| 2 weekends ago, i had a few friends coming over and we were all looking for something to do. i hit up another friend of mine who had a keg that needed to be killed with just a couple friends over. my crew was 2 girls and 4-6 other dudes. one of the girls i was gaming (well call her cindy) solid 8 mexican girl. we show up at the house, (3 other dudes, one girl, 8.5 well call anna) as soon as we walk in i sit down to play some cards. i know all the dudes in the house and so i know this is instant social proof. anna keeps looking at me over the table, i kept teasing her saying she and one of the other dudes had been dating 6 years. i was more interested in cindy at that point so i kept ignoring her. eventually, were all playing beer pong and she(anna) keeps finding reasons to touch me, i keep teasing her saying shes invading my bubble, lots of good kino. we go back to playing cards and anna is shouting saying shes only giving out her number once. every dude is there with their phones out like little bitches. i keep ignoring her. (cindy is giving me a back massage at this point)
cindy's overprotective brother is there when he sees her massaging me and tells cindy theyre leaving. cindy wants to stay so i offer to give her a ride home later. her brother gets pissed and starts yelling at me. i just stay cool and tell him ive got his baby sister taken care of. he ends up looking like a douche and finally leaves. we cash the keg and the rest of my crew is ready to head back to my crib. i can tell anna is feeling left out here so i go talk to her for a second. she tells me to call her, i tell her i dont have her number. she starts giving it to me at which point i say, "fuck it, ill just facebook stalk you" she laughs, were out. as soon as we leave cindy is all over me were making out in the back of my friend's car on the way to my crib. cindy stays the night and all is good. now back to anna.
i hit her up on facebook and within a couple hours i have her number and about 3 playful texts from her on my phone. a couple days later i call her and tell her we have some friends over, i ask if she wants to come over and she's hesitant so i look at my buddy whos chilling with me and im like, "yo dude this chick is KINDA cool, i dunno, would you be pissed if she came over?" obviously, hes cool with it so i go and pick her up. we smoke some pot and then suddenly all my friends bail and its me and her chillin in my room. i know its not the right time yet so i take her down the street to the lake where there was a bunch of ice sculptures. long story short, were playing around on the ice. i biffed it on the ice and fell..... while i was carrying her. i panic for a second but then shrug it off and tell her were heading back. im escalating kino after getting some IOIs. we get back to my place and make out for a couple hours in my room just cuddling and kissing. i had early class the next day so i take her to her friends and get her to wake me up for class the next day.
dont talk to her for a couple days maybe a text or two each day. monday we talk about doing something but i end up getting back spasms and am stuck in bed all night. tuesday, she says she really wants to hang out after her cheerleading practice, so i tell her to call me when she's done. i never get a call (she says she fell asleep suddenly) but wednesday she's texting me wanting to hang out that night, shes gotta pick her shit up from her ex's though. i tell her ill call her after i get off work around 9. i call and she doesnt pick up. texts me a couple seconds later, "hey whats up i have not gone there waiting for him to get off work" she's bailed on me the night before so i go to a friends house to play some beer pong. hour and a half later i ask her how its going. her: "were in a middle of a huge fight and im about to cry i prolly will be really bitchy or upset its prolly not something you want to deal with" i pretty much tell her bye straight up she says shes not ignoring me, etc. then she tells me theyre settling it over drinks. (for the record, i know this is bullshit) she says she's going to call when shes done. a couple more hours go bye i say to her straight up that i think shes lying to me. her response, "im not lying to you but if youre going to think that fine i dont want to get in 2 fights 2night" she promises me shes calling me back when its over she "doesnt want to leave things like this" with him. hour and a half later she texts me to tell me she's at her friend's house. i tell her im going to pick her up and she says she doesnt like people seeing her cry, etc. i call her and we talk for about 2 minutes. im quiet and chill about shit. she keeps calling me hun and saying she really wants to hang out but its bad timing or whatever. i apologized to her the next morning on a facebook message and never got any response. that was yesterday. i decided im not going to call her for at least a few days.
for the record, im not sure what she was doing but im pretty sure she was lying to me. nobody goes out drinking with their ex til after 2am without something. she basically strung me along. im not exactly sure what to do now. im somewhere between giving up on her and ignoring her for a few days. i think i showed low value by checking up on her throughout the night, but she is the one who wanted to hang out in the first place. any suggestions what i should do/insight as to where i went wrong?
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