Well, I am not that good, mostly because I lack inner game and am pretty ugly which make me feel like I have less time than others to come to a hook point. But I am working out and spend all my money on clothing now. I have been an AFC for so long but when I found "the game" last summer I realized I didn't have to be. So now I'm working on it. Well, I live in a small city in the north of Sweden but this summer I am moving to Gothenburg together with another friend who also recently discovered the game (and broke up with his girlfriend, just like I did shortly after reading it). It will be project Gotenburg and it will be fantastic.

Well, anyway, friday we went to a small student club. I had been drinking pretty much but not too much (I need this for confidence but I will start drinking less and less). I am going through the mystery newbie drill so I am just practicing approaches and I'm not really hoping to get girls with me home yet (even if I have been succesfull a few times the last months, and the cool thing is that if I follow the game it works perfectly but sometimes I am just to shy or overthink it, this is why I really need to practice inner game). Well, anyway the first thing I do is to talk to the bouncer, then I do a handwriting analysis of the girl working in the wardrobe but I tell her that her handwriting indicates that she is boring so I guess she doesn't wanna hear the result (I mean I wasn't intrested in her and I just wanted to open as many people as possible to get rid of my shyness). When we enter the bar I start talking to the first guy I see, then I introduce him to some other people I haven't seen before and just like that I become the social center (good gaming is fantastic), then I turn to another guy walking by and tell him he looks exactly like a guy from my hometown and like that I have merged three groups. I also chat with the bartender as if I knew him.

Then a girl walks by and I do the routine where I ask her for a 90-s pop duo to name to puppeys. Then I try a neg and tell her she has eye ashes, she desperatly starts to get it rid from her eyes and I say "no, now it's just worse because you have rubbed it in", then she asks me one more time if it's gone and I reply "well, kind of" and smile. Then she nervously runs to the bathroom to get rid of it. Not very good gaming.

Anyway then I approach this girl from Poland and I talk to her a while and about Warzaw (maybe I should have gamed her properly right from the start but I didn't), then I run every single routine there is with handwriting analysis, I read her palms and I do a little NLP thing to get rid of her fears of dancing while no one else is one the dance floor (you know "focus on the fear, where is it? what color does it have? Imagine it dissappearing", and it works!). I tell her that she seems to be a very interesting person but she is way too much like my ex so there will never be anything between us. Then I grab her hand, lead her to the dancefloor and say "twirl". A pretty good compliance test, right?

Then one of her male friends comes by and tells me she has a boyfriend, I don't react do this at all and isolate her even more. Then I start telling all these stories with the "love spell" and one about me getting attacked by a pack of foxes who had set up an ambush for me. She laughs a lot. Then she tells me about her heard break-up (building comfort, right?). Then my idiot friend walks by and ask if I'm gonna get to sleep with her and I reply "hey, I'm not that easy", not she blushed and looks like me and says "me neither, me neither". A bit later she gives me her phone number and says "but we can only be friends". A bit later we leave the club.

Could I have kissed her? Should I call her? What should I say? The problem is that this is a really small town so there's really no way of doing anything interesting here, it's almost impossible to fake that I have a cool life. What to do? What to do? And if she only wanted to be friends, why would she have to point that out? Isn't that just ASD? And would it really be that easy to isolate her and she fell into every single hoop I put out and she was constantly trying to validate herself in front of me. And I amoged all her male friends.

I know this is a bit AFC but all of this is pretty new to me. I mean, I know the theory really good but my inner game is not strong enough to really dare to play it correctly. What to do?

I am thinkin of watching enormous ammounts of porn to learn to respect women just a little bit less? Or at least to become better in sexualizing them (I grew up with a very feminist mother and a part time dad and I joined leftish and feminsit political groups when I was really young so I haven't ever really be allowed to puruse my manlyness, but all of that is gonna change now). But that is one of the reasons why I didn't try to kiss her, I didn't want to make her feel uncomfortable. But really, in the long run, who is gonna thank me for not making people uncomfortable? No one! I have just realized this and I am about to turn things around!

Sounds like you did really well. Sometimes you just get unlucky and you have to move on.
But congrats on walking into the bar and acting like you own the place. When you told the girl she had eye ash, you should have gone in for some kino. I prefer the, you-have-an-eyelash-on-your-face routine and get some face kino, but you'd want to have better rapport with the girl before touching her face.
Same thing happened to me last week. Things were going very well and when I asked for her number she jumped at the chance but then a couple days later I get the "I have a bf' line. Shit happens.

