I had a lot of qualms posting this here. Its hard to admit that one needs help in the love game, especially so for a child coming from a traditional asian family whisch placed much emphasis on dignity and pride. (I am high on alcohol as i am writing this.)

Venue: Double O Bar. U have to shout out loud to get yourself heard.

Situation:

I am on the dance floor dancing and i noticed this girl. I am unable to see her face as the lighting is bad. As any typical Singaporean guy will do i proceeded to dance around her.

Eventually, i found myself position behind her. I was less then 10 cm from her. I stop moving closer. I am sure she had noticed me by then. Her friend had definately noticed me. She brushed against me a few times but no grinding. As if by instinct my hand wanted to reach out to grab her waist and dance with her but my mind say no. My mind say, ' if i want to dance with her i should ask!' By that time she had back away from me but her friend giggled and pushed her back. We were in close proximity but not touching each other. I brushed against her a few times but there was no reaction, therefore i just stood my ground thinking that if she likes me she will lean back and dance with me. After her while she and her friend changed position and began distancing themselves away from me.

Question:

1.) Do i have a chance with her?
2.) Was i having aa?
3.) Is it alright to approach a girl from the back? I read that one should always approach a girl from the front.
4.) In what way could i improve my standing with her?
5.) As the clubs in singapore literally blast their music is there anyway i could communicate with her without talking? I was thinking about writing a message on my phone to show her. A messgae like: " U are hot can u dance with me?"

Thank you for reading this. I sincerely appreciate it.

Yours sincerely,
NewAge
An Average Frustrated Chump.

Ps: If anyone is thinking that i have not been to a club at 21. U are wrong. I have been to clubs but this is the first time i am approaching girls who i do not know on the dance floor.

Place your feet in such a way that she will unavoidably step on your toes..

Then tap her shoulder and say "hey, i think u stepped on my toes".. That should grab her attention for awhile as you begin the whole A1 to C1 shebang..

Oh, and loud venues are always a good excuse to "come in for a whisper".. if ya get my drift.. Close proximity can only be a good thing..

Dance floor game is always tough. Try making eye contact with her, holding out your hand, and giving her a spin if she takes your hand.

Never "dance around her" like that. It is circling, like a shark. In western countries, it will put girls off. In eastern countries, maybe it is more normal, but you dont want to be a normal Average Frustrated Chump (AFC), you want to be different, you want to be spontaneous and confident. All women around the world respond to this energy on a deep emotional level.

Instead, do as the poster above said. Just give her your hand. Do it confidently, maybe do a silly move or two right in front of her first, give her a big smile, then just take her hand and start spinning her around. She will love it. Remember, be direct, be confident. The whole time you are doing this, you are thinking to yourself, "I am awesome. This girl is going to love dancing with me, we will be silly and fun and crazy, and everybody will watch us and wish they were in on it." It helps to think of any and all other girls you ever have kissed or flirted with or had sex with at the same time. The more women you can think of, the higher your confidence and energy will be.

Thanx for the suggestions dudes.

Rozorro i will definately try that next time.

Dagger i will keep yr advice in mind. Sharking is often seen around the clubs in Singapore. I do not know whether it is widely accpeted but some of my gal pals find it a nuisance while others seems to enjoy the attention provided that they do not come too close.

Ahh trying to pick up girls is a mind blowing experience. My mind always seem to be in a constant conflict whenever i try to make a move. God bless my soul.

NewAge

There you said it yourself. With sharking you can be either a) a nuisance or b) entertainment only thats forced to stay at a distance. You want to be c) getting laid! So turn off the self-doubt and fear in your mind (thats the only part of you that is in conflict with your god-given urges to reproduce) and get out there and approach those girls!!!

Good luck, pal! =)