I have been doing alot of sarging lately. Trying to break away from my old AFC tendencies of spending weekends and evenings watching.....well you can guess. I reckon I can last about three weeks without a tommy. Three weeks to find another sexual partner.

This isn't proving to be easy. My greatest fear is going through long drought periods, where I just revert back to an AFC. Can't allow that to happen. This month has been quite fruitful so far, except both relationships ended way to quickly.

Still trying to figure out what I really want. Am I a relationship type of guy? (I used to think I was...but then I quickly learnt that my behaviour came off as needy and desperate). Am I a quick fling kind of guy?(I'm definitely morphing into that type and I'm getting results....even though it feels abit empty....having all these women come into your life...having fun with them....and letting them leave just as quickly....Maybe this is just the way to go for now. Whilst I'm on this personal development journey I don't really want to be locked down.

Number closed a scorching chic on Monday. We actually bounced location. She took me to her friends house and we chatted even more. Her friend said thats the first time she had ever brought any guy around. Then I left and went home.

Theres a bar that I've been frequenting to work on my social game. I could say that I have moderately good social proof. On Tuesday night, with an acquaintance, we gamed two chics. Eventually we left with them. It only ended in a number close, but on hindsight this chic was only a 5. I shouldn't really lower my standards. She's got a lovely pair of tits though....I might make an exception for this one....or maybe not. Actually I won't make an exception, and I will delete the number.

Anyway, Im meeting up with the chic from Monday night today, which is Wednesday. I'm not really up for it, but I must step out of my comfort zone.

There are other gals that I am gaming via text. One of them I stood up over the weekend. I'm slowly attempting to meet up with her. One of them I already fucked. I'm not sure which approach to take with this one, as she one of those career-minded independent types, which suits me fine, as I'm an ambitious male. As for the others I just dont want them drifting off...not yet anyway.

Anyway off to see where the evening takes me.

This is in the PUA Lounge why?

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You said it, step out of your comfort zone. If you don't, you'll eventually end up masturbating at home.

Now this chic I went out with last night is quality. Its kind of funny watch all these other guys - guys with their wives and kids - guys with their girlfriends - sneeking hungry sideways glances at her. Yep she is fucking fit. Got an ass that says 'bite me!' Breasts that demand to sucked, and lips that say 'Kiss me now' Which I did actually! And her hair is thick, rich, and luxurious; the type that just has to be pulled when you're hitting her from behind.

The night went well; we drunk alittle, ate alittle, snogged alot, and acted like most couples would on a night out. There's just one problem. This chic is gonna be expensive. Too expensive for me. She went on a diatribe about all the things her ex-lapdogs used to do for her. Buying her clothes, perfume, paying for her cab-fare every where. One idiot even gave her a monthly allowance! She claims that she has a roster of married men who she can phone at any time she wants and they'll pick her up where-ever she is and drive her to where she needs to get to. Not once did she offer to pay for a single thing. (I would have declined her offer, but I always appreciate the gesture). Now I'm not gonna pay out the arse for any woman, I don't care how sexy she is. I'm not her SPAM.
This totally changes the kind of relationship I was expecting with this chic.

Anyway afterwards I took her back to hers, cos it was closer. She gave me a mini-show, trying on all the sexy dresses in her wardrobe...(dresses other men had paid for) Then after about a hour and a half she asked me to leave. No sweat. I left. I'm not gonna initiate contact with this one. Let her simmer.

On my way home did a quick pick-up with a foreign student, whose eyes were bedazzled by the shimmering mega-hub that London is. Number closed. And then I went home.

Is this a field report? I don't understand what you are asking.

sure...the question is, how do you game a gold digger without spending an un-necessary penny?

sure...the question is, how do you game a gold digger without spending an un-necessary penny?

Did you really spend an hour and a half there watching her try on clothes? If that's what you were doing, you weren't gaming her at all. Did her stories about the things that other men bought her intimidate you? When did the kiss happen?

If a gold digger is going out with you, the trick is not entertaining the idea of her company being a monetary investment.

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from the minute we meet until we left, we were kissing, you know, just finding the right moment to pet each other and kiss and stroke each other arms shoulders, thighs.

when she was trying all those clothes the petting continued. She came out of her bedroom in a Vivian Westwood dress and i even spun her around threw her against the wall and made her give me a dirty grind.

i think she asked me to leave to see what kind of man i am. Although I wish I had taken the initiative and decided to leave on my own accord.

