So I'm not even sure if this counts as a field report, but tonight I set out with every intent to open sets...this failed miserably!

Walking into the club I was psyched up...the bouncer didn't even question that I belonged there. I gave him a smile and nod, my confidence was exuding from me like I owned that place, all he could do was nod back and sit back down.

Once at the bar, however, getting my first drink, AA set in hardcore. It was a new club and my brain kept finding excuses not to talk to women. Even sat down at the bar next to a 2 set...an HB4 (if you could even consider her that) and a warpig, and I couldn't even open that one. I had several openers ready to go...perhaps I was just overthinking it?

I failed to stick to the 3sec rule. WAY over thought my approaches to the point where I was paralyzed to approach. I saw a HB8 that I met a few times before where she would just look right past me...I knew exactly how that set would go and yet couldn't open it. Too much brain, not enough reflex.

I started the night intending to sarge solo...not an easy task in a new bar, but no excuse for not at least TRYING to open a set.

Tomorrow is another day, learn from tonight's mistakes and hope for a better session.

Yesterday was my second night at sarging, even tough i alredy DID talk to a bunch of girls the other day without closing, i had the same experience than you.
It's an awful situation.. i mean, as you know very much the theory... you can alredy predict almost anything.. you know what to say, and obiusly the reactions... you know who is looking at you.. and how to approach.
But there's something about that COULDN'T LET US EVEN TRY. That Paralize our head. I hate the feeling of coming home frustrated like this...
It's like being in a football court, being a real good player, but getting nervous...


Hey besides the 3sec rules.. Is there any other way to get the fear of sarging out?. I don't know.. Suggest will be very much appreciated

And Hotshot, i wish we both go well in the next sarging!!!!!!

I recommend you to learn inner game.
I highly recommend you "Mastery" from David Deangelo.

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I absolutely refuse to let this hold me back...I know it's just my brain trying to protect me...I wonder if I tried to start too big? I thought about sarging the whole room...maybe I need to rethink that and set my goal for just one set...then another, perhaps another after that. Start small and build up.

Definitely going to check out inner game and Mastery thanks Best

good luck to you erikoteh, glad to know I'm not the only one completely parlayed by this!

Take a good friend with you next time. Don't worry, he won't have to know PUA.

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