well iv had one-itis for a few months now but iv been ignoring it and going sarging any way, so i will start from the beginning:

i met a girl a few months ago and run the game on her, mainly inner game coz i was madly attracted to this girl from the start, most people would give her a HB7.5/8 but i giver her a HB10 just cause she made me crazy about her. but i played it cool, kept a cool head and run a few routines, i had her hooked, we danced all night i # and k-closed and a few weeks later i was stayin at her house most nights. i wanted a relationship i must admit, but she didnt so things stayed how they were just casual. last night i saw her in a club and was talkin to her, i turned my back to ask my friend something turned back around to seein her making out with some other guy. now this is nothin to do with me because im not in a relationship with her. but my heart sank, id never felt so gutted in my life.

i dont know what to do, this morning im depressed, i just need abit of advice, do i chase the tail or do i move on and get ova the one-itis

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I was in about the same situation before a couple of months when i had a one itis and here's what i did: I recommend totally forgetting her for one or two months. Occupy yourself with other things (sarging, vacation etc). Then, if u want, after that period u could start pursuing her again but this time by playing solid game on her. That's what i'm about to do...

Hope I helped

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Nazim Hikmet

yeh man, thats what i was thinkin about......its easy said than done though isnt it? lol

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Similar thing happened to me around a year back...
I was meeting with this girl, but it was not a relationship, and something ended up happening with her and one of my good friends, i found out, and deep inside i was pissed,
I did'nt know what to do, because my friend knew she was nothing to me, and she
knew she wasnt my girlfriend, but regardless im not gona lie, i was very pissed about the situation....

That same evening i found out about what happened i went to a bar with that friend and 3 others (5 in all) we were chilling having a drink, next thing you know, two girls who were sitting behind our seats, said listen our friends are about to leave but we dont wana stay here on our own, can we join you guys?

It was obvious to all 5 of us, the game was on with these two girls,
So we said if you sit with us, you must join in our conversation...
the girls said cool, no problem, what you talkin about,
I said we talking about our favourte sexual positions...and from the first second
you could see something was gona happen, they took mine and my friends
number to meet up again, BUT!!! then we found out they live just up the road,
so we bought a bottle of JD went back to theirs, and it was madness that night,
and i haven't even bothered myself about the girl that pissed me off since...

So the morale of this story is...The best way to get over old pussy, is to get new pussy! ;p

Peace!Dza

Actually it's not that hard. Just delete her number and e-mail. Start going out and having fun, and stop thinking about her. In the end it's not that difficult, believe me i'm the living proof that it's doable..

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Nazim Hikmet

Oneitis will hurt and it will take time and it will make you feel alot of negative feelings. I have oneitis over my ex so mines is a little more complex. How have I handled it? Step one make it hurt, Step two stay away from her, avoid her as much as possible!!! Your vulnerable and trying to handle oneitis with continuos contact with her will damage your self esteem and confidence. Here comes the good news!!!!! Use the pain as motivation to go out and sarge and improve your game. No rejection or failed sarge is going to equal what your feeling this is almost as bad as it gets.. watching the girl you want kissing another man. But by practicing you'll meet other girls that will eventually erase her from your mind or give you the skills necessary to go and get her.

i thinj it is paramount to KEEP YOURSELF BUSY!!

dont go out with the idea to fuck as many girls as possible or toplay around or to get drunk (its a depressent and will only lower you)...

now is a great time to have that one month drinking ban for yourself - plus it will coincide with you endeavour for a new hobbie....

she is obviously totally over you in the form of affection - so its all on your shoulders now!!

i agree - delete all the shit to do with her.. then

get busy...
join a gym
take a language course
take up a sport - ie. boxing, swimming etc.... anything
salsa dance lesson
......anything that will put your focus onto something that constructive....


after this - its just time dude.....

One thing to also avoid, when struck by one-itis, is to avoid comparisons between, her & your next possible target. I've found subconciously that I have compared my target's to my ex, and it hinders my game especially, when you're picking up a random in a club, off the street, etc. Often, if you do use the rule to go out and sarge other women, to get over one-itis, this is what happens, you make subconcious comparisons and you create some what of a self-fulfilling-prophecy. Whereby you focus on what she (your next target) doesn't have when compared to girl in question, you then have a negative mindset, and basically self destruct the pick-up.

Consider what ming has said, as more of a journey of self improvement. Utilize your time to make your self, a stronger person. We would have all been struck by one-itis, at some stage, but it's the ability to extract something positive out of that experience, that will help you get over it. Don't dwell on anything negative from the experience, you won't learn anything that way.

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Having one-itis just slows game and improvement. I recently had one-itis and after frustrating myself with it enough, I decided to do a freeze out one night. It was a group night out, and my ex-one-itis was there. I started the night by greeting the group but never looking at her, sat as far away as possible and indulged myself in conversation with another B of the group. After a while I forgot all about my ex-one-itis and was having fun with everybody else. Thats when she came crawling back. I noticed her trying to gain my attention after only a couple hours. I made the mistake of accepting her conversation which took me back a couple steps. By the end of the night I was dancing with her and an 8 of the group and she kept coming over to sit on my lap.

The thing is, I had so much fun talking to other girls that night that I don't want that girl anymore. She'll be cool to hang with and meet more people but the itis is over... and I'm glad of it.