As of today my relationship with a cute blonde has ended. It was an enlightening short lived relationship and my sticking point is now more butt naked,out in the open than she ever got. I cold approached her at my college and it went super fantastic, I felt like my progress was finally becoming consistent given I actually do the approaches. For most of our relationship I was the super confident guy and I played the game well. Then I began to break once it was time to kiss her and furthermore when she had to go home. I was no longer congruent with the confident guy identity she saw me as and her volume knob of attraction fell. I let my emotions get the better of me. Looking forward I will stay congruent with the confident guy I portray myself as, my emotions are only there to fuck me up as mystery says.

not sure i understand what you just wrote here,you were in a relationship before you even kissed her?

It wasnt a dating relationship. This is what happened

1. met her and built massive attraction, conveyed myself as very confident and alpha
2. got the number and continued that night with talking a bit and then met up with her the next day
3. still I'm confident and her attraction level is high, I build physical escalation with touching and we hold hands
4. Then when the time came for me to kiss her and she had to leave I became less of that confident guy she knew me as.. (not being congruent with the alpha male she identified me as already.)

I ended up making out with her that night but the point of this post was that Iv been having this sticking point of not being congruent with the alpha male personality over time as the interaction progresses.

Do you see anything wrong with remaking congruent to the confident guy you portray? Sounds like you are tiptoing around who you really are. That in itself isn't being congruent.

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That's a great point, the incongruency only seems to come in during certain times. Specific triggers will decompose my confident personality, among these are: when its time to kiss or when a girl communicates that she has to leave.
I usually am confident and alpha but when certain situations come up I don't have enough positive references to look back on. This must be the key, positive references give us reinforcement that we know what we are doing.