Hey all-I hope texting counts as field reports.

I met this smart, sexy woman my age who is very mature and a catch all around. I really want to date her. She works for the same temp agency I do and she gave me a ride home the other night. I was nervous because I always am around ladies that I am interested in on more than simply a sexual level, and I didn'nt plan on asking for her number, but she told me to take it before she dropped me off!

So I texted her yesterday thanking her for the ride home. She hit me back. we conversed. She said she had an interview for a promotional gig and I said with her smile she's a good as hired. It was a decent exchange of texts but I felt like I wasnt being funny enough, wasnt showing myself enough because I was nervous. She asked me what I was up to at that moment, I said I was about to ask her the same thing, and asked if she'd like to have dinner. She said she needed to sleep because of the am interview but we could rain check, and that it sounded fun. We texted a few more times then she said goodnight and "talk to you tomorrow".

Today I texted her to ask how the interview went. She returned. Todays exchange follows:

Her: Interview was good, how was your day?

Me: Alright, I just took care of laundry and errands, you know the exciting things in life.

Her: LOL! Yeah handle your biz pimping! (She is ghetto but smart and professional. She can switch between two personas, which I like)

Me: Hell yeah you know I got to get my hustle on or I got to get gone. I pimped out that laundry room.

Her: LOL! Your crazy do you smoke?

Me: Not anymore, I dont drink either. But I am good company unlike some sober people.

After that text I was second guessing myself, wondering if it was coming from the right place. So I followed up with:

Me: But I'll let you be the judge of that over dinner. (Tried to get a little more assertive here, expressing my interest clearly.)

Her: Haha just asking, I smoke on occasion.

Me: I love the smell of it though.

Her: Haha...yeah I really like the smell better than the high.

Me: (here's where I went for more cocky funny) Word. When I'm wealthy I want to have kilos of it laying around the house as air freshener.

Her: Word!!!! Me too! hahahaha

Me: (Here's where maybe I went a little too far with the same joke and being funny but she reacted well) Then when it gets too dry and starts to get all over the carpet we (notice I said we not I) can just bring it to the beach and have a camp fire. Best smelling campfire around ; )

Her: Ok! Thats hot! hahaha


Me: Word.

Her: Hey I got a tummy ache and I need to lay down for awhile, I'll hit you up later ok?

Me: Cool. Hope you feel better.

Her: Thanks!

The End.


I think that went well. I addressed some concerns I had and reacted well in my opinion. I expressed interest and seemingly made sure that she knew that we are not just becoming buddys but that I am interested in dating her. The only thing I can see thats missing is negs but she is smart and has no ***** shield so are they necessary.

It bugs me how I get when I am around ladies I actually like, because when it is just someone I just want to **** I am never nervous.

Thanks for input!

It was very good. should express some DHVs and be a little more interesting with the texts. dont just be average joe... be the fucking man! gl and try and get her out on a date soon.

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Her: Interview was good, how was your day?

Me: Not a lot, just hung out with friends. And courtesy of [female friend], I had to endure Titanic. [DHV, and negging girls in general, showing you don't care too much about them]




Her: LOL! Yeah handle your biz pimping! (She is ghetto but smart and professional. She can switch between two personas, which I like)

Me: Hell yeah you know I got to get my hustle on or I got to get gone. I pimped out that laundry room.

[good response]

Her: LOL! Your crazy do you smoke?

Me: Not anymore, I dont drink either. But I am good company unlike some sober people.

[not good -- you're qualifying yourself]

Me: I only smoke when I'm high.




After that text I was second guessing myself, wondering if it was coming from the right place. So I followed up with:

Me: But I'll let you be the judge of that over dinner. (Tried to get a little more assertive here, expressing my interest clearly.)

[sounds needy]

Me: I'm going down to McDonalds to smoke some weed, you're invited. (Tried to get a little more assertive here, expressing my interest clearly.)


Her: Haha just asking, I smoke on occasion.

Me: I love the smell of it though.

[she's in control of the frame, 'running' the conversation']

Me: They all say that.

[neg]


Her: Haha...yeah I really like the smell better than the high.

Me: (here's where I went for more cocky funny) Word. When I'm wealthy I want to have kilos of it laying around the house as air freshener.

