Hate to really call this a field report. It was a big fail i think, but see what you guys think

I've been out the pua scene for a bit, so you'll have to forgive the AFCness of it all. I feel like you guys may be the best to give me pointers as to where to go next (if there is a next).

Long story, ill try keep it as short as possible-

Met HB8 at club once- got along with her friends, eventually just me and her left and we had great kino/k closed, got a taxi back but didn't sleep with each other.

months pass and we fb message all the time (been about 8 months now) never been anything serious, just weird convo. Mostly talking about nights out planned/ uni work (we were on the same course). HAd a bit of banter with her. Shes not the brightest tool in the shed so its hard to know if she sometimes knew it was... anyway

spoke to her friends at a night out a couple of months ago and she said hb8 talks about me a lot- i was really drunk at this point and asked what she thinks I should do (not in a soppy way, was a bit of playfulness by the way I said it) she said she thinks hb8 in interested, just keep asking her to go out and she eventually will.

hb8 goes on a month long holiday and only just back- as soon as she gets back we message a lot, like everyday. eventually we decide to meet up this week.

I'll stop at this point and give you a bit of an idea what she's like.

shes very dominant. likes to be able to control people- even her friends. she is anxious, but makes up for it by being a loud mouth. shes not the brightest- doesn't get many jokes, then you have to explain and shes like "ohhh". shes really weird. she used to not be hot at school, but in the past 5 years really changed, so i think thats where the anxiety comes from. The controlling probably does too tbh. Anyway, shes very unemotional- its hard to gauge her at the best of times.

Right, so the past week shes been really flakey, then today she asked me if im still up for later and i said yeah, then she said made an excuse that shes really busy and might not be able to make it, so i said its cool, im out with some friends anyway so text me if shes free. about 7 o clock when i was in the pub with some mates she messaged me, saying her bro's coming over soon and has a meeting tomorrow at 10 so cant do a late one, but can come out. when she came into town, she was saying she was at street x when we were meant to meet on street y so i said lets meet in the middle, then after about 10 mintues of popping from one place to another eventually met in the middle (i wasn't going to be the one walking to her ). when we met, i had the intent to hug but she was pointing something out and the moment for the hug passed (her body language for kino is hard to read at the best of times- more on that later). we went to a bar and got drinks, i offered to pay (as it was a date, i thought it would be okay to pay for drinks) but she didnt- she wanted wine in a weird glass and some nuts in it so i asked the bar tender and she was like "no! only joking"- a bit of playful humour. anyway, we sat down and talked for a bit. nothing really of substance though- she likes telling stories about herself and I'd do the same, sometimes she'd interrupt and i'd said "let me finish first" sometimes, i acted disinterested in her stories. substance did come up- we talked about her bro/ when we were younger etc. then moved on. got a drink in another place (this time i paid for both) and sat for a bit talking, eventually she was making hints that she'd need to go as her phones dying, so i suggested going to my friends, who lives in a penthouse suite and chilling there for a bit and smoke a bit of pot. She finished her drink and I still had a lot in my bottle, so I told her to smuggle it out- we walked out the bar with it in her coat pretending she was sick and had a bit of a laugh. After that we went there and blazed for an hour or 2- her getting to know my friends, me talking to them causally- including her in the convo. etc. she eventually had to go back as her brother was actually coming around (saw the texts). she was saying "you'll have to guide me out" then i said ill go to, so we left together. she wanted to walk back, but i suggested a taxi so we got one and i paid (in hindsight I should have walked back- more time together. this is a massive mistake imo)on the walk to the taxi, we had a bit of banter, we'd hae awkward bumps together (slight kino, but not great- mostly done by me really) i was taking the piss out of her for being so high and ruffled her hair a little. We got in a taxi and drove back- she said bye and got out. her body lang again wasn;t like she was expecting even a hug, so i didnt do anything. Funny thing is- taxi driver said to me on the way back "why didnt you do anything you moron!, you could have asked wheres your invite in!".

Just got back and text her "taxi driver asked if we were high. i sat there silent then laughed. In a bit *** (in joke from earlier), message me tomorrow if you eventually find your place (relating to earlier in the night were it took us 10 mins to get to each other)."

So, in summary- this girl isn't very emotionally expressive- so i didnt pick up on cues if there were any for kino escalation. only time we really could was bouncing between places and on the sofa when getting high (but as my friends were there, i thought thatd be weird). so kino was almost non existant. walking back home would have been perfect time for that, especially as it was fairly cold. (fucking hindsight).

Cons-
- main one was lack of kino by far. I'm uncomfortable doing it anyway and her unreceptiveness was a hard road block to get over.
-didnt talk much substance


Pros-
-she had legit excuses and still came out. bounced successfully from place to place.
-met friends and was comfortable

WHat do you guys think? Is it salvageable? okay for a first date? whats my next steps?

thanks for reading, any opinions are welcomed!

First of all, dont write a giant wall of text. Breaking your story up into seperate paragraphs makes it a hell of a lot easier to read.

Also, don't smoke pot. Try to refrain from drinking to much as well. You want to be sharp. If you need a few drinks to be bold, then do so, but don't take drugs. As I learned in Boulder that stuff fucks with people so much.

It's good that you K-closed this chick a while ago. Otherwise you'd probably be permenantly stuck in the friend zone. I'll be honest though, you're pretty close to being permenently friend zoned. If you're not careful you're gonna be the harmless guy friend that she keeps around.

Don't let her be dominant, and if she says "I'm not done talking" I would hold up my finger and continue talking. You've got to be the one leading every interaction. Don't act disinterested in her stories, with that being said don't act like everything she says is the word of god. If you're disinterested, ignore her. Hopefully this will signal to her to change the subject. Alternatively you can change the subject.

You need more Kino. You can't say "I'm uncomfortable with it anyway" as an excuse. I used to be uncomfortable talking to women. Can I just say "Oh, I'm uncomfortable with it" to justify not approaching a set? If you do not kino you will be friendzoned. It's happened to me and just about everyone on this site before. The irony is that you have a bigger chance of not closing with this chick due to NOT kinoing. Most girls are cool with kino.

Also, you brought her back to a place twice bro, twice! She wants something from you, and I don't think its grammar skills or stock advice...

Just Kino. It feels akward the first few times. You'll get over it.

In conclusion, stop smoking Pot and Kino. You'll do fine.

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