Hey guys!

I wanted to start a pickup journal. Before we start with field reports, a little bit info about myself.

I am 27 years old and I live in Stockholm. I am not a native Swedish speaker, because I come from another country in EU. I can speak some Swedish, because I've been living here for 3.5 years, but usually I pick English as my first option, because everyone speaks it here. I consider myself rather good looking, but I have rather poor social skills which made me unsuccessful with women. I had only 3 relationships in my life, 1 of which was shorter than two months, and the other two were long-distant. However, now when I found the pickup community a few months ago, I developed my skills rather quite rapidly…

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The party was just 2 metro stations away from my place. Once I entered the metro I immediately spotted an HB8 sitting alone and looking at her phone. I immediately sat in front of her with an intention to open. I was hoping to get an eye contact, but she was looking intensively into her phone with her earphones on, not paying a slightest attention to me. I knew that the journey takes only 1:30min. I knew that in such an amount of time, there is still a good chance to #close, because I did it many times before, but it hardly ever happens that these girls commit to go out on a date. It's just too little time to make enough impression. So I flaked this time. In the hindsight, I should have opened, but I didn’t. It seems I still have some AA, even though I thought I am dealing with it pretty well as a beginner.

The party theme was "Glow lights", so when I entered, I received a glowing bracelet. The problem was that it was really difficult to put the bracelet on with one hand, so I needed some help. So I decided to try it out as an opener. I asked a couple of volunteer girls to help me, but didn't continue the interaction, because I wasn't interested. Unfortunately (or fortunately) the bracelet fell off again and this time I found a cute volunteer girl (HB8) to help.

- Thanks!
- No problem.
- Um... By the way, Can I ask you a quick question?
- Sure!
- Are you a cat person or a dog person?

I ran Style's cat and dog opener that I often use. The girl seemed quite interested and we fluffed a little bit afterwards. She told me that she is going to help with face painting and asked me if I wanted to get my face painted according to the party theme. I agreed and got a few colorful strokes on my face. After that, I hesitated a bit whether I should go for #close. I was quite confident I could get it, but I thought I could also do it later. Unfortunately, she was quite busy painting faces the rest of the evening so I didn’t get a chance to interact with her again.

The dance floor was still rather empty, but I continued there anyway. Dancing is what I consider my strong part. I joined a set of three girls dancing who weren’t especially hot, but again - there weren’t many options. They didn’t push me away and after some time a couple more guys have joined the circle. One of them went to the middle which made it a good opportunity for me to show off, too. So after him, I went to the middle and did a few crazy moves. I noticed that one of the girls, HB7 started to show some IOIs (keeping eye contact). So I went forward, presented my arms and danced in a couple a bit. Then I backed off and pushed forward a few times, until our dance became really sexy and we were grinding against each other. Our faces were really close and even though I knew that there is still probably not enough sexual tension for a good kiss, I went for it anyway. Right before I kissed her, she exclaimed “no”, but I was already too close and kissed her anyway. It was a short, but solid kiss, and she actually kissed back, too.

We danced a bit more and then she said she wants to go outside for a smoke. I don’t smoke, but I followed her anyway. So we got the first chance to interact properly. The girl’s name was Oihan and she was from Spain. She was with one friend, so I ran bloodstrology routine on both of them which went pretty well (this was a routine I wanted to practice that night). On the negative side, the interaction outside went quite platonic with little kino and me not knowing what to say except for the routine. Running out of things to say is the usual problem for me and I find it especially difficult if more than two people participates in the interaction.

We went back inside and danced a little bit more, but I noticed that she was getting bored and she didn’t want to dance closely anymore. I thought it would be good to give her a break and I went to meet a couple of my friends who just came.

I chatted a little bit with my friends and tried to open a few more sets, but the interactions didn’t go well. At that point the music got really loud, so it was difficult to communicate. So I went back to the dance floor and danced with some girls, but without any bigger luck. I haven’t been in particular looking for Oihan and it was probably a mistake, because the pause became too long.

After some time I met an Australian girl that I know (Talicia, HB8) whom I am interested in. I met her only two times before and the first time went great while the second was so-so. So I knew that this third time might be decisive. The initial conversation was pretty dull, but then I ran best-friend test which livened up the SPAM a little bit. After that we went to the dance floor. At this time it was so crowded that we barely had space to move. It was too bad, because I couldn’t showcase any of my moves that required space. I tried to dance with her one on one which she allowed, but kept pushing me away if I got closer. So I just continued to dance solo for a while. I think the three girls (one more of Talicia’s friends joined us) got pretty bored of me, because I was pretty bored myself, too (even though trying to appear happy and smiling). Then something rather disastrous happened: Talicia talked to her friend that recently joined and her friend pushed me away with her back. I told Talicia that I am going to find my friends and her friend exclaimed “Good!” and showed thumbs up. It was a super-clear red-light. So I left these girls for the night.

Despite this unsuccess, I still pretended to be happy and continued to dance with random girls making a few good but shallow connections. After a while I found Oihan. She was friendly but rather cold. I decided to go for her phone number now:

- Hey, I will probably still see you around today, but can I get your phone number? I enjoy interacting with you and I would like to meet you sometime…

I used this line quite a lot recently. I don’t know if it’s good or not, but it usually gets me the number. Unfortunately, after giving the number she said that she wants to be alone and went to the bar. So I went back dancing…

There was one more girl with whom I made a closer interaction that night (Danae, Brazil, HB7). We danced pretty closely and I could probably go for the kiss, but this time I didn’t do it. It was a very similar situation as with Oihan, so I decided to wait for more tension to build up this time, but it never did. We went to grab some water together and I ran bloodstrology on her. She enjoyed it, but the interaction was pretty short and shallow overall and then she wanted to go back dancing. I danced with her and some other girls until the party has ended.

I have #closed three girls that night, but the next day I didn’t get any replies. Maybe a problem was my stupid overly-sexual first text message (“Hey, this is the hot guy you met yesterday. How was your day?”). However, the live conversations were so shallow, that I couldn’t think of any good pre-seeded text messages. So I wanted to try this and see what happens…

Summary:
* Sometimes I am able to build up enough enough sexual tension for the kiss, but that’s on the borderline. I know that if I lean in slowly, she would turn away, but if I lean in quickly, I can kiss her anyway. I don’t know if kissing her in such case is good or not.

* I have a big problem of running out of things to say, once I am out of my pre-scripted material. If I am one-on-one, I try to get away from this by asking questions, but if there are more people, when I am left standing and listening while the others talk to each other…

* I can #close a few girls per night but the interaction is too shallow and I don’t get any replies. This report is actually from last week. This Saturday I #closed or Facebook-closed 8 girls, but only 2 of them replied to the first messages, and only one replied to the 2nd. I think I should start to focus on the quality instead of the quantity…