| You came up and she thought you were a sales person. She could tell you wanted something from her. Then when she figured out you weren't a sales person she wasn't interested and left.
I'm guessing the problem is inexperience and calibration. For instance, if she starts walking away because she doesn't like you, then you shouldn't have expected or even asked for a phone number, let alone a coffee date.
I'm guessing your vibe wasn't right. And you are also very wordy. Nervous? I'd also guess that when you spoke it was very fast. I bet she never even came to a full stop. You were also likely fidgety and didn't make eye contact. You also called her "cute" twice in as many sentences. It's lame and she would have obviously heard it before.
I don't think you understand how hard cold approach is. You can't just stop a girl and expect numbers and dates just from asking her name and telling her she is cute. BUT, saying she looks sad was the right direction IMHO.
Here is how I would have done the same approach."
"Me: Excuse me Can i Stop you for one minute .I won't take your too much time."
"Hey there. woah, stop! Talk a minute."
"Me: No Actually I was wondering you are so cute and walking very sad on street just want to know your name?"
"Jeeze... you're cute. Why you looking so sad? What's your name?"
You just need practice. It doesn't sound like you even expected her to stop.
How many approaches have you done? If the first thing out of her mouth is "what do you want?" you have a problem. A BIG one. And that you expect success from approaches like these mean that you really need to practice. That's all really. I bet there are body language issues, confidence problems, the works. Good thing that this is exactly what PUA is designed to fix. It seems to me that you saw some sasha daygame videos then went out to work the material without the mindset that is required.
Don't feel bad, as I said, this shit is hard. My first approaches I can't even remember because I was so nervous. But, like learning to walk, you need to fall a lot first. You approached, which is awesome. And don't get discouraged. Getting tones of these reactions, or lack of rather, is what is meant by experience. Believe it or not, it becomes normal for you. Like for myself, when I go "Hey there. Woah, stop. Talk a minute" I'm reading where her attention is, the expression on her face, IS she stopping or am I going to start walking with her.... and on and on. But that only works with experience and being calm. If you are just struggling to spit out your material, and repeating yourself, then that is going to be hard. Frankly, you need to see more chicks walking away from you so that you know what it looks like before it happens.
How many of these approaches have you done? What experience do you have and what have you tried. As best you can, describe what you are thinking and feeling when you are doing this.
I have plenty of issues and sticking points at PUA, but my street approaches are fuck'n dope. I know this, and so when I go in it is with all the confidence a girl needs to see if she is going to stop and be interested. We can get you there.
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