Hi all,

This is my first field report and I need your help.

Last weekend I was out in London, in Clapham. I approached an incredibly fit HB9. She was stunning! Had the body of a model and long blonde hair. My friends were utterly impressed!

Anyhow, my opening worked brilliantly! I then was successful in building attraction. I negged her a few times, did some DHV routines. Met her at a bar. I then convinced her to leave her friends and go with my to an after party at a friend's place. She agreed.

When we got to the party she asked me if she could kiss me! That was awesome! I didn't even have to make a move. So we made out all night. After that we went back to my flat.

The thing is she said she had to work the next morning and couldn't stay that late. It was already pretty late. I kept on trying to convince her to stay longer and stay the night. But she said she really had to go to work.

I didn't get to F-Close, as she said she had her period and didn't want to have a one-night stand. Lets say my LMR wasn't at its best. But we did everything else.

She told me she wanted to see me the next day after work or on Monday after work. She also mentioned she liked me and thought I was interesting and cute.

Anyhow, she finally left around 8AM and had to go home and get ready for work. She said she would see me later tonight.

So I was all happy! So far so good sounds great, but then it all fell apart…..

I called her later that day around 6PM as she was finishing work. She didn't pick up. I then sent her a text, saying it was fun hanging out and hope we can meet up again. No response.

I called her on Wednesday from a different number and she picked up. She sounded like she didn't really want to talk to me and said she was still at work. It was around 8PM when I called. I asked how she was doing, she said fine. I said it would be cool to see her again, she said yeah but she is very busy at the moment (works long hours in a sales job and is low on cash) and that I should call her in three weeks and she would meet me then. What the hell is that suppose to mean in 3 weeks? That is a CLEAR brush off.

Anyway, I really liked this girl and am shocked how things went from amazing to shit.

The thing is, the night she went to the after party she met one of my female friends and they hit it off. They swapped numbers. She really liked my friend. So I asked my female friend if she could get in touch with her and put in a good word for me and try to hook us up. She said she was happy to do that.

So guess what? When my female friend texted her, she texted her right back.

So on Friday night, I sent the HB9 a text saying I'm going to a party with a bunch of friends and asked her if she wanted to come. She didn't respond. Instead, she called my friend and asked her if she could meet up with her. At the time my friend was busy, but said they would hook up soon.

The next day I get a text from the HB9 saying, sorry I just got your text message, where is the party at? Then signs off with her name and a smiley face. This is the first time she ever gets back to me.

So I got kinda excited, at least I'm hearing back from this girl. It turns out the party was the night before, but there was another party I'm going to that night. So I text her an hour later, telling her that everyone is meeting at mine for pre-drinks and then we are going to the party. Told her she should come and bring her friends along. Guess what? No response. Nothing at all! I didn't call her since. Now is Monday and heard nothing from her. Didn't ask my female friend if she head from either. Quite frustrated about this whole thing.

I would really appreciate your feedback. Please let me know where I went wrong and what I can do to get this girl? Anything I can do at all?

Mark

Hey Mark, My immediate reaction would be buyers remorse. Every single girl no matter what will have it to some extent after that same night "lay" or fooling around or what have you. If you were looking for that one night stand, well it looks like you got it, but seeing as you wanted to continue this, it might have been better to take your time, end the night on some romantic light kissing/making out, then leave her wanting more. I think since you guys gave each other that sexual vibe right off the bat, that it backfired because it didn't leave her with anything else to expect. You had "done it all already" so to speak so there was nowhere to move forward. This has happened to me at least a couple of times before, and after that, there's a stage of them backing off majorly and I lose the set. Cut your losses, but Take your time next time, build it up. 2 steps forward 1 step back and you'll have better chances of keeping her involved with you. -Shreder

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Thanks Shreder . Your analysis is spot on! I am guessing that is definetly what happened, buyers remore. Shouldn't have gave her so much so soon and let it build up and leave her wanting more.

I appreciate the problem and know I should cut my loses.

But I'm really curious to know if there is ANYWAY at all I can revive this one? Really liked the girl. Don't want to sound like I'm suffering from onetis. Have u ever been in a situation where u got the girl back after it looked it was all over?

I haven't had that happen from a one night stand, but from a relationship type basis I have. What helped me was I just forgot about her. Like literally just dropped her from my mind, a few months later, out of no where, she sends me a text and asks me to lunch. Nothing has come of it yet, but the important thing is that I really became outcome independent to the eventual result (as opposed to the approach like it's usually used) So as hard as it is to do this, you just have to drop all association with her, move on to another set. Best case, she'll see you and maybe get a little jealous and try to come back to you. But don't count on it. You gotta do whats best overall for you, which is cutting your losses for now, and enjoy the boost from actually going through that pickup itself. Feed off of it for your next set.

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Happy Hunting Comrades! -Shreder

I used to hate it when girls go 180 degrees on you but when you think about it guys do it more than girls.. When was the last time you went from hot to cold with a girl you were involved with? We do it a lot, sometimes it happens to us too. Best thing to do is go with the flow. cheers

Only point I can pick up on you said you kept trying to get her to stay longer.

You should have given her plausible deniability and agreed that she could only stay 10 minutes as she had work and you needed to sleep. I feel you might have given the impression then of pushing for sex / needyness. Next time invite her in just to see your room but say she can't stay long. She can then blame you and feel more comfortable if things escalate. She tricks herself that she is not coming in for sex (ASD) and if one thing leads to another, its okay.

Her follow up reaction is pretty much buyers remorse, and not enough comfort built. Completely agree with Shreder, tease her more and don't make it so easy!

It's a great first field report, what was your opener out of interest? I'm not sure how 'recoverable' she is. I'd get out there and game other HBs!

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I agree with both Walt and Shreder.

She may have felt that she had given too much already by the time she left, when you really should have backed off and left her in need of more (However difficult to predict at the time!

Trying to get her to stay longer hinted neediness. I think it's fair to say that we all have been there at some point when you get caught up the build up and feel that more could lie ahead.

Well done on getting a friend involved, she definitely added value and comfort that you are a cool guy to her. Maybe that's what got you the text from her.

But at the same time, I feel this step should not have been necessary.

Is there a possibility things may have been different afterward if you hadn't called her from an unidentified phone number on Wednesday after having called and text her on Monday - to me that seems a little off and hints more neediness. Guys, let me know if i'm wrong there.

I would have tried calling her on Thursday had there been no response from Monday's call and text, if she didn't answer I would have cut my losses from that point and moved on.

Dude, if she is still on your mind you should be out sarging as soon as possible - you seem to be the party type fun guy so i'm sure you'll have no problem and this whole thing will be dust in no time.

This is my first post people!!

I will be shortly writing a field report that includes events of two weeks ago when I was in a similar situation, but I was the one staying too long at her place (I feel).

Hope to hear from some of you soon - all the best

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thanks a lot guys for your feedback on this one.

I'm just wondering if there is anyway at all to revive this HB9. Of course, I shall continue to sarge and will post my field reports and progress so we can all learn from them, but I also think its a waste to let an HB9 slip away, when I did so well and got so close.....

So if anyone got any ideas on how I can revive this one, that would be much appreciated. Has anyone been in a similiar situation and got her to come back? Just curious.

Hey mate

Nice field report

I think the only chance you have with the HB9 is too use your friend she befriended.

Maybe if your friend had drinks and you were there as well as the HB9 you could try and sarge her again..if you show enough DHV and talk to all the other girls and play mystery's cat string theory with her.......But in my experience once they have buyers remorse they dont really go back.

Just out of interest what was your opener?