Howdy do,

So I am 23, and decided to go on a speed dating thing set for 24-40 year olds. "Why?" I hear you ask. Well, a bit of a social experiment, and since I am just starting to come out of my AFC shell, I thought it would be interesting to use some lines and just interact with people who are there for that sole purpose, dating. LTR is something I would consider, but then I just don't settle for the second best (perhaps a reason I am single???)

Anyways, in order to lose my inhibitions and be comfortable with myself, I decided to dress up, rather uniquely. A green (some women later pointed out it was not quite green, what would I know) shirt, black jeans, black jacket, black smart shoes..and to top it up, a Frank Sinatra hat, bought from a shop called Peacocks (how apt?) the same day. As an ultimate act of fool-hardy-ness, I decided to walk all the way (20 minutes, through one of the busiest roads of Brum) all dressed up. Can't tell how naked I felt, the hat was something I would laugh about, when even thinking of wearing one. The night was on.

So I got to the venue, registered (it was a smallish pub). Decided to go to the loo straight off, as needed to get my game face on. Walk back up, grab a lemonade (sober all the way, for the night). There are groups spread all over, all opposite sexes though. I walk upto the closest male group, introduced myself to each one, asked about where they drove from.

Now I am 23, I don't belong there, if you play by the rules. If you play by the rules, then I shouldnt be the alphs male, but I felt like one. I felt like I owned this group as soon as I walked in, some people were almost old enough to be my Dad! So half of this group goes out to smoke, I excuse myself and decide to introduce my ladies.

I walk around to every group (6-7 of them, 2-3 women in each) introducing myself about normal chit chat (where are you from, have you done one of these before?) Simple AFC stuff, but I am making an impact already. With some of the groups, I hang around for a good 7-8 minutes, having a good conversation. I was slightly intimidated as all of these women were either older than me or either bigger (in size) than me. Still, I feel alpha. Now other guys start walking up to women as well. One of them actually says to me, that I started all, and one even asked if I was being paid to do this. My response:

"It would be great to meet beautiful women and get paid." She laughed. I thought I'd kino her, and as I was going for her arm, I not so subtely hit her breast. One of those things. I was embarrased, said sorry and we just laughed it off. Tbh, I am still not comfortable with kino unless I know the person well enough.

The hat played its part. Every woman in the place commented on it, in positive. If my game was any stronger, a few would be lapping in my arms, but it isn't, and they weren't. Some were even singing 'bugsy malone' song everytime I saw them. I was the star of the night, but I don't think there were any who were interested in any more, perhaps its my own perception.

So in summary for Part I of the night, it was a great one, I wasslightly intimidated by some hot mummys, oh but they were nice. I should have #-closed the Bugsy Malone girls (3 of them) and one of them, I got an impression, seemed interested in me. I did fail her shit test when she asked if I am looking for LTR, Open-R or being single. It was a strange one, but quite nice, it pumped me up.


Part Deux began when a fellow sarger arrived in Brum at 11:30-ish. We decided to go out. Now thing is, neither of our club game is strong, and mine is particulary week. I was hoping that the hat would do all the picking for me, or atleast the opening. And tbh, it kind of worked. Like this once, as we were walking up to the club, and this realllly cute HB8 (standing there with a couple of other girls):

HB8: Hey, do you want your face painted.
Me: (giving a curious look) umm...like you?
HB8: Yea, its nice. (By this time, I notice that she has a lipstick painted on her cheek)
Me: Well, as long as its that lipstick from your lips (with a cheeky grin). She laughed, another woman standing next to her did too. I should have fucking carried it forwarded, but I was in my own tune then.

Just a quick chat with a few other sets about the hat, but nothing I could take any further (I literally mean 2 sentences). I struggled. This is where I struggle, a club, cant really walk upto someone and start with an opinion opener when the music is too loud. Even conversation is difficult. So from thereon, the night just went downhill, and so much so, that we left at about 1:30 (started at 12).

So does anyone has any pointers for this? I am more than happy to explain the circumstances I find myself in, in a greater detail. Could really work on improving that aspect of my game, which is bringing me and my current fellow sarger down.

Phew....this is a long one!

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