I pick up a girl at the bar, go home with her and full close 1st night. Definite chance of fools mate but it goes fine anyway. We go out a couple more times and all is well. We had loose plans to hang out tonight when she finished finals (BTW she is late 20's as am I).
She texts me the 1st time in the afternoon to say she finished finals. Cool.
Then while I am at the gym she texts me twice and calls once. Not cool, why is she smothering me? This seems like AFC behavior. As I am leaving the gym she calls me again, but I haven't checked my phone so I didn't know I've missed two texts and a call. Had I known I wouldn't have answered because that would be rewarding her bad behavior with my attention.
So we talk and she says that she expects me to have sex with her as a reward for her finishing finals. This seems usually forward for girls and their ASD, but I try to be cool and ask her why it is that I owe her anything. I then tell her that after i go home, eat and get ready i will call and meet up. It is only after hanging up that i see the three missed texts/call.
So I am talking to my roommate and eating dinner intending on hanging out with her despite the bad behavior, mostly because I am in the mood to go out and have fun. It's been an hour plus and she texts me again asking where i am - i definitely could have made it out by now and am actually headed to the door. Then she calls 2 times and texts again in a 10 minute span. I respond to none of these messages. At this point I am like 'Is this girl a stalker?' Does she have no idea about the rules of attraction? Does she thin that poking me in the arm is going to make me like her?
At this point I am done with her. I wasn't that into her already, but now she has sealed her own coffin.
These are my lessons learned:
1. calling or texting repeatedly w/o a response is a chump move, and the less time between messages the chumpier it is and the more attraction it destroys
2. I didn't really care about this girl, therefore i didn't respond to all of her messages - this made her like me more. (In a LTR failing to respond to your GF would put you in the dog house, so I have to remember that attraction and LTR's have very different rules)
3. If you lay them right the first time they will keep coming back for more
Follow up: I sent her a message and told her she was smothering me by calling and texting to much. I did it because I think she is a nice person and her behavior is driving me, and likely other guys, far far away from her. Then she got mad and texted me three more times and called once more. I guess she didn't get the message!
CHAT
