So I just got out of this exclusive relationship with a girl I was really into. Things were great for 2 weeks, then it got all sketchy and I really didn't see her at all, although we talked on the phone and text a bunch about how she was having all sorts of issues and whatever. Finally got tired of trying to make it work with her and so last night I got back on the horse and really went sarging for me for the first time in a month.
I was supposed to be meeting a few people at the club, but instead I show up and they aren't there, but the one guy I was hoping would show up, my wing Leg-z aka Legacy WAS there. I tell him my situation, tell him it's time to get back on the horse and I'd appreciate his help, cause that's what a great wing does, they push you when you need it, they help you in set when it's beneficial to you and they tell you that if you don't go open some sets real quick, they're gonna beat the crap out of you!
So we go into the bar, it's ladies night, so there's a decent number of girls, but another bar is doing $1.50 highballs till 11pm, so it's not as packed as I would like. I buy Leg-z a drink, cause he's there with a girl he's seeing and I owed him one. While we're standing there, who walks by, but the girl I just broke up with! Great, my frame that I've been trying to get back to where I was before seeing this girl instantly shatters and I end up not opening any sets for the first 20 min or so because there are so few people and it's easy not to approach when there's so much distance to cover (yeah that's right, AA never goes away, even guys that teach this stuff have it and even guys that teach this stuff can have trouble coming out of a serious relationship; look at what Mystery went through in The Game).
I decide to wing the only other guy from the lair that came to that club that night, getting him to open some sets and warm me back up. He opens a set, but it went sour pretty quick as it was a 2 set and although the one girl was open to having some fun, her friend was really depressed and dragging the energy down, so with my state I wasn't in a position to change that at that point. I open another girl, commenting on how her dress looks like avant garde art, but I couldn't hear anything she said, so I got bored quickly. I ended up running into a girl I made out with about a month ago, who's number I threw away cause she was pretty drunk, so I number closed her again without any effort. I was feeling a little more warmed up, but still not at my best.
We went back to re-group and chat with Leg-z, which is when he gave me his "Go open some sets, or else" speech. So I open the nearest set, which is a 3 set with 1 guy in it by commenting on how awesome his hat is and making friends with him, to get him to introduce me to his female friends. I get the name of the nearest one and yell, "Laura! You don't call? You don't write?" She totally thought she knew me, then I let her in on the joke, but that initial feeling stuck with her the rest of the night and she kept trying to figure out where she knew me from. They asked me to come with them for a smoke, so we went outside to the smoke pit, which is pretty big and where I get most of my sarging done at that particular club.
I was wearing my candy necklace (again to make it easier to kiss close and get back into the groove), so basically every set I ran from that point on would want some and so I used a technique taught to me by The Saint, where I tell them "no hands!", then when they've got some in their mouth and I've teased them about their skill with their mouth, I say, "Good, now give it back." So with this little technique, I got a girl to kiss me twice, but then her friend cockblocked me with the, "we're lesbians and she's my girlfriend" routine.
So I bounce to another set nearby with a girl with a bright orange Ramones t-shirt on and ask her if she's supposed to be the black box from a plane, because that's the same colour of dayglow orange that they're made out of (yeah, you can say any ridiculous thing once you get your frame good, which mine was again at this point). I didn't even bother to check out the rest of her set, she didn't seem involved enough with them, so I just started talking to her, then Leg-z comes in and defends her shirt cause the Ramones are a band he likes. I don't have any idea what I said past that, but I showed her how to shake hands like I do with my boys and we played around a bit shoving each other and such. She ate some candy, but when I told her to give it back, she decided to be sassy and spit it into her hand before offering it to me (I love a girl that can give it as good as she can take it). So her friends come by wanting candy too and she tells them they have to do it without hands for me, then they're good girls and when I tell them to give it back, they enjoy sticking their tongues in my mouth and kissing a little bit, all in front of my target. My target even ends up getting in on the eating candy at the same time as her friends, but I don't offer to have her give it back now, because I'm kissing her all 3 of her friends now (welcome to pre-selection). Then I give her my phone, which she can't seem to work, so she spells her name out and as her friends are dragging her off, she's fighting to stay near me and tell me the last digits to her number, then tell me "you'd better call!"
Bounce to a 2 set of girls nearby and while I'm talking with them, the girl I just broke up with comes by and starts poking and tickling me. I give her a hug and we talk a bit while she tries to steal my rings, then when I turn around a couple minutes later after getting a bit distracted with the thought of some breakup sex, I realise my set has finished their smoke and walked off. So I talk to her a bit more, this actually strengthened my frame, as I'm no longer worried that it's gonna be uncomfortable around her and I'm thinking there's potential for some breakup sex/FB action for the future.
I go back to see what Leg-z and his girl/her crew are up to. We go inside to have a drink in celebration of getting over my shit and to thank him for being such a good wing. As we're standing there, there's a girl right beside/behind me bar that he had said he thought was attractive, so I turn to her and start talking to her. Turns out she's having this issue with her best friend that she came to the bar from a concert with, who's girlfriend of 7 months is at the bar, yet he hasn't told her that my target is his best friend in all that time. I was about to number close, then the gf walked away, so she walked over to get her stuff and chat with her friend about the issue. I ended up seeing her later in the smoke pit and number closed then while talking to the friend, then saw her again inside by the dance floor, where the friend tried to convince me that they were going out. I told him that that was ok and that we'd just share her, I called monday, wednesday and friday, lol. Then she dragged me onto the dance floor, but as she was dancing all over the place (this is something strange that rocker chicks seem to do, they can't just dance with a guy, they dance all around him) and I saw the set that my "ex" blew me out of earlier (who I ended up having an in depth conversation about the lameness of breast implants just before seeing them on the dance floor), I started dancing near them and she dissappeared. I ended up talking to her outside after the club closed and built some more attraction and comfort (possibly too much, but she was crying because of how shitty her friend had treated her, so in a case like that, I'll be the humanitarian over the guy trying to get in her pants), resulting in a stronger connection and her really wanting me to call her when I get back in 2 weeks from my trip that I'm leaving for tomorrow.
So, by the end of the night, I got 3 numbers from the few girls that I was attracted to in the place considering the slim pickings and my picky taste, as well as 4-6 kiss closes (I didn't consciously make note of them, as they weren't with any of the girls I number closed and I was having too much fun). The night started out slow, but with the help of a good wing and keeping a positive mindset I definitely felt like I was back to where I was before getting into that relationship.
Being a PUA isn't easy, we're not just players, you aren't always detached and uncaring about the outcome, because emotions do get involved. You're gonna get hooked hard by the first girl you get into a relationship with after you get into this too, so be prepared for that if you haven't been there yet. It's worth it though, cause instead of being heartbroken for months like I used to get, I was torn up for 1-2 weeks while things were falling apart and then in one night the day after finally ending thing, I'm back to where I feel I should be. Also, don't ever let other guys give you hell for being interested in a girl, because that's the whole point of why most of us do this, to meet a girl we truly wanna be in a relationship with and make it work, but when it doesn't work, you DO have to know when to cut your losses and move on.
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