About me:
I am a 24 year old full time first shift (9-5) worker. I live in the suburbs of Connecticut(USA) and would like to increase my ability to meet women during both the day and the night. I have read some pick up material during the last few months, but I am a firm believer that going out in the field is the best way to improve ones ability to meet women. I plan to go through a maturation process of being able to effectively communicate with women and not caring about what others think. At the same time I would like to become a more sociable person. I plan to minimize approach anxiety and just see where this odyssey takes me. I encourage any criticism and advice that can help me improve my game throughout the process.

Friday May 18, 2012
I had numerous drinks this night so I can't recall the night in detail (and yes I understand gaming should be done sober). I started the night at a local bar just to hang out with friends. This woman takes my fedora off my head puts it on herself and starts trying to dance with me (its not a dance bar). I just grab her and say “who are you” and tease her about not being able to keep up with me on a dance floor. I can't recall what else was said. I'm fairly certain she was drunk, but she randomly gave me my fedora back and went back to her friends. I ended up going to a local club afterwards, but only for about an hour and managed to make a few approaches. I tend to go direct just about every time. I managed to approach a three set, but it was loud and I could not hear anything. I ended up talking to one of them and isolated her to the patio fairly quickly. I used a lot of kino and we kissed as well as fluff talked. I didn't really neg her since she was not really an hb so I went with more compliments. I tried to get her to leave with me, but she said she had a curfew. So I just got her number and moved on. I have poor recollection of other approaches from the night unfortunately.

Sunday May 20, 2012
I managed to go direct on a hired gun at a clothing store today who was folding men's clothes. I opened direct with something like “Hi, your cute..... I'm Smooth(handshake)". We fluff talked about how shes new to Connecticut and will be starting college soon. I told her since the beaches open next week and she doesn't know too many people she should come to the beach with me and friends. Her co-workers noticed the interaction which I think made her a little uncomfortable. I managed to number close, but no real conspiracy was built and I don't think enough rapport was created for a day two result out of it, but who knows. I also don't think I negged her and I definitely did't make her qualify herself during the interaction. Any suggestions on how to go about mid-game for these types of approaches would be appreciated.

I don't really plan to use the hb 1-10 system anytime soon. Right now I am content with the binary system where you label a woman as either a 1 or 0 since I don't care for bragging rights. Either you are interested in her or you aren't.... (compliments to DJ_Z on the idea).

good job on going direct still trying to gather the balls to do that

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Wednesday May 23, 2012
I was at the store and this woman was looking at protein bars. I approach and open indirectly asking her which protein bars she likes. We fluff talk about how she works out at home and how she just got back from college. We also talked a little bit about the beach. I did not make her qualify herself or neg her, which could have helped significantly. The interaction was short since I was in a hurry for work so I just ask her for her number and she complies. I text her a little later, but no response.

Thursday May 24, 2012
I was at the store and walked by this girl. I said something along the lines of “Hey your cute, but I have to ask you; are at least eighteen?” She said no and I just said “well nice meeting you” and moved on. She did respond positively, but I noticed how young she looked once I got close to her and made the approach.

Friday May 25, 2012
I went to a bar and ended up talking to a two set with my wingman pretty much all night. I kept the girl I was talking to very entertained. I did some negging on her looks and a lot of qualifying with respect to her likes and occupation. I managed to do a lot of kino as well. Her friend had to keep assuring me that this girl has a boyfriend since I was doing so well. I really stayed with her for the practice and I felt like it payed off. I was not sober for the interaction so I cannot give myself much credit. It was about a one hour set since we got to the bar late and my wingman number closed her friend.

Saturday May 26, 2012
I was shopping at a clothing store and see a woman shopping for clothes. On my way to the dressing room I decide to approach and go direct. She was friendly and we had mutual friends, which was good for comfort. It was hard to neg her or qualify her because she sort of brushed them off as if she knew I was shit testing her. The interaction went well and I told her we should go jogging sometime since I have to train for a 5k and she just finished one. She agreed and I take her phone, put my number in it and send myself a text. Is this the best way to number close instead of just putting it in my phone? Anyway I ended up forgetting about it and deleted all of my texts to make room in my phone before I could store her number. A dumb move on my part, but these things happen to the best of us.

Monday May 28, 2012
I went to the beach today with numerous friends, but the line was too long for the bar so I decided to go solo and flirt with girls on the beach while the line dwindle. The first set were college students and I thought it was funny how the people around me saw what I was doing, but the interaction went well. I managed to try the “marry, murder, fuck” routine, but the girls said they saw no men there as potential suitors. The other approaches were young high school girls tanning since most people over 21 were probably going to the bar. It was nothing, but entertainment for me since I was not sober.

For beach sarging on big groups I think it could help if I isolate one of the girls like asking to go for a walk or something once I build comfort with the group. Or I may try number closing one girl and offer to set up a beach day for my friends and her friends(the group) to go to the beach together. At the beach I feel it's more effecient if you take their number down instead of asking for their phone to put your number in it then text yourself because it was an issue for some girls who didn't have their phone conveniently located near them. Any thoughts or suggestions on beach sarging would be appreciated.

