| I still have AA, so I have been going out into the field (day game) to try to eliminate it. First I went to the grocery store, since I heard it was a good place to meet girls. ha! not at this time of the day it wasn't. there were like 2 HBs in the whole place, and with me suffering from AA, regrettably, nothing happened.
you see, my problem is not that AA necessarily gets me at the beginning, it's right at that critical moment when i'm about to engage my target, it zaps me.
so i decided to take a step back and do that beginners' challenge thingy where you go up to all these random girls and say hi. i went to the mall, a target-rich environment, and i tried this with a few girls i was walking by, but AA zapped me. by now i was pissed off, and trying to devise new ways to kill my AA. and then i did.
i came up with a new idea. suppose, instead of trying to quell approach anxiety, i just triggered other kinds of anxiety to drown it out? i tried this and it worked surprisingly well, consistently. basically it involved firing off all of my mental alarm systems (summoning that feeling of knowing there's somewhere i have to be in 2 minutes, or that i missed turning in a paper and my grade's screwed if i don't do something, or that i'm in deep trouble, or that i have a zillion things to do in a few hours).
i found that as soon as i found a target and was just going to say hi to her (or something semantically similar), i would pretty much rev myself up and go into what i call "panic mode," engaging other anxieties and worries that didn't really exist. and it successfully drowned out AA, allowing me to have a virtually fearless approach. i'm calling it my "floodlight technique" because it drowns out the approach anxiety with other pseudo-anxieties.
maybe i can't turn the switch off, but i can turn all the other ones on.
now i'll have to test this out on more advanced approaches, but so far, this looks like the way to go.
(i also went by the pac sun to see if i could run into that HB8 i ran into on my previous field report, but she wasn't there)
also, i noticed something else. if i said hi to girls in a store, they were likely to respond. if, however, i said hi to girls as i was walking by them in the walkway of the mall, they pretty much ignored me. i'm not sure if they weren't used to random people saying hi, it's just not the right social environment, they were too used to salespeople trying to catch their attention and sell them stuff, if they couldn't hear me, or if they simply didn't register that i was talking to them. _________________ >>> ascend to the next level
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