I'm going not to contact her first, because she is used to men turning to mush over her. She's going to have to realize that I'm the prize.

Stop embellishing the story. Just be real because how you're telling it, it makes no sense to the point of sounding like fiction. If the two of you were kissing for that long, she was turned on. If she complied by giving you a dirty grind, she was turned on. So her asking you to leave doesn't match the events you describe unless there is some exaggeration or you are leaving something out.

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Stop embellishing the story. Just be real because how you're telling it, it makes no sense to the point of sounding like fiction. If the two of you were kissing for that long, she was turned on. If she complied by giving you a dirty grind, she was turned on. So her asking you to leave doesn't match the events you describe unless there is some exaggeration or you are leaving something out.[/quote]

First of all I was there, you were not. Yes we kissed and petted the whole time, yes she gave me a dirty grind. What I mean by a dirty grind is that she was pressed against the wall gyrating her ass into my crotch....Now maybe you're one of those chaps who thinks that just because a girl french kisses you that means she is totally into you and wants to sleep with you...Not always the case mate! In the past I would have thought these signals meant that me and a woman were an item. Now I realize that a chic can give you all these things and still get rid of you in an instance. To some women, sexual petting is cheap currency, they can get it easily. Especially if they have dead-hot bodies like she has. Her actions tell me that she thinks I have potential, that I am worthy enough to be considered. But I can guarantee she will try alot more shit-tests before I get to fuck her. She told me thats shes highly sexed, and she mentioned that shes been on a number of unsatisfactory dates. When she asked me to leave I wasn't that surprised, because it actually fitted in with her character. What she did was titillating, but I'm not going to be the sucker who falls head over heels over heavy petting....Maybe you would.....My plan is just to disappear, and let her invest some mental/emotional energy into finding whats up with us. If she does that, then thats a better indication of how much she values me. Let her do some work, and if she doesn't, well fuck it, there's plenty more game out there.

Its quite surprising that you would make that comment. I originally thought that you were an experienced PUA...I stand corrected.

You seem to be forgetting that some women don't want sex on the first date as a rule. She mentioned at the start of the evening that she usually goes on 4 - 5 dates before she sleeps with a person. Most suckers don't even make it to date number two.

True, I wasn't there. There are also parts that you said that I left out and I didn't want to call you on because they were just so odd. If it happened it happened. I do know that most situations follow the same pattern and what you described was so outside of that pattern it makes it hard to believe that it happened unless something was left out or embellished. I'll give you this, if it's in her character to do these things...it sounds like she maybe a bit crazy and/or immature. But I do know enough to know that disappearing isn't going to get you what you want. Any girl who looks as good as she does, has as high expectations as she does, and has as many options as you say, doesn't care about waiting if she doesn't have emotional investment. In fact, everything as how you describe and interpret she has given you no indication that she is into you at all. Especially since kisses and touching don't mean anything.

Maybe I'm not experienced enough, but I would actually call her or text her letting know that I had fun with her and I want to do it again. That way she'd actually know that I was still interested. You guys that think everything is some kind of test kill me by overanalyzing a situation and come up with a stupid solution to try to gain some kind of advantage. Here's where you've gone wrong with your thinking. You are taking what she said as fact or even the truth. She's given you rules and you've complied with them. I know women that said that they won't have sex with a man until they are in a committed relationship with him, but ended up having sex with me without even knowing my last name.

Now that I think more about it, you probably weren't embellishing the story. You just weren't really aware of what was actually happening. Hell, your name is NaiveRomanticChump.

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lol

Hmmmm.....my ploy to let her contact me first didn't actually go according to plan. In the end I fired her a text about how brilliant my weekend was. She responded with a very dour text, something about she's glad I'm having fun.....Then it kind of fizzled out from there.

Actually as the evening of the date wore on; the more shit that came out of her mouth the less I found her attractive.

Well I'm certainly not chasing her, and since she has no intention of chasing me, thats it then. She can be some other guys problem.

But from this brief episode I have learnt that my Push and Pull techniques suck. So guess which part of my game I will make a concerted effort to improve over the next few weeks?