Oh, I wouldn't advise watching rediculous amounts of porn. As fun as that may sound, it can lead to some psychological problems later on, ex: not being attracted to real women because you can ''have'' hotter women whenever you watch porn. But a little never hurt any one.
Plus, women should be respected.

There is a lot of wisdom in this quote, I and anyone else having thoughts like "oh it might make her uncomfortable...blah blah" should take your statement here to heart. Excellent discovery, my friend!

I agree with Mathius on not watching massive amounts of porn, you could be using that time to read material and practice your game! He's right too, women should be respected but that doesn't mean you can't game them haha.

One last thing, I know you said you're working on drinking less and less to build confidence in the field. Drinking in the field... as I've come to realize on my own(despite the fact that many people here and the Guru's advise against it) really clouds your game and makes you sloppy. Plus, there's no confidence booster like gaming girls when you're sober. If it gets easier and easier to do while you're sober, imagine how easy it would be with a little alcohol in your blood. haha.

It sounds like your game and self confidence could both use a boost, but you're obviously working on them so that problem will work itself out soon enough. Great job!

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You seem like a smart kid, you should really be more confident...

Smile fucker!!!!!!!!!

Smile more often, smile like you own the world...

Walk by women and give them a smirk from the side view...

Women are a dime a dozen...

No need to fear something that isn't going home with you!!!

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First I have to say thank you for your replies and that this seems to be a very nice forum. That is inspiring.

And I also agree that women has to be respected. What I meant is that I have a fear of seeing them as sexual beings. Which for me somehow has gotten confused with respect. Maybe watching porn would help that. Which is something I haven't allowed myself to do in a very long time since I started feeling it is degrading towards women (which I have now realized is true in a lot of cases but of course not all and even if a lot of women appearing in porn are victims I can't really see the harm in watching like Paris Hilton have sex, I can't see her as a victim). So maybe that would help me.

But could I have kissed this girl? If she agrees to let me take her hand over and over again and if she twirls when I tell her to. I mean isn't the key phrase here "if you think you could kiss her then you can"?

But I now what my sticking points are, as soon as things start going good I get nervous and I start to feel that the fact that I'm not an alpha male but a nerd (and I really am, politics, board games, indie pop, I have been all kinds of nerd). My whole life I have been the prey of the AMOGs and when reading the game last summer I have realized that it doesn't have to be that way, that anyone can be an alpha male in a given situation. But I have to work on that. I have always felt insecure around women. Even if I feel less insecure now when I have started to study the game. And I am actually pretty good at it when I really focus but as soon as I stop concentrating for a second I fall right back into approval-seeking nerdiness.

How do I work on this? I don't think just reading books is the key because I know how I am supposed to fake it, now I want to start believing it. How do I practice inner game? I have read some NLP and discovered one very useful thing: that every time I want to do someting in a social situation but don't really dare I should ask myself "what would happen if I did?", this is a very powerful way of doing things even if you are too shy. Because my whole life I have explained my lack of alpha-skills with saying "I am not an alpha person" making it to some deterministic ideology that limits they way I can act. Now all of that behaviour is gonna be removed. How can I develope my inner game so that I really start believing that I am an alpha male?

Well, friday it's back to gaming (I still don't dare approaching people in SPAM where you are not supposed to, so far I only do gaming in bars).

So my game is ok, but now I need to start internalizing it. And while doing so just keeping on making 3 approaches per hour.

And should I call the girl? And what should I say?

if girl touches you and lets you to touch her, you can kiss her without a questions. just make your face very close to her, nose to nose, if she doesn't go away or stop, in the minds she says "kiss me you motherfucker, what more should i do? say it?"

well, next time things are going that good (because they were as long as I was gaming by the book) I will just smell her hair, tell her it smells good and then ask how good of a kisser she is on a scale to one to ten.

But I have to dare doing things like that even if there's a chance she might get uncomfortable. As previously said, I need to work on my inner game. Well, friday I'll be right back out there again.

And I'm calling that girl again tomorrow. Just for the training. It's all a video game. That's the way I have to think.