Wednessday night was the ultimate learning experience. That of course mean that I haven't closed anyone. I'm used to things somewhat going offtrack, but this time, NOTHING went according to plan.
As I said, I was to have a beer with two girls on the balcony. Well that happened... for about 5 minutes, before a dude and the girl invited us to the party on the 5th floor. There were a bunch of people there, and everyone went to the 8th floor to start drinking games and there were already some people there too. We decided that it's dark and windy, so it wasn't a good place to play card drinking games, and I told them that the studying room on the 4th floor is empty, so we ended up there. At this point, my planned targets have already left the party but I didn't care since I had many others. There were about 5 other guys, and 15 or so girls. Nice ratio, I thought
Then the drinking games started and social dynamics started developing. This caused me several problems. First, the set was never together(this made the game difficult too). Everyone was just talking in 3-4 sets and it was impossible to gather everyone together. The other problem was that most of the other dudes had serious game. Especially one of them. He was a good looking, tall, well-dressed and groomed guy with a very confident attitude and body language, who I first suspected to be just a badass natural, but later as I was inspecting him I got very suspicious about he being a PUA. Let me list you the things that gave me this suspicion:
1) A textbook neg he threw at one of the girls(hand-model neg)
2) He asks a girl: "Are you nervous?"
Girl goes: "Yes, a bit"
He says: "I could tel. I can read body language very well".
3) Girls are talking about some chump that hit on them. Dude goes:
"You know I could tell that he didn't know what he was doing from the start of this story. Because he didn't even know the most important thing, that if there are more girls in the group, you need to choose one and then isolate her from her group"
There were also some boyfriend destroyers he threw at one of his targets but those could actually be naturals. However, noone talks like this^^, unless he's read up.
Nevermind. So I knew that this guy is going to rule the party, and that some of the other guys too are forces to count with. Unfortunately I got between the mother-Hen(more on her later) and a very ugly chick. I mean... I really wanted to try out my skills just for the sake of experience, and I tried not caring about her looks, but she was just soooooo off, that I couldn't concentrate and I could bet that not a single sentence of mine was congruent. Some people had difficulties with understanding the rules of the drinking game(which is very surprising, because I played it the first time, and I got it...), I used these opportunities to take some advantage and take the lead.
After we were finished with the drinking game, we went to a club. And this is when the night started to become brutal. On the way, I started chatting up a girl, and it went pretty well, altough it was quite casual talk, I was planning on escalating in the club, but then again, this plan was obliterated later.
So we arrived at the club, and started dancing. So let me tell you... I'm a horrible dancer. But it's been quite a while that I don't care about this, and that I can still escalate farely well. So what was the problem? First, my new target was not keen on dancing at all. With anyone. She was just moving back and forth and sitting down sometimes. One of these times I approached her but I was blown out. It was clear that she was in a bad mood and that she didn't like the place at all. Later she got lost with one of the alpha guys. When later I asked him whether there was something between them he told me that she was cold as ice and it would have been impossible.
Now for the dancing part. Here three things ruined my chances of closing.
First, the PUA guy. He was there, having fun, dancing with all of the girls, high fiving people, talking to people, and well... he was the fucking party. I just didn't stand a chance against him. Also note that the other guys were pretty great dancers and knew how to party as well. What highered my chances was there was an ultimate chump among us. He clearly wasn't having a good time, and he didn't fucking notice when miss ice-queen hit on him. Yeah, it seems like she likes awkward dudes. It happens.
Now for the second chance-breaker, it was the mother-hen. She was not the regular fatty. She was actually very hot, but she was clearly the leader among the girls. I actually wanted to start dancing with her. Not even hitting on her, I REALLY just wanted to have fun, and she refused it. Twice. It was over... Get shot down by the mother-hen you're fucked.
Third, and this is that made that night really mind-blowing. I've told you about how we had AMOGs in the group, how we had an ultimate alpha guy(really...I don't think I've seen anyone so confident and in the moment, in his own reality in person), and that we had almost 3 times more girls than guys. Guess what... NONE of the girls got hooked. None of them... Not even a kiss. I was shocked. Because.... usually when I go to party with such a big group, it just splits up in 2 hours or so and everyone except for the fatties and the chumps find someone either from or outside from the group to make-out with. And this time noone hooked-up. And what was extremely surprising that the superman dude I was talking about has also failed to close the girl. She picked a two-set right from the beginning and he played it magnificently. Turns out one of them had a boyfriend and he just says "That's cool" and moves on. And he didn't take away any attention from her either, he just gave the other girl more. And by giving more attention I don't mean seeking approval, I mean gaming her more. It was just brutal, the girls were slaughtering us.
Now for my part. There's not much to say. Dave Riker talks about the steps of speed seduction, they goes like this:
1) Opener
2) Getting and keeping interest
3) Directing the interaction
4) Close.
According to these steps I got shot down each and every time either at step 1 or 2. And basically... all the other guys did too.
Unfortunately, most of NLP use applies in step 3. So apart from some subtle suggestions which had little to no effect I couldn't try too much stuff. Only with the girl I was talking with. I got her pretty excited with a pattern. I don't remember it exactly, it was quite spontaneous, but it was something like this:
-Have you ever felt really excited about something? Excited in a good way. Like meeting an old friend, or someone special.
-Yeah, of course.
-Isn't it a wonderful feeling? I mean... when you FEEL EXCITED, it's like everything just becomes faster. And everything becomes more colourful, more vivid, more...exciting. Just as you were on an island by completely alone. You were there helpless for a month or something and then... the rescue arrives. It's that feeling if you imagined it, what I call FEELing EXCITED.
So this was as far as I got. But I have gained an invaluable amount of experience just on this single night, the only thing that annoys me is that I really wanted to dedicate this journal to NLP and Speed Seduction, and so far it seems like a harder job to do so than I thought.
CHAT
. So yeah I experimented a little with one pattern but the circumstances(other guests, an idiot raging because he left his bag...), even if it was a simple one just to evoke a state of happiness, didn't let me do it properly and effectively. But, hopefully tonight if I can still manage to go out(which would be a miracle btw...) maybe I'll have better luck.