Wednesday May 30, 2012
At the store a woman walks by me so I say “excuse me.” She says sorry then I say “no your adorable, I have to meet you.” I say “Hi I'm Smooth and shake her hand.” We fluff talk about the beach and then her friend walks over. I talk to them both, but then the first girls phone went off so she picked it up and was talking loudly. She was making it hard for me have a good conversation with the second girl who showed indicators of interest. I tell them I'm not really from around here and are looking for people to hang out with. I ask for the first girls number, but she claims her boyfriend would not be okay with a random guy texting her trying to hangout despite I made it clear that it would be a group hangout. I say okay so how about facebook. She states she does not have one. At this point she started to bore and annoy me so I say “oh I bet your boyfriend controls you and made you delete your facebook.” She basically got pissed and walked away, pulling her friend with her. An odd interaction nonetheless, but I was not really into it. But I should have kept my focus on the second girl clearly.

Thursday May 31, 2012
I ended up going out to a club in the city tonight and made many approaches. But they were all either disinterested or removed themselves from the situation. I went direct as usual with something like “hey your adorable, I had to come meet you, hi I'm Smooth.” I felt like it was a male dominated scene and many people knew each other there. But there is no excuses, but I am happy that I approached.

Friday June 01, 2012
At the gas station today I make an approach on the girl on the next pump. I go direct and shake her hand then the guy parked behind me starts yelling saying he's in a hurry. I tell her I'll be right back and tell him I have to get my change from the pump since I filled up the tank. I thought she was going to leave, but she stayed in her car despite I had to wait in a line of four people before getting my change. So I go up to her at the window of her car and the guy behind instantly gets pissed and gets out of his car threatening me. So I tell her hold on while I move my car forward to please this angry gentleman(fortunately no one ever went behind her to get to her pump). She complied so then I go back to her car for quick fluff talk and I tell her I'll text her. She hands me her phone so I can call my phone to store her number. After she leaves I apologize to the guy whom I had waiting and he accepted my apology. Such a dramatic way for a number close and I'm extremely surprised she waited for me to continue to flirt with her.

Tuesday June 05, 2012
I was at the store and this woman walks by me. I stop her and open directly. She introduces herself and I could tell she was flattered. She tells me she is married and thanks me then walks away. She looked young, but this approach made me feel good for some reason and it was done early in the morning before work. I'm still trying to get very comfortable opening directly. I know some people have major discussions on which is a better way to open, directly or indirectly. Some people feel opening direct verse indirect is situational.

Wednesday June 06, 2012
I was at the store and this girl was looking at something. I approach direct and I could tell she was extremely uncomfortable and wanted to leave. She twisted her body the opposite way from me and just had this “creeped out” look on her. So I just said have a nice day and moved on. I feel these types of rejections will be common and I just have to move on.

Thursday June 07, 2012
I went to the club and chatted up a couple of two sets. Neither were interested in anything more than an acquaintance. I got one facebook close. One of the girls I probably could have escalated on since she invited me to the dance floor with her, but I was not in the mood for it.

Saturday June 09, 2012
I did not make any approaches today, but I ended up going to the club with four female friends. I was paying attention to how guys approached them. They would just try and dance with them or do an excessive amount of kino too fast and creep them out. Not one guy did I see try to approach directly and then isolate his target. I noticed if two of the girls were dancing with a guy the other two would feel left out and ruin the interaction. This is why I feel isolation is important, but be comfortable enough with the woman's friends so that they comply, which does not take long. I payed attention to what the girls were doing as well. They were giving signals that they were open for an approach such as dancing with each other and looking around. It was definitely a bit of a learning experience, but if you have any suggestions on dealing with large sets feel free to share.

Tuesday June 12, 2012
I went to the mall today and my first approach was a warm up. I stopped a two set walking by and opened with “this is really random, but I just want you to know that your both adorable.” They said thanks and I moved on. Then I approached a girl walking by and used a similar opener. She was not interested and our talk was dull. She eventually ejected herself from the conversation. My final approach was a girl that runs a booth in the mall. I went direct and she was flattered. This was a good thirty minute set, but I did not number close since her friend(another employee from the mall) joined the conversation and made things difficult for me.

Good work number closing Smooth! It looks to me like your big sticking point is really building that attraction once you start talking to them. Have you thought about the indirect approach in clubs? The direct approach doesnt seem to work to well from what I am noticing. Dont forget to pay attention to everyone in the set even when you go direct. Some of your post werent very detailed so from what I read it seemed like you were always leaving out the obstacle in the conversations. Control the frame and then go for the kills. Even though you have some sticking points I can say you have way more number closes than me but im working on social proof and networking with groups of women. You should try it with the group of women you went out with. Befriend the mother Hen.