Hi y'all ,

I started taking dancing lessons recently , yesterday i met a girl at the lesson.
at the end of the lesson there is a party where all levels of people join and dance together.
i started dancing with some girls and saw she was looking at me , i danced with her as well.
At some point we sat on the couch and started talking , it was really fun i made her laugh and another girl who sat with us , i told both of them i was learning massage , they liked it and she said she needed one , i tried to do some to her, but stopped after a minute because she didn't seem to go with that (later she said she would be comfortable if a partner she knew would do her massage), then someone took her to dance and i continue speaking to this girl and we were having fun (she was pretty and a girlfriend of one of the instructors) , after she finishes the dance she saw we where still speaking and laughing then she sat on my laps , almost every time i told something funny she touched me.

After the party was over she asked where do i live so i told her that i'm going there by foot and she started walking with me , on the way we touched each other and sometimes hold hands , when i asked her for her name she asked me so i told her a fake nickname , she laugh and didn't want to reveal her's so i made her a nickname also , when we were near my apartment i pointed up to my room and said that's where i massage people , she didn't seem to be responding like 'hey what a cool place' or stuff like that , she was chill so i didn't ask her to come upstairs , we continue walking to a place where she could catch a cab , on the way i asked her for her number she just continue to talk ignoring that question , we got there and started to talk for an hour , she showed me some capoeira moves which i knew a little so we started "fighting" , that was funny , then the conversations got to a point of what she would like to do in the future and stuff , she didn't really was paying attention to the cabs passing by despite the late hour.

I cab stopped nearby , i asked her again for her number , she said "see ya on Monday" (the dance lesson) gave me a hug and got into the cab , and i went home.


It seems at the start things escalated OK but at the end nothing , i am probably a fool not trying to invite her up despite her being chill , must get the idea of "she is not a slut! don't invite her in" out my head.
What do you think i should do next on Monday when i see her ?
does she playing with me or putting me on the friend zone ?

Thanks for your help

I think this girl might be interested in you sexually. Why would she have given you her phone number when you could have taken her hand and boned her right there and then in your apartment?

Even whilst waiting for the cab you could have said something like this to her:

"You know, we've been talking for quite a while and I'm trying to figure out how to get you to spend the night with me."

And that may have been enough to get things moving.

So, next Monday, see if you can get her to your apartment again (if you want to have sex with her that is). The fact that she just ignores you when you ask for her number is an indication that she wants to keep the door to sex open. You calling her and asking her out on a date may ruin that you see.

I imagine this girl isn't interested in a relationship.

Good luck.

From your description, how you guys talked for like an hour after first meeting each other, it sounds to me like she is interested in you, and maybe wants to take things slow. My guess is that she's been burned, probably recently, and is more afraid than anything else, and it might take a few times seeing her to be able to show her you're a good guy. I would get clear on what you want from the girl (sex, relationship, fwb situation, etc.) so that you can appraoch it that way. If you have a clear destination of what you want to hit with her, you can start working your interactions so that they go that way. She probably wants to feel like "this is meant to be" and all that if you're interested in a relationship with her, or at least getting to know her more. I would just be persistent, and keep on kino escalating, especially starting off next time how you left off this time, so there is no ground to be made up.

What I've had a lot of success with, when girls are reluctant to give me their digits, or get them back to my place or their place is to use what if statements, like, what if we went back to my place and watched a movie? Or something like that, so that it gets her visualizing doing that with you, and thus it feels like the experience can be her's, you're just offering an idea. if she's into you, it's not going to take too much to get her to say yes, and I think you should focus on getting her on a date on the spot, rather than getting digits, unless she's busy, because otherwise she might get distracted.

Hope this helps.

You both suggesting different ways i should take it ,
not sure what to do and how to read this girl yet

I do know that she is quite interesting girl to get to know more about
so i think i would like to give it a try and try to get to know her better
Anyway it goes , does sleeping with her might ruin a change to date her ?

I will probably see her at the dance lesson and we will dance after that at the party
i will try to keep kino escalation , at the end of the party what do you think i should do and how ?

Ask her if she would like to have drink ? \ come to my place ?

It sure was a fun night , especially the part where she gave me her bag and jacket and started doing all sorts of capoeira moves i mentioned ha ha crazy and after that she gave me a little massage.

Lol i did had a lot of clothes on my bed but i was ashamed mainly because i was judging myself "what ? are you trying to bring her up and have fun!?" like its a bad \ wrong thing to do , she probably wanted to be invited , i will work on that.

As for not giving her my name you are right i was trying to be playful , she did found my nickname funny and we laugh about it , maybe i did had to give her my name right after we laugh about it , its weird not to know a person name.

* Haha no i don't know what i want i guess it like anything goes

** there are a lot of places to take dance lessons , find yourself a school and a social dance like Lindy-hop
where guys lead the dance and in class lesson the girls need to move from guy to guy every few minutes , great to have fun with girls and know a lot of ppl

Thanks DA!

Update on last Monday :

She was a little late to the class , when she saw me we said hey to each other then after she danced with others she got to me , we laugh and talked a little while dancing.

Later at the party i danced with her , talked a little bit after the dance , i asked her how is you kidney ? (that was the nickname i gave her because last week she said her back\kidney area needs massage ) , she said "you are going to ask that all night ? " while laughing because i asked her already , she remembered my nick name and laugh about it and before i had time to say my name someone took her to dance ,overall she was touching me a little , probably less then last week.

The party was almost over we sat near each other , i asked if she wanted to dance or she is probably tired , she said yeah why not i never say no to a dance , then she walked to the dance floor (only other couple were dancing near by , almost everyone gone) , she used her finger to signal to me "get over here" in a tease way , then we dance that was nice and funny , later we where near the elevators sitting on couches , me her, her sister which i didn't know were dancing there , a couple of dance teachers , she asked everyone if someone has a car and can give her a ride home , someone agreed.

We got down to the street everyone left , we continued talking me her , her sister and the person who is taking her , she said to everyone "hey we walked me almost home last week" and pointed at me , i laughed about her "poor" capoeira moves , she laughed and we started "fighting" again , i gave her a little slap(not hurting hehe) , she laughed and was shocked then she came near to me with a "what did you do ? " move , hands to the side and her chest inflated , of course laughing.

Later the were starting to move she said bye to me , after two second her sister said my name and asked if she was right ? (she probably heard my name when we were at the lesson) , i said yes and that is it.

I found out her name on facebook , its not a regular name , she did had a boy friend in the past year.
What do you think ? add her on facebook and talk with her ?