so this chick enters the room. I notice shes wearing running shorts.
i make a comment about racing her after class.

After class she gets my attention to say cheerio and i remind her about our "race" and
end up walking next to her .
she teases me by false starting a sprint and we get a good convo going.
Its time to take our separate ways and i ask her:

what are you doing this weekend?
she: im studying.
me: so you wont have time for one little rondezvous?(i give her a playful puppy dog face) why dont i get your number and we can go get coffee or something.


she: Tell you what, next time we have a test we can study together.

me: that sounds great, We can get a good headstart this weekend.

she: i cant give you my number(grinning shyly?)

me: (in a lighthearted/demanding voice)well, why not?

she: im dating someone(stil grinning faintly)

me: im not asking you for a date.(i hand her a business card and she writes it down).

My question is this: how can you tell theyre giving you a shit test? What things to look for/

Thanks guys

ciao,

Art

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Art,

I think you just fell into her frame man when she suggested you study together and you agreed. The only thing I can think of is to reframe the situation by saying something like "hey if u wanna study with me Im gonna have to charge you missy...my rates are very expensive and im not sure you can afford me" then lightly kino and give a playful smile. I hope that helps. All the best man.

also asking for "coffee or something" can sound boring. that was definitely a frame battle, which was the shit test. also you wouldnt really need her number if you just arranged a time and place to meet up.

HB: We should study!
You: Hehe, geez your a keen little trouble maker. How do I know you don't have alterior motives.
HB: Oh, there are no alterior motives.
You: Sure, sure, I've heard that one plenty of times.
Then move on to eliciting values! The moment you move on to eliciting values.

Cheers!

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