| Hello lads and mates,
My name is El Berndo, I'm 24 years old and currently studying in a foreign country in a city of about 700000 inhabitants for yet another half a year. In the past I have been very shy, for example I didn't dare to push the stop button in a public bus when I've been about twelve. I've worked on that though, and was able to give great public speeches and talk to strangers when I turned 18.
However, the shyness remained with girls. Even though I'm a great dancer in clubs, even though my looks are not bad at all, even though I'm witty and eloquent, still it wasn't possible for me to just approach girls. I've had three girlfriends of 6/6/3 months respectively until now, and it was basically them who made the first step.
Worse than not being able to approach girls, I often actively ignored or even rejected advances of girls, not just of any girls, but those of very good looking ones as well. So effectively I had good prerequisites but almost no experience at all.
This year, more exactly starting from the third of january, I've made a new years resolution to stop taking any drugs for a month, as I used to smoke, drink on parties and smoke weed occasionally, also dropped caffeine. Also I started doing yoga every day, and I've managed to do that except for three days, and a week ago I started lifting three times a week as well.
One of the resolutions was also to finally start learning how to pick up girls. I knew about pickup since maybe six years, and I found it's principles very interesting, you know, how you should behave with a girl and how you should view them, not as princesses who are far better than you etc. And apart from seeing it as too mechanic and uncreative, I first and foremost stayed a desk jockey. However, at the beginning of january a friend of mine told me about a video of Richard La Ruina he saw concerning night game in a club, so I watched that. Quickly I discovered the other videos on the 21 Convention channel and became hooked on them, by now I almost watched 20 hours of video I guess. And I was motivated to actually put that theory to use. So let's turn to my experiences so far.
I don't know if any of you have the experience of quitting smoking or drinking and then going to a club, but basically the following happened to me. You know, usually I always felt at ease in clubs since I can dance quite well, speak nicely with a deep voice and so on, but also the first thing I usually did was getting a beer or a drink and smoke a cigarette.
The first time I entered a club while not taking anything I got really nervous, I saw all the people drinking beer, shots and smoking cigarettes, the music was too loud to have a good conversation with my mate, and I became really anxious. I had to leave after an hour. The second time I got terribly anxious as well, for about an hour, I was actually in the club with a friend of mine who also is a beginner in pickup. Needless to say, I had a horrible approach anxiety and did nothing else than to maneuvre myself and my mate around on the dancefloor to be near girls. At some point, though, I suddenly had some kind of epiphany. I used to play a lot of strategy games, and suddenly I saw the flow of tipsy people in the light of social dynamics and as a form of strategy game which needs to be understood and mastered. I think that the cause of the horrible anxiety was simply the fact that I did not know what to do with myself in a club, not having the occupation of drinking or smoking and not being used to approaching girls. I still have/had this anxiety when entering a club, but it lasted successively shorter each time and got less frightening.
From this moment on, I slowly started to break through my barriers, which included: approaching girls, approaching girls on the dancefloor, "dancing at a girls ass" and the various closes. I'll summarise some of my successes in chronological order, as far as I remember them:
- In general I've approached quite a number of girls compared to "back then", got some numbers
- Used the nonverbal approach mentioned in La Ruinas video to dance with a HB7
- Started dancing with a group of three girls, one of them (HB5.5) threw herself on me and we made out, but she neither kissed nor danced nice so I quit
- Had a nice conversation with HB8 and #close. Went on a date with her but I haven't been seductive enough and she's kinda boring
- Danced with a HB7.5 I know, she showed very strong sexual interest but I chickened out
- A week later I met and danced with this HB7.5 again, but she didn't show sexual interest. I did however seduce her HB6.5 friend after she left
- Danced with some girls and later had a sexual chat with a HB7 from a course of mine who I danced with, might lead to some action
- Today I'll have a date with some chick (HB7.5-8?) I chatted up in online gaming
There's also this special case on which I would really like to hear some opinions. The vast majority of the time I experienced the same thing which is being said in some videos, that girls tend to talk a lot, but that it's a good sign since she feels comfortable in your presence or something. However, once I've approached two girls (both HB7-8) just on my way to leave the club. Suddenly, out of fucking nowhere, I got in an almost Sasha Daygame like high energy mode, talked a lot and fast, of course funny as well, made them laugh etc, got their numbers. Started texting with them.
The day before yesterday I met one of these girls, and first of all I have to note that I'm proud of myself of how well I handled the date, we made out for example, the videos helped a lot. The interesting thing is, that again I became very energised and talked a lot, more than her possibly.
Does any of you know this effect and could give some thoughts on it? It must me subconscious, because consciously my knowledge would say to let the women talk more, but I don't know man, I just felt that I have to share those things I was saying and she was really enjoying everything I said, and I enjoyed that she was appreciating them. It's weird, somehow it confirmes this view that a woman is the muse of a man.
In any case, this year is awesome and I have no idea how much more awesome it may get. I already meet a girl almost every day, today probably I'll meet even two... I have to get used to this business, it's quite stressful.
Thanks for reading this "blog", now that this summary is done I'll update it with more detailed reports.
Cheers,
El Berndo
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