So here's the field report..
I was at this party friday night working on my sarging skills, and basically hanging out with my friends wich one of them is a PUA and others have pretty tight natural game..
so here i was opening sets and talking to the ladies when i found myself being stuck at the same point at every set.
right after the opener i start chatting up the girls and get stuck with nothing interesting to say so it's either that i get their full attention but stuck without a followup or i just loose their attentions during the followup.
plus i can't get them to open up.
*notice that i was drinking but i was still kinda sober.
so what i think was my problem is that i dont have any canned material and even if i have had some i wouldn't know when to pull it out or how!
the other thing i think i messed up was body language but i am not sure of that.
oh and another problem was that the place was as loud as hell so it was hard chatting.
I think that i was terribly wrong about my situation, I am not even close to being an PUA, I am stuck somewhere in the loser AFC dryspell club.
help!... please.

ok, first off, if you're getting the opener and getting their attention GOOD, you're on your way. . .

if you find yourself getting stuck, I suggest breaking down your DHV a bit, I know it's a big no no in some PUA ideas, but I suggest asking a question!

Here's a freebie:

say : So what do you guys think about a guy who's always tongue tied around women, how's that make you feel?

This is a great ice breaker, number one, it hit's on what you're having trouble with and maybe that will get you to see what you're doing to your social value and give you some ideas to further conversation. . .

Another trick is to use this after that awkward pause that happens in all conversations:

"You know what's funny? I read a thing a bit ago about how every conversation has an awkward pause when new people meet eachother and it's always 7 seconds. Why do you think that is?"

That's a great way to get the conversation breaking forward and gives you a shot at saying something interesting. Remember to MULTITHREAD! Once one or two people start to answer, say "oh I almost forgot, excuse me for interrupting, but I wanted to get this out there before I lost it. .. " then go into an interesting story or anecdote. Then, you can come back to what you all were talking about earlier and it gives you time to come up with something new to keep the crowd interested.

I hope this helps you in your sticking point.

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Dude that was hardcore, thanks for the help.
I'll definetally use that stuff especially the multythred thingy.
any other offers would be apreciated and I will come back with a full followup field report as soon as I can.

glad to help, reef, maybe I do have something else I can offer, now that I think about it.

I suggest doing something I've been doing the past week.

Look at your life, and really think about all the cool stories you tell your buddies. Think about them.

are you thinking about them?

no?

do it now!

okay, now that you have thought of some stories, let's set about the next phase.

write them out.

like as in, open up notepad on your computer - start - run - notepad -<enter key>

now, type out your story.

read it.

see how it sucks? make it better.

make it interesting, and do the following things. . .

try and cut out all of the "I"s just tell the story . . .

come up with a reason for it, make it be justifiable such as "and that's why I like mustard on my hamburgers" or some such bullshit.

make your story have meaning, make it reveal something about you, and above all, believe it! It has to mean something to you, women can smell lies a mile away, so make sure it's a story you have been involved in and go forward.

Now that you have written this story, take the next week, and write a story a day.

Each time you write a story COPY THAT STORY BY HAND into a notebook ten times. Do this for each story, it will help you internalize it, you will have it basically memorized by that point.

Try and internalize the story, and most of all the REASON for the story. Make each story have a final outcome of showing you have HIGHER SOCIAL VALUE, ie, you saved a puppy, you helped a friend, you forgave a lover of an indiscretion, you beat up a jerk who hit a woman. . .

You can then pop these in and out of conversations over a week period when dating her and use them to develop closeness etc, remember to gauge use of the stories based on the appropriate level of the relationship to make sure you are not going into the creep zone, but staying in the interesting/seductive zone.

I hope that helps out!

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brilliant!
this sounds awsome and i definetally will work on this the following week
and come back with results, these are the things that keep me motivated to be a better player. new tactics and brilliant stuff that i would never have thought about!
Practice.. I owe you one Bro!