A girl friend gives me a call Wed morning asking if I want to join her and a friend at a country bar. Aside from Hockey Monday night I hadn't been out in the past two nights and was feeling restless so I decided to go...mid day my wing bailed on me so I went solo.

Throughout the day I talked to a few other girl friends (I say girl friends, as in I'm not dating any of them, I've had a few interesting nights in bed with two and just kissed one. More than anything they're all fun for some usually harmless flirting).

A party of three quickly turns into a party of 5.
2 - Original girl that invited me out and her friend,
2 - sisters came out and met us there,
1 - the fifth was a girl I just met last weekend at a different country bar.
Upon arriving on the dance floor I look over and low and behold, a girl I had a 1 night stand with is there. So the party of 5 turns into 6.
1 - random girl we bumped into

At first the sisters are stand offish and sitting at their own table, I'm building some comfort with the other four and eventually bring the sisters over to our table. I took time dancing with each of the girls, and chatting with each of the small mini groups within the larger group. I failed to have any large group conversations going and control the entire group at any given time. Instead I bounced from one to the other to the other...etc. Luckily after a few mins of introducing everyone they all got along really well. Which I was totally shocked...

Eventually the bar started emptying out and we were all getting tired from dancing...specially since it was a Wed night and all. Then lastly there's three of us, the one girl from the one night stand and the new girl I met last weekend. Trying to figure out how to go about this we all left the bar together and had some dry talk while we walked to our vehicles. The two girls were so damn similar it was ridiculous and they bonded pretty strongly. After standing in the parking lot I moved the three of us to my tailgate where the three of us sat and chatted, sharing stories, light kino and such.

I think someone with more skill could have suggested taking the party back to one of our houses, or even had some fun on the back of that tailgate. I know one of the girls is Bi and may have been up for it, the other no idea. But nonetheless nothing happened on the tailgate, the one girl eventually had to go home since it was late and she had to work...which left me and one girl heading back to her place for some fun.

Now after sleeping a total of 2 hours and being at work all day I'm about to go out and do it all again at a different country bar (geee...see a theme here?) with a new group of girls that are in my circle of friends. I'm having a blast going out and learning every step of the way, the best part is growing my circle of friends and knowing various groups at various bars to the point that I can go by myself and never feel out of place (for better or worse)

Any pointers on group dynamics that you guys feel like you could point out would really help. Anything from large 7 person groups to casual 3 person groups. Thanks!


Some may ask why I brought together a large group of girls that I've been involved with? One...they're all fun to dance with, and two I figure life can give you some super awkward situations. Best to create them yourself and figure out how to make them into a smooth, carefree and fun situation under your conditions.