Hey guys

Today, as it was my day off I thought I would take the plunge and try appraoching some women. I would like to add first that I have had no pua training and have no routine as of yet.

I had read that it was a good idea just to go out and try starting up conversations etc just to loosen up. I wanted more than this and so planned on doing more. Didnt quite work out. I approached 3 women, the first one was no more than small talk, the second was a smile and a wink on saying goodbye, the third was better as I got talking to her and she seemed to be responsive, she was working as a leaflet distributor. I didnt have the balls to say anything more or try to get her number. I thought of it after I left and promised myself that I would go back and If she was still there I would tell her she was beautiful and ask her for a drink.

I walk back, the nervousness nearly made me collapse, my legs felt like rubber but I really felt like this was it. As I approahed within about 15 meters of her, I saw a van coming to pick her up and a man, who I assumed was her boss getting out. I bailed out, I just couldnt manage the last few steps. I was angry with myself, remorse is a terrible feeling. I asked another worker I spoke to farther done the street if she would be there again. He said yes a little bemused by the question but at least I know she will be there.

I again have made a promise to myself to approach her when I am there again. who knows.

Does anyone have any tips for overcomming approach anxiety as well as any good openers to get a good converstation going that will lead somewhere.....

Thanks for now

Dude, its an excellent thing that you recognize your aim to erase anxiety..


I would suggest to keep a little more detached from this ONE particular case, and practice opening other people.

Your nervousness is prob. because you havent enough experience opening/are a little rusty.

Always, ALWAYS, work on your inner game.

Repeat to yourself you are the prize,
you are awesome
bring out the great things about you

hope this helps

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Good going man, we all feel it.

I have been out for a while and still felt anxiety today also when trying to sarge.

My advise, either try to find a wing, are some great guys on this site whom if they are in your home town may be great to contact.

Secondly, use the philosophy, ' The worst she can do is say no, well actually FUCK OFF YOU UGLY SHIT, which she probably wont say,so just go for it'

It will come, i usually try a warm up, you know lower game, as a stretch before i go in for the kill