I am not too familiar with the PUA community so let me go off of what I think I know.. action reports and feedback, right? Correct me if I'm wrong of course

So, met the girly at an event (along with my girl). She was shy, her first time out to that (mine too) so over the course of the night I chatted her up a bit and kept moving on. Eventually I led her into a fun people pile, felt up her chest a bit, got her contact info, and a few days later lined up a date with her. I should be more specific here, she asked if it was a date, I said lets see how it goes and that I don't like to overthink things. (I'm a bit older than her and she seemed skittish - and also the truth, I don't 'date' and haven't since my first gf. Silly custom) All well and good, flirted with her a bit on the way to the bookstore where we were meeting up and she seemed fine with that and played back. She sat next to me rather than across from me, but throughout she often had her hands over her chest... but just as often she'd be stretching and keeping the stretch so I could have a good look. We chatted a bit... slightly awkward at times and low-chemistry even when talking about sex and such.. but not bad, felt like the way you would chat with an old friend. A bit of sexual teasing here and there, only touched her shoulder twice as I got up... Part way through she had to finish some work for the next day so she pulled out her laptop (I had said we were going to meet and do our own thing in each other's company), and as she worked and I read we kept chatting a little bit, joking, she pulled me over to show me some of the stuff she was working on... So it never became weird or 'bad'... but never escalated either. And yes, I did tease her about various stuff (playful negging), did sink into my own book to.. what was the word? punish her? At the end of it all I took her home and again, casual conversation even when circling around sex and relationships and such, hugged goodbye... and then she told me she'd see me at a future event. I casually suggested perhaps we'd meet up again and she didn't respond yes or no. Haven't messaged her yet, can't even figure out if I should bother or not, though she seems like a nice enough girl, though I'd certainly enjoy having her as a casual playmate (and I get the impression she's ok with those kinds of relationships).

Thoughts? Discuss

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It's a basic pacing and order of operations issue, which is common. You created initial attraction and got physical quickly, that's grea, you should have tried to f-close her that night. Barring that, you should have tried to maintain her emotional state of attraction and hope for a meet up with sexual undertones, like late night drinks at the lounge set up by being super flirty and teasing whilst maintaining your initial value.

Your big mistake was moving into rapport and daygame, friend like activities when you have no idea how compatible you are non-sexually. You gave her the chance to use her logical brain (always bad) to judge you and likely raise ASD flags. In the future, when you escalate quickly with a woman, continue the sexual escalation trajectory or bail if she wont comply. Trying to regress these girls to comfort/rapport dates after getting sexually physical rarely works. If you actually had sex with her then this rapport/comfort seeking behavior would be more acceptable at some level.

Hmm.. that makes total sense.. looks like I have a lot of studying to do, thank you! Happy to be on this site already

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