[that's NOT cocky funny, it's not even funny, let alone cocky]

Me: Then you'll like my place, just don't smoke out the greenhouse.

Her: Word!!!! Me too! hahahaha

Me: (Here's where maybe I went a little too far with the same joke and being funny but she reacted well) Then when it gets too dry and starts to get all over the carpet we (notice I said we not I) can just bring it to the beach and have a camp fire. Best smelling campfire around ; )

[attempting to romantic and an IOI but it's too weak sounding to work very well]

Me: Awesome. I'll take you down to my personal beach, and seduce you by geting you high with the fumes from my campfire.

Her: Wink Ok! Thats hot! hahaha


Me: Word.

[agreeing with her, thus she is in control. Always control the convo.]

Me: You have no idea.



Her: Hey I got a tummy ache and I need to lay down for awhile, I'll hit you up later ok?

Me: Cool. Hope you feel better.

Her: Thanks!

Thanks. I like what you said. It probably sounded needy because I am needy. I am going to stop contacting her. wait for her to come to me, if she even does.

bad idea. if your thirsty do you wait for the beer can to roll to you? i didnt think so. keep in contact with her, but not 24/7. txting and such should only be used to setup dates. once you meet a person face to face its a complete restart.

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-dw3llz

dw3llz-

I hadn't noticed your first reply. Thanks for the positivity, I thought I had done alright with my texts myself. A little rough around the edges but not bad. Some people on Don Jaun forums said I did very badly.

Yeah, I am going to give it a day or two. I might see her at work tomorrow, I am not going to crowd her.

I don't want to take control of this thread but what do you think of this txt exchang?

Sly: You are always on my mind. Seriously this has got to stop. I can't devote my brain entirely to you
HBdarkness:You charmer! I don't believe you, you hardly know me
Sly:It's true. That's why I've put off trying to contact you.
HBdarkness: What a joker! You haven't tried 2 contact me cuz I'm always on your mind? That seems contradictory
Sly:You practically take up enough of my time as it is. Who knows, if we actually saw each other my brain might experience a hostile takeover or it might let off some of the pressure. Who knows.
HBdarkness: Goodness i wouldnt want to take over your brain, but i'd like to relieve your pressure... how in the world could we ever know which would happen?
(At this moment, I thought holy shit this is fucking happening. I then remembered that I had everything in needed in my head, the phone would be my conduit)
Sly: Yeah, i do have a lot of pressure built up. How about i show up at your place and and we do a little experimentation. Plus, I can't really get to know you until I've seen where live.
HBdarkness: Oh my god yr timing is awful! im on my way 2 (people I know)'s house right now. besides my house is full of dogs and cats and fish. your poor brain will never rest
HBdarkness: I mean a lady cant just bring strange men 2 her house and experiment w/ his brain, but you really shouldnt have suggested it... now MY brain is experiencing hostile take over.
Sly: It is like a drug, once you get a tast, you are hooked; and, there is only one way to deal w/ such an addiction.
HBdarkness: What way is that? I would try anything once ( )
Sly:Well, unfortunately, the SPAM can't be administered over the phone. ( ;D )
HBdarkness: Wheres the clinic where the administer the SPAM then? or should i just go cold turkey?
Sly: Cold turkey, that could be dangerous. As we seem to be suffering from the same condition, if you came over, then our afflictions could be mutuallly confronted and the two of us could start down the road to recovery
HBdarkness: So where do I come to recover? i and everyone around me is drunk... but i dont wanna go through withdrawls so i need your help if your up to it

I took a little bit to respond to that one so:

HBdarkness: Alright boy straight up come 2 chris and rachels house if your not busy
Sly: I am not too busy. I had not eaten anything in like seven hours. I will be over shortly.
HBdarkness: Gooood
Sly: Sarcasm. One of your many talents I'm sure.
HBdarkness: (I didn't understand this txt) Oh sarcasm...i don't even understand... i am talented...but not at that.

I went over and the night went pretty well. Read my FR for more.

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Call me Sly.
My goal: To become a Pickup Artist in everything but name.

And yeah, This is (still) just the beginning.

You the man, homie.

That's how you text.

You start it off with a pull, but the push has already been achieved prior. Then you create an in joke, while confidently stating your intent to come to her house, all the while teasing her.

Fucking perfect.