| Field Report March 14th 2009
Ok so I was at my frat’s house party and I have some very good social proof…I know most people there, and the women there for the most part know me and always come up and are all bubbly and touchy feely all over me (pre selection by other women)
Ok so I met this HB7, I’ll be honest, to raise my confidence I closed a few girls that were sub-par (like HB5…can you even call it an HB?) anyway, just doable. This has led to many a chirp and many a poking fun from my friends, however it has made me a) not care what other people think, and b) know that I can “get some” so I’m now trying to get with HB7’s and above. (although I have FC a few 10s and 9s before, just few and far between)
Anyway that being said I opened a two set, and one was a girl that I knew from before that kept dressing me up and giving me preselection, the other was my target a HB7.5. I opened, did a disqualifier, Best friends test and was C/F towards her by showing some active disinterest. I subsequently saw some attraction. I asked her if she was adventurous and she said “oh what do you mean?” (said with a tone like as if I was asking her if she’s adventurous in bed, so I guess scepticism?) I said like do you do adventurous activities, like me for example, I skydive…..
She said yes, and I said so what do you do then? Basketweaving? She said she couldn’t tell me – because it’s a secret. So I teased her by saying that if there isn’t any trust in our relationship than it was over, and she can keep the shoes.
I then said “oh I can’t stay mad at you, that’s it we’re getting back together and we’re going to vegas to get married, we’ll go to that drive thru one, you know 10th one is free” so said how about we go 11 times so I can get the free one? I said no because it was my idea.
Our mutual friend left for the washroom and the HB 7.5 said she wanted to stay and talk with me – (I took that as an IOI? Is it?) so we did and I decided to go into qualification as I felt I had enough attraction –
in retrospect I think I didn’t as I lost the set, but it may have been out of my control.
Now before I go into this next part I will warn you my sticking point is qualification. I feel awkward doing it because I don’t know how, and no one has really taught me besides – just make her jump through hoops and don’t tease her, get serious as she is selling herself to you. That being said, should I still tease her and be playful at this time?
Anyways, so here is what went down (or lack there of):
The Musterion: So you seem pretty interesting, I’m totally adopting you as my little sister, we’re going to go climb trees and drink coolaid, (props Cajun) I want to know more about you, like tell me something interesting about yourself.
HB 7.5: I ride horses, and I take care of them and help with veterinary work.
The Musterion: really, what makes you want to do that? Ever save the life of a dog?
HB 7.5: No its just something I like doing, I like helping things, and it amazes me the intelligence of such a large animal and its cool how they act and what not.
The Musterion: you seem to be someone who admires intelligence in people, and also possess the wanting to help someone (cold read)
HB 7.5: yeah that’s so true, that’s one of the most important things that I look for in people.
The Musterion: that’s a admirable quality, I look for those two things in people as well, I find it hard to find someone that I can actually carry a conversation with.
HB: 7.5: same here.
So I added a DHV story about helping people and my ambitions: PhD from Cornell in intellectual history, she asked me about what it was and I went and told her, she seemed hooked.
I gave her “extra special bonus cool points” for everything I really actually look for in girls, and when she said something I didn’t like ie “oh you watch F1 racing? Ewww” I took them away, always being playful of course. I told her if she got to 10 she gets a prize. For me that’s a Kiss, but of course I don’t tell them that.
I tried Style’s EV, but I think it failed, because I a) Might have done it wrong, and B) I heard from another mutual friend that she told him about and was weirded out by it (must have done it to early or maybe she didn’t have enough connection with me for it.
During the qualification after I felt I hooked her I did Style’s evolution phase shift, she took them all well, I got up to the elbow biting and she said “wow kinky eh?” and giggled.
Anyway, so our mutural friend came back I thought I had done some she said it was really hot inside and wanted to go outside. I said see you later (to convey non neediness) and she said I should come, but since I was bigger, to lead the way. I said “omg we’re totally dating now” and took her hand, she had them interlaced with mine, I squeezed and she squeezed back (IOI) I let go of our hands and she grabbed my hand back and smiled at me (IOI)
So now I was feeling high and mighty, and we were outside. A couple of my friends were saying hi and I introduced them to her and I thought things were cool. We talked some more and then she said she was cold so we went inside.
I felt that I should maybe kiss her, but lo and behold I had one of the most epic cockblocks of all time!
I got AMOGed/CB’ed by one of my friends, he came over and said
“Musterion your not allowed to ask her for her number, you have a girlfriend and I saw what you did last night.
Then looked to the HB7.5 (who I found out they are best friends) and said
“don’t give him your number, he is bad news”
Slight digression on why I was AMOGed and CB’ed: I’m in a MLTR, with a girl aka we’re in an open relationship. We know about each other’s flings and we’re OK with it. I asked him why he did that later, and he said its because you must be moral and stuff, and cheating on your girlfriend is bad and I should be ashamed etc… I told him its an open and he replied with “there is no such thing” and he was mad because I didn’t listen. I told him he didn’t know my intentions.
ANYWAY:
Now those of you reading this report. I rarely get CB’ed at clubs, however at parties I ALWAYS do, because my friends know my AFC type and just CB me because “I’m gonna get LJBF’ed anyway” and they deserve better women than me and they CB me.
HOW DO I DEAL WITH GETTING CB’ed?
Anyway: I had no clue what to do at this point, I tried to Kiss, but she moved her head at the last second. So I punished her by looking away. I talked to her for a bit more after the failed kiss and then had to go deal with something.
I came back and she was talking with a friend, and I tried to # close her. Seeded it with a plan and all, I thought I might half to do some damage control because of my being AMOGGed and CB’ed
She tried writing down her number on the paper, but the pen wasn’t working
She told me “maybe it’s a sign” I gave her my phone and then she replied “not that let him tell me what to do, but I do listen to (friends name here) him on stuff like this”
So I said, “ok. Pleasure meeting you” smiled and walked away, thinking “is Wayne Brady gonna half to choke a bitch?” (referring to my friend as the bitch)
Anyway, I worked the kegs for a bit and she came up and said she was sorry, blah blah blah, why did he warn me.
Now in uncharted territory, I winged it although I think I might of regressed to AFC – what are your thoughts on this
I said “I’m in an open relationship and he thought I was trying to pick you up”
She replied with “oh, that’s why”
I said: “well answer me this would you want to hang out with me?”
she said “yes I would but well its kinda complicated for me blah blah blah”
Now trying not to regress into AFC, and remember, I’m in uncharted territory I wanted to tell her the truth:
I said “well your cool and all but, your not what I look for in a girl in that way, your cool enough I’d like to be friends with you, but if you want to listen to (friends name) that says a lot, I have enough friends, pleasure meeting you, see you around”
Then I went and did my own thing
So what are your thoughts on this?
How do I do qualification properly?
How do I handle the cockblock?
I know I lost this one, but How do I damage control a situation like this so I can do better next time? What would you have done differently?
Thanks
The_Musterion
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