Night Game - Surprising results with experimentation

Went out over the weekend with a friend to get some practice in. We went to a couple different venues but because of the earliness there was literally no one there. We played pool until about 11:30 then went back to one of the venues we visited earlier and it was just picking up. I decided that I wasn't going to be a wallflower but make as many approaches as possible. I made my first approach within the first minute, joked about her dress, and then went on the dance floor. The interaction went well, but it was just to break the ice and I noticed a guy hovering which I initially (and correctly) worked out to be her boyfriend so ejected

CRAZY DANCEFLOOR GAME

So for much of the night I had girls coming up to ME and grinding on ME. I believe this was due mainly to my "centre of attention" behaviour. INSTEAD OF hanging back towards the wall and quietly shuffled, I pulled my friend to the FRONT and CENTRE of the dancefloor where I was dancing enhusiastically. At least two sets of girls approached me - a 3 set and a 2 set. I also had my eye on another cute, short girl, but TWICE when I went to approach her on the dancefloor a guy suddenly came up and started dancing with her. I had to wait until she went to the bar to approach her. She responded enthusiastically but I failed to ask for the number because her friend was grabbing her attention.This was a big mistake because I was attracted and she left soon afterwards.

For the rest of the night I just danced, before realising that people were leaving and I hadn't yet pulled the trigger! I isolated one of the girls in the 3 set by asking her to follow me to the bar. Back at the bar we chatted then I asked for her number - she told me that she had a boyfriend who lived with her and her two kids.

Burn.

Soon after I asked another girl in that set for her number. She wasn't particularly attractive but I figured it would be good practice. She gave me some bullshit about her soon changing her number. I treated that with skepticism and went back to my friend. I wanted to go in on the two set but they were quite obviously in deep attention with a bunch of guys who approached them later. I went outside, got something to eat, and left.

LESSONS LEARNED

1. Stop being a fucking pussy and isolate and go for the number ASAP
2. Centre of attention game only works for so long. By the end of the night the same girls who approached me no longer wanted to dance.
3. Establish a commonality/reason to ask for the number before doing so, unless she is OBVIOUSLY attracted.

That's it for today folks!

Love dance floor game. Being the center of attention where you are just having fun is very contagious and refreshing for a lot of girls who are used to guys being predatory and creepy. It makes the girls feel comfortable and WANT to approach you or at least give you proximity and approach invitations. If you were interested in one of the girls from the 3 or 2 set that approached you on the dance floor earlier, you should have stayed in set, isolate, escalate, close, etc. or find out the logistics and relationships early to make a decision on picking a valid target that didn't have a boyfriend or whatever, while the energy and attraction is still fresh. You're right about establishing a reason for the number close as it definitely increases your close rate.

_________________
Elevate Your Game | Check out my blog for attraction and dance floor game advice!
willedward.com
-> PM me for Coaching and Personal Training <-

I totally agree with you. In fact, this is what I usually do, but I haven't been out much recently, so I'm rusty and making stupid mistakes that I should really know to avoid. One of the reasons I've reported this is so I'll have something to look back on so I don't repeat the same mistakes next time.

Dance game is fun and all, and pulling numbers shouldn't be that big of a deal, but if you want to actually meet up with the girl for more, you have to isolate and make a real connection and talk some real shit, or 99% of the time the number will flake...

_________________
My Pick-Up Journal

Totally agree. In fact, I'm pretty sure I said the same thing in one of my field reports a few months back. I had a bunch of numbers over a couple of months that simply didn't convert. When I stepped back and examined the ones that did, a couple of things stood out:

1. Those that responded I spent the most time with
2. Those that responded I had bounced to a totally different area in the club or a totally different venue.

In fact, I was just beginning to develop a sense of how interested she was in me within minutes....then I moved away from London ( SOB) losing my independence, access to tons of venues with women, and my sixth sense went with it.

My main issue is that I wait waaaay too long to pull the fucking trigger. But that's something I'll have to keep in mind for the future.