Okay, so if you read my first thread, you know I'm trying to motivate myself to go out more solo.

And part of that is to post field reports to sort of embarrass myself into going and reflect on what went wrong.


So here we go:

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Yesterday I went out to a new club. The one i usually go to is being re-modeled. I drove out, and I got nervous again. I drove around the club a new times till I finally got the nerve.

At the door there were a group of 5 7s and 8s, I wanted to start some conversation but I completely drew a blank.

In the club, I went straight to the bar as always. Got a non-alcoholic drink (the DUI laws are crazy here!). I stood around with my drink, moved around so I wouldn't look too weird.

The place had a big dance floor and loud music. I tried to open a few group of guys that were watching so I could have some buddies. Said things like "man look at her shes wasted" or "you know shes a slut" they just gave a a weird look.

Okay walked around some more. Finally got to the outside bar where I could hear myself think. A 6.5 sat next to me. Finally I thought here is my chance.

Me: So what are you drinking?
Her: Hi (you could tell she was just being polite)
Me: (again) so what are you drinking?
Her: oh just water, what are you drinking vodka and red bull?
Me: No just red bull, I try not to drink and drive.
Her: oh.....

Conversation was going no where so I walked away. Okay, walked around some more. Stood around, pulled out my phone to act like I was waiting for someone. I had been there an hour and a half, okay, so this is going no where, so I left.

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Ya, so I opened a group of guys, and one girl. Better than not showing up at all I guess.

My problem is I draw a blank when it comes to what to say to start a conversation, and when I do, my opportunity is gone....

I would go out tonight and push myself further, but I'm working tonight.

Anyone signup for the private membership zone is it worth it?

It's good you're going out and sarging solo at the bars can be kinda hard.

Making friends with the guys is easy. Most guys are not against the idea of meeting girls at a bar - so a good question would be "is it hard to talk to the girls that go to this bar?"

Your comment, "you know she's a slut" - what kind of reaction did you expect to get from a guy? He's either going to disagree and wonder why you said what you said, or he'll agree and say "yeah, she's a total slut". Then what?

Also, if you're calling girls you don't know sluts, then you may have inner game issues. First, what makes you think that the way she's dressed and acting gives away the number of sex partners she has had? Second, and more important, slut is a negative word, but what's wrong with a girl having sex with guys? Girls have just as much sex as guys do, and I think there's nothing wrong with a girl who enjoys sex.

As for the girl you approached - you need to work on structure. Just talk to her about basic things to get a feel for how a conversation at a bar works - introduce yourself, ask her who she's with, how she knows her friends, what she does for a living, what she does for fun. Just try to keep the conversation going - once you can keep the conversation going, then work in the playful banter that people write about on this forum.

Remember, with a girl whom you've just met at the bar, if the conversation stops within the first 5 minutes, you're going to lose the set.

Good god you need a touch of advice.
First off just remember one routine.
One of the things like the cube game or the pick a number between 1-4, 1-10 routine.

Better yet for your opener, ask a question. An opinionated question (ask for a sets' or single persons opinion on something)

Then go into the cube game with your target.

Also, I'm willing to bet that you need to work on body language.
Go to freepuavideos.com and watch the body language videos.

If there's anything specific you need to ask me, then private message me dude. I want to help

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First off just remember one routine.
One of the things like the cube game or the pick a number between 1-4, 1-10 routine.

Better yet for your opener, ask a question. An opinionated question (ask for a sets' or single persons opinion on something)

Then go into the cube game with your target.

Also, I'm willing to bet that you need to work on body language.
Go to freepuavideos.com and watch the body language videos.

If there's anything specific you need to ask me, then private message me dude. I want to help

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It don't mean a thing.
Not a goddamn thing!