OP: Sudden Escalation

Abstract: This is my first field report, and my first date after attempting to outgrow my AFC tendencies. For those of you hesitant to get in the field, stop being self-conscious and get out there. Needless to say that today really exceeded my expectations.

Like any aspiring PUA my journey began after getting fed up with the Woman in my life having the final say on our relationship. To celebrate by recent break from oneitis I recently joined this community and decided to put my amateur skills to the test. Being that it was 6pm on a Monday of finals week at my university, my options for going out and picking up a stranger were severely limited. Thus I took to the land of facebook to see what was on the market.

I struck gold on my first spin of the wheel. Bare in mind I wasn't looking for a 10. I am not ready for a 10, and in College you have to be careful because it's a closed community and reputation is key. I found the perfect mark. A lovely girl I had met a month or so prior, but for whatever reason never connected with. Under the guise of finals boredom I messaged her. Her response was instant, and the game was one. I did not feel like wasting time on small talk. Small talk on social media is something AFC Apollo would do. No I became Apollo Savage, I was relentless. Immediately I blamed her for us never hanging out. I told her that she should stop playing hard to get. Even though I engaged her first I called her out for flirting with me first. After playfully feigning hurt feelings, she agreed to go out to coffee to make it up to me. I got her number and set a date for the next morning.

I arrived at the coffee shop the next day several minutes early. I found myself a seat where I could be seen and messed around on my laptop acting like I was looking up important stuff. She arrived shortly after and the games began. Since I already had some rapport with her I did not need to employ an opener. Actually after discussing the necessary fluff (how's life, how's the dog, there's weather outside, etc.) I jumped straight to the negs.

Being rather new on the scene I'm still a little new to the concept of negs, so I'm trying to ease into negs that could be perceived as personal insult. She ordered a Moca or Latte and I neg'd her on being basic and asked why she liked something so foreign, the accused her of being unamerican. College girls are surprisingly sensitive to being perceived as unamerican. So far I had the upper hand. I was setting the tone of the date and I loved it.

I have not had enough time to prepare material yet, so I needed another way to keep her engaged while I built up enough rapport for a successful close. I knew she was comfortable in the coffee shop, but I needed her to feel comfortable with me. If there's one thing girls hate more than being called unamerican, it's being called unadventurous. I suggested that the coffee shop was to empty, and that we go over to the nearby college campus and take a conference room to ourselves.

She was not ready for this. She told me she was getting a rush as I bluffed our way through offices and explained that we belonged to one organization or another. Finally we got a room to ourselves. Now at this point I had engaged her physically and employed kino to the point where she was comfortable leaning on me when I stood close enough to her.

Gentleman I wish I told you I kiss closed in a classroom because that's awesome. Unfortunately I had no such luck. As I continued to talk to her about whatever it was we were talking about (the sports she played or something). A study group of three walked in to the room. The group was sociable enough so I decided to capitalize on the opportunity to impress my date. I explained to them that we were part of a physics study group (neither me nor her being in physics), and that they were more than welcome to share the room with us. I took a gamble and actually began engaging the other group in conversation rather than my date. I was hoping this would display my value, and it worked.

When I decided to leave the room I announced that the rest of our study group was not coming and that we were leaving. She followed me out and noted that she was impressed with how quickly I made friends.

At this point I pretty much reverted to the cocky funny approach, however here our date lost some momentum. She was smiling the entire time, but was constantly remarking how rude I was every so often. She never asked me to stop, so I guess my cocky funny worked, but it was really subpar. We relocated to another open seating area on campus as began to talk about our childhood experience.

For some reason or another the concept of homosexuality came up and she told joked with me that I would make a cute trans. I muddled around making some jokes that maybe I was trans, and then I realized, she was neging me. So I quickly regained composure and shared with her that despite my outwardly conservative attitude I respect all people equally and that such talk does not offend me because I proudly support free Americans of all orientations. (For whatever reason the patriotism angle was really going well here, I'm going to try and use it more in the future).

After a moment of silence she re-initiated, and so the game continued. After the whole trans incident our date was losing focus and so I decided to give it some structure. At this point we had been going on two hours. Easily an hour longer than I expected. I suggested we go out to lunch. It was here gentlemen that I connected with her emotionally.

I opened up to her. I explained to her that I was only an asshole because I did not like getting hurt. It's not not true but I may have embellished a bit. She said that sentiment was mutual and she was really happy that I had opened up to her in that way and that it kind of made up for my early behavior.

I suggested we watch some netflix at me place (College Chicks + netflix = game). I held her hand as I drove us back to my place. I squeezed she squeezed back.

We sat down on my couch and before I could even put something on we were wrapped up making out with each other. We got fairly intimate but ultimately I could not break through her LMR. She assured me she wanted it, but I'd have to wait until next time. We watched some more netflix and I drove her home later in the afternoon.

Not bad for what was supposed to be a quick coffee in the morning.

Overall my performance was sloppy. Yes I did get what I set out to do, but I made plenty of rookie mistakes. I ran my mouth when it would have been better to shut up and I did not have any material prepared. I think it worked because I was very good at displaying value, and because I already had some credibility due to me being in a fraternity, and her not being in a sorority. Ultimately I need to work on some canned material if I ever want to cold approach those 10s.

Another lesson I learned was that approaching girls on Facebook is a dangerous game. Messaging a girl out of the blue will make it seem like a booty call, however it was not a deal breaker after I showed her a legitimately fun time and disarmed her suspicions by connecting emotionally.

I plan on seeing her next week.

Any feedback is appreciated even if it's just ways to make my reports more interesting.

-ApolloSavage