I launched straight into comfort
C: for Comfort
I prodded her life on many topics, relationships, sex, parents, future, life philosophies. I knew younger women eat this stuff up so I made sure she understood that I've been through things she hadn't experienced yet. Lots of DHV stories from me about perserverence and overcoming difficult experiences. At this point I could tell she was beginning to get that lovey puppy eyes look, I knew I had this in the bag, but again I hestitated to escalate because of the two issues I didn't want stated above. I stacked forward anyway and set up a salsa D2.
D: for direct interest
We went salsa dancing and this was a great time for some serious kino, lots of touching, spinning, grabbing, staring, catching and carrying her. She really started to let loose her barriers and could tell she trusted me. But I needed to know how intelligent and mature she was if I was going to F-close her. So we went back to my house, got some fun stuff to smoke and had a smoke out. This was the point when I started heavy DHVing about my life and what I look for in a person, a woman, sex and really sexual stuff. I started talking about what kind of body parts I liked, and throughout the interaction while we were lying on my bed, I would say things like this,
HB8: So how many partners have you had?
Me: See, this question is never good to answer, if I say a low number, I'll look like a loser, if I say a high number, I'll look like a whore, so either way I lose, and it doesn't matter anyway for us to move on.
HB8: (laughs), why do you talk like that?
me: what?
HB8: the way you word things sounds like you expect certain things to happen. (a semi shit test)
me: This is how I talk, get use to it.
HB8: (*giggles and has dreamy eyes staring right at me)
me: Do you want to kiss me?
She plays coy and turns around, blushing very hard, and I gotta say, thats when I really wanted to f-close her, but I didn't. a minutes later, we had a kiss, and her big lips were so juicy. Anyway, back to the story. I gave her kisses from time to time, sucked on her neck for a bit and touched her a bit. Nothing sexual, no fingers, no nakedness. But I set the tone pretty clear for the next time we meet. So I didn't escalate to a full F-close.
What I want to emphasis in the ending though is that sometimes its not the most important thing to f-close a girl. I felt so good about our connection that I think I may be developing something deeper than just attraction. To be honest, if I went for the full F-close I think it would leave her feeling lots of remorse and bring out lots of ASD. I realized she was a very smart girl, turned down Stanford to come to our school and was mature for her age, obviously not extremely experienced in life being shes only 18, but a solid head on her shoulders. To me, intelligence and willpower are strong attraction switches besides just a hot exotic body and sex is just better when you respect and are sexually attracted to them.
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