Well to start off there was this girl n one of my classes who i guess liked me alot. Everyday 1 of her friends was like "you should really talk 2 ____ she really likes u." so i got her number and she txt's me every freakin day and on more than 5 occasions she makes a comment like "so wen r me nd u gonna hook up? but i jus blow her off because i wasnt really interested. Also her reputation wasnt tha greatest, she wasnt a whore or ne thing jus not that good. But then tha question came up "r u a virgin." i had 2 b honest i was like "yea" but she said that it didnt matter 2 her bcause she was looking 4 a guy 2 settle down with. So after a while she starts growin on me so i finnally ask her out. She's like "yea of course." but then that night i txt her "wat u doin 2nite?" she says "im n trouble im not allowed 2 go out." so i stop txtin go 2 my friends party and guess who i c there? her! so i break up wit her on tha spot.


Did she react like this bcause she felt i was 2 good or somthin? Next time a girl asks me should i lie? ne suggestions 4 tha future will help lol

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im assuming by the way you type that you're young? well either way, try not to make yourself so available, make her want to see you rather than you chasing after her..for example when you asked her to go out you could not have text her the same night and let her hang waiting for you to specify a date. she obviously had understood that you wanted to have sex or what not.. have you spoken since? are you going to bother with her anymore?

you dont have to lie to get a girl, if anything being straight up brutally sometimes can get you places.. just try to make it seem as if you're not needy..that you're a 'busy' man..

hope that helps abit

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well that was a WHILE ago like 3 months. We still talk but as friends. I just posted this 2 get advice 4 future relationships.

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Sounds like you went straight for the nuclear option long before you had any need to.

I wouldn't make a big deal about something like her saying she's staying in and then you seeing her out. Sure it looks like she lied, but maybe there's a logical explanation. Maybe her curfew was lifted since she spoke to you, maybe she decided at the last minute to sneak out, maybe she wasn't sure how to explain it to you and just said nothing. People that age do stupid stuff, sometimes for no apparent reason, and you have to give them a fool's pardon and put it down to them being young and inexperienced in social graces.

The adult way to deal with that sort of thing is to not take it too seriously. Treat it as an opportunity to neg her. I would have playfully teased her about it, I'd have walked up with a big smile on my face and said "BUSTED! Looks like you're not in trouble anymore, eh?" with a nudge on the elbow and a funny look going with the eyebrows. She would have been on her knees looking for forgiveness, the SPAM would have been positive, and you would have been totally in control. Then you'd have changed the subject like the whole episode was no big deal and taken it from there.

If you went in there with all guns blazing and being serious about it, that would have made a negative SPAM and made you look like a jerk in front of her friends.

An AFC takes things to heart and lets women get him down.
A PUA doesn't give a shit because women don't have so much control over his life that they control his moods. He is in charge, and he chooses not to get upset about stuff.