My confidence really fluctuates which affects my personality. I am in my mid 30's to talking so girls is not new to me, but I certainly don't have it sussed unfortunately.

I have a bit of a rough and rugged look so am not sure what girls who are physically attracted to me expect from me when talking to me. I have a bit of a bad boy thing in my personality.. but when I lack confidence it doesn't come across.
I was drinking last Saturday and found myself getting a lot more confident with the drink (as we all do).
I wasn't drunk but my inhibitions started to fade and my chat became edgy/funny/risky/rude as it has done a number of times in the past..

normally here is a conversation when sober or not feeling confident.

me: Hi
her: hi
me: so who are you with tonight
her: umm.. some friends over there
me: how you finding it
her.. er.. yeah fine and u
me: yeah its ok
and so on and so on..

result = fucking boredom and loss of interest.

Here was me on Sat night after some vodka's..

me: (staring at girl) What the fuck
her: excuse me
me: what the fucking fuck (take a sip of my drink)
her: (looks a bit puzzled)
me: I am so fucking angry
her: Why?
me: because its not easy being sexy.. everyone just wants me for my body and face.. they just want me for sex and to be me.. its not far.. you better give me some sympathy
her: (Laughs) oh yeah. so difficult for you
me: whats you name?
her: Sarah
me: That is some fuck of a boring name Sarah.. Im going to call you funny face.
her: (laughs but also in a bit of shock)
me: Sarah.. I'll bet you are crap in bed.. but the important thing is that you are nice person.. and that's why people will always like you
her: I am not crap in bed!
me: Prove it
her: No.. im not going to prove it to you
me: good cause you would be crap anyway.. why is everyone so ugly in here tonight?.. you're ok'ish.. but I don't know how they all got in
her: that's soo rude
me: I am a bit of a muthafuka funny face.. but I am starting to like you a little.. so you might be safe..

(cant remember who the rest went.. but I gave her my phone.. she put her number in and we have been texting since)

Anyone got any thoughts on the above?.. similar happen with you? I am not saying you need to be drunk by any account.. but it just feels to me that when you are confident like that you can throw in anything.
If anyone is reading that above and thinking 'that is not a normal conversation nor the right thing to do'.. then maybe that's why it works.. I was different.. who else is going to have that type of conversation with her that night?..

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here to learn.. thats all.

It`s a trap! Don`t fall for the motherfucker approach!

I believe to be Dr. House for a long time now, trust me; not the ego you want to grow on you. Actually, you want to destroy that fucker.

I told you so: it`s a trap.


You can elude boredom and not being an asshole. Find the way =)

I appreciate what you are saying. The way I say it.. it comes off quite well. More funny than angry/arsehole... but of course there is an element of it. I just don't seem to be very good at the other way.
I have had girls who I have tried to have a normal/date type conversation with.. they walk off.

When they see me in arsehole mode.. they become interested again.. I wish I wasn't like that

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I think this is when girls confuse real confidence with just being a dick to her. If you remember this it should become clear:

Chase dreams, not women.

Girls don't want you to chase them, they want to be apart of your greatness and support you. When guys treat women like queens their not showing much direction in life. When you care LESS about her, and MORE about what you want in life women fall into your world easier, because they want to be apart of it and where you're going.

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Two words: Carpe Diem