I was readying J Smooth's blog yesterday and he made a point of it to say that journal entries/self reflection is a very important part of growth.

Back Story - My wing and I are headed to the Bonaroo Music Festival soon so we decided to meet up and talk about plans. Also, the NBA and NHL was on so we made our way to a sports bar. As we are there we soon notice this is a hick and sausage bar. By that I mean we are close to the country (not a city bar - lots of dudes in t-shirts and short hair...virtually no guys with product in their hair) and the dudes out number the girls 8-1 it seemed like.

Here is how it goes down - I'm talking to my friend and point to an HB6 and say she seems kind of cute. He says dude what are you waiting for (great wing move). We plan an approach. She starts walking toward us and I say - "You playing on the pool table?". She goes "Yeah"...I say "I got next".

My wing and I make it over to where she is playing pool and he and I start playing. Me and him talk to her intermittently (little chit chat here and there) until we invite her over to play with us. I can't stress this enough...at first I wasn't getting the reaction I wanted. My wing helped me not stress the situation and keep me in the set (instead of ejected prematurely). This really taught me to keep pushing in sets....until you get blown out keep pushing.

We play a couple games a pool and there is good chit chat. My wing asks her some questions. I thought they were a little AFC (what do you do type stuff) but I think I was mistaken. While it is important to have a playful vibe sometimes that lame fluff conversation about work, job, etc can work. In this case I could jump on what she was saying and start a conversation off of that.

She keeps dancing in place and eventually we make it over to the dance floor of this bar. She mentioned how it was nice not to have some guy not humping her on the dance floor and we were both vibing to the music. We leave the dance floor and she says how she needs to leave but says we should hang out again. I get her number (get her to type it in...for some reason this seems cooler) then she is out.

Strengths - Dancing - Even though I'm not the best and I should have escalated kino more than I did it was still good to get out there. She complemented that my dancing didn't include humping on the dance floor.
Keeping her friend in the conversation - This is a trick I'd heard before and it seemed to work.

Opportunities - Remembering to keep pushing - As I stated above it's so very important.
Escalating Kino - See my note about dancing.
Staying playful - It's important to look cool and Alpha but not at the expense of keeping your target involved.