| So Thursday night I went out to three different places - first was a party with free food and Booze, which was a good place to do some pre-drinking. Due to alcohol's wonderful effects (I call it Liquid Courage), my approach anxiety dropped to 0. I met a lot of girls that night, some went well, but on the whole I was pretty much a chode the entire night. I opened a 2-set of girls with one of my buddies (he served as my wing that night) with a simple "HHHEEEYY!!!!" she responds with the same. I say "GOOD TO SEE YOU!" and she said the same, and we get a conversation started.
Eventually one of the girls asks me to get her a drink (mind you drinks are free). My FIRST shit test ever. I ask her what she wants, then turn to my wing and have him go get it. Not sure if that's a pass or not. But it doesn't matter because the conversation eventually runs dry and I eject. My wing comes back with the drink, I'm not there, and he gets pissed. Yes, not my best performance.
As the night goes on I approach a bunch of girls. I meet a lot of new people, and on the whole work on my inner game. Even though the alcohol started to wear off, my momentum kept me going. We go to a club because the one we wanted to get into was crowded. I approached a 3-set, but got the "I'm just having a good time with my girls tonight, sorry" reply. Fine, cut my losses and move on. I approach a 4-set of blondes; now say what you will about Mystery Method, but the whole "Let me ask your opinion" opener got me right into the set. I asked about a friend of mine who's going through some drama with his g/f, and the girls all ate it up. I tried to show them that bottle trick I mentioned about in another post, and I couldn't pull it off (oddly enough), but the girls were still interested. My problem however, was that I eventually ran out of things to say or do. Mind you I was just sitting with the girls, and they weren't trying to leave or kick me out or anything, I had fully assimilated into the group. But I didn't know what else to do, or what else to say. Eventually I decided to just eject.
We eventually get into the club we want and a friend of mine introduces me to this other really beautiful girl. I try to get to talking but, again, get stifled with nothing to say. I realized this: The whole "Can you dance?" or "Teach me to dance," or "Show me your moves" bit does not work. Those lines didn't work on any girl that night. I kept getting the "I've got no moves" line, and yet the girl might still head off and dance, or even start grinding some other guy. I felt like a total chode.
So here are my sticking points: 1) I run out of things to say, feel awkward, and eject. I may have a bar trick or two to show if the tools are available, but a natural shouldn't need that. 2) I have trouble thinking of something to say, sometimes I may have no AA but instead get stifled before an approach. 3) I have a little trouble AMOGing, but that's not a huge deal right now. But my biggest problem is closing the deal. I don't know how to escalate the situation and attraction. My flirting really has no direction towards a definitive goal. And I can't pump the "buying temperature". So, any advice guys